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How To Rekindle And Get The Sex Back In Your Marriage
Are You Having Problems In Your Marriage?
Rekindle Your Marriage
Are you living in a sexless marriage? The statistics are rising and more couples in their early 30's and forties are having sex less than 3 times per year. If you can relate to this topic what can you do? Just accept it? This is just how it is? Wrong answer. There can be many reasons why there is less sex.
Here are some excuses to look out for:
1. Too tired.
2. I don't feel attractive any longer.
3. Just had a baby.
4. The kids are home.
5. Lack and desire.
6. Women not having an orgasm.
These are just a few of the reasons. One major reason is intimacy may be lacking and communication in the marriage. If you had a healthy sex life before you need to make some changes. Complaining about it will not improve the situation. Having a date night at least once per week will help the situation. Reconnecting is key. Having a career, children, hobbies and spending less time with one another will lead to less sex in a marriage. Both people need to work at it and open communication. Men are more visual in this department. If you are a woman reading this you need to make yourself attractive. Try Victoria Secrets. Touching, kissing a nice back rub. Women need to make their man feel appreciated and loved and they will when they are having sex with the woman they love. When people feel there is something lacking it is natural to long for it else where. DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN. Every one's needs must be met when you love someone.
If you feel you have gained some weight and feel less attractive do something about it. Don't let your man or woman lack in this department because trust me there are plenty of women who would love to snatch him. Feel good about your self. Go for walks or get a treadmill. Sometimes we all go thru some depression at times. Having a baby can make anyone feel less attractive but you need to get back what you had before. .
Some men that lack sex in the marriage may resort to porn or even cyber sex. It can also lead to divorce. If a date night or other things I have mentioned have not worked than marriage counseling may be the answer. Facing the problem instead of resorting to other things is what you need to do. Ignoring it will lead to an unhappy and unfulfilled marriage. Having a healthy sex life depends on the couple. The average in a healthy marriage would be at least once per week. Not once per year. Many women do not enjoy sex because one of two things may be happening. 1. Not having an orgasm. 2. Experiencing pain during intercourse.
Open communication should be discussed and seeking a doctor in this department. Some women have a hard time achieving an orgasm and will just fake it. Open communication and talking about what he or she would like in the bedroom. This is the person you should feel the closest with and there should not be hesitation to be able to discuss it openly and honestly about it. Remember that we need to treat each other and make the other person a priority.
The Bible does say that he brings a man and a woman together as one flesh. God wants a man and a woman in a marriage to procreate but to also have your needs satisfied in a marriage. When a man or woman goes outside the marriage to have a physical or emotional affair it is a sin. If you pray about it God will not allow you to be tempted above and beyond what you can handle he will be there for you to take the temptation away. It is up to you to make the changes you cannot expect the other to change. What can you do about it to make it better. Stop doing things that will interfere with this. I know a few people who are not happy but justify their behavior. It is not ok because Sin never satisfies.
When we feel loved it will show and having an intimate and sexual relationship is key. Everyone's needs their needs to be met and not being selfish. So many people are on the net looking for something else. Work it out with the one you love and making it work. You cannot expect the other person to be happy in a sexless marriage if you think this way, You're headed for disaster. Fight for your marriage!!!!