- Gender and Relationships
Are You Making Time For Your Partner?
Do you focus your energy on something or someone which may take time away from you and your partner? Well if you highly value your relationship, you may need to make some changes.
Situation#1: Work. If you’re a big time workaholic, then it’s probably affecting your relationship. Now I know you may be thinking…“Well I have bills to pay” or “The projects on my desk are not going to get done by itself” or maybe even “I have to stay occupied to keep myself from being bored”...o.k. wait a second. Are you single...or are you in a relationship? If there are things that truly needs to be done, make sure one of those things is keeping your partner happy. You may have bills to pay or things to do– but you should make it a point to schedule (if you have to) quality time with your significant other. Plan weekend getaways, go out to your favorite restaurants, go see a movie together, etc. Communicate with your partner to find out what he/she would like to do with you.
Situation #2: Family/Friends. Whether it’s friends, children, cousins, or siblings, we love spending time with them We love hanging out, or taking the kids to as many fun places as possible, or just being able to relax with them. Now that may be all well and good, but even if your partner is with you many of those times, they are not getting the quality time with you that they deserve. The best thing to do in this situation is to be aware. Does it seem as though you’re sort of neglecting your partner? Are you doing too much in a family or group setting with him/her? Sometimes you need to have that one-on-one time with your significant other to keep him/her satisfied as well.
Situation #3: Hobbies. Are you spending too much alone time doing the things that only you like to do? Then you should think about whether you really want to be in a relationship or not. Remember, you’re not single...you’re in a relationship– and you need to invest more time into it than you think. Even though you absolutely should have some alone time to do the things that interest you, you should also devote a good amount of time to doing activities with your partner also. Even if your partner is not vocal about the neglect that he or she may be feeling, it’s definitely on their brain.
So work on making your relationship great now, so it won’t be an issue later.