Are You More Alike Than You Think
I think everyone has a few people that they have a "take it or leave it attitude" about, I know I do.
Those people haven't necessarily done anything to me, they just hit that nerve. Sometimes it's a family member - I know, I'm terrible, but at least I admit it - and sometimes it's just an acquaintance. I can't even put a finger on it but it just makes me want to grit my teeth.
I recently had the bad luck of being in a room with one of my favorites - oh joy. There wasn't a good way to get out of it, so grin and bear it.
Whatever.... I'm Not Listening
I have an innate ability to block people out. Ask anyone that knows me. You can have an entire conversation with me - and I will answer you too - and I will not have a clue what you really said. I do it all the time. Most of the time I don't even realize I am doing it until by some miracle something you said flicks the switch.
And then there are just the times when I block you out so well that I won't answer you at all. I don't even know that you are talking. I'm sorry and it's not like I am doing it on purpose. I am just somewhere else at the time - recalling a book, flying, playing the "what if" game in my head - I have a lot of stuff going on up there even though it doesn't look like it. And if I am totally focused on something else, well, forget it - you are not there.
That's not to say that I can't pay attention because I can. We can have a meaningful conversation and I can quote you on it, days, weeks, months later. But, if you are one of those people on that list I just can not stay focused on you.
I Did NOT Just Hear That!
Well, this time I figured I would just be a little rude and keep clicking away on my keyboard - hey, I have hubs to write! It's not like I was the only person to talk to anyway.
So I'm doing a little hub hopping (don't care for the new interface) when a few words are starting to trickle in - and I am not liking what I am hearing.
I am now making a conscience effort to ignore the conversation. Tap, tap, tap and click, click, click ..... and no I did not just hear that because if I did then I have a real problem. That little voice in my head just responded with a "me too". No, that is not allowed. I have nothing in common with this person - I can't!
Now that little voice is picking up.... oh, I liked that book too - yeah, I do that too - that's what happened to me too!
I am seriously NOT liking all these "Too" things going on here. How can I? I absolutely can not in any way shape or form have that much in common with this person. No, No, No.
Me Too Again & Again & Again
It's time to drop the mouse and go see what the topics are here because if it turns out that what my little inner voice has been saying is right, well then I need to hear it completely. I'm not sure I like the idea of this because now I might have to re-think how I view this person.
I hate having to admit that we have anything in common, but once I decided to settle in and join the conversation it turned out there were an awful lot of things this person and I could agree on and even talk about. Not that I am going to go out of my way here any time soon. I mean, this person has been in the peripheral zone of my life for years and that works for me. But maybe, and that's a big maybe, the next time I have to be around them it will be a little easier to actually listen to them. Now if I could just find a way to change their voice.