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Are You Secretly in Love?
Are You Secretly in Love?
- by Jenn
My Dearest Love-
I never ever want to keep secrets from you.
But this is one secret I cannot share.
I love you with all my heart,
And never want to do anything to hurt you.
But if I told you this one little thing,
I am not sure how you would take it.
I love you so much and I am not willing to take the chance on opening my mouth,
And scaring you away,
Never in my life have I ever felt this way.
You are my one and only.
You are the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with.
You are the one I want to marry,
To fall asleep in your arms-
To wake up to in the morning.
But how do I tell you all this,
Not knowing how you would react.
You are my Dearest Love-
I never ever want to keep secrets from you,
But I know that this is one secret that I cannot share with you-
At least for now.
Have you ever been secretly in love with someone and are afraid to tell? You spend every waking hours thinking and fantasizing about him or her and even in your dreams that person shows up. When you are with that person, you do not want the time to end, and when it does, you watch him or her walk away, and perhaps you whisper softly “I love you.”
What should you do if this happens to you? Do you confront the person and let your feelings be known? Or, do you keep it to yourself and suffer the pain and longing? If you choose to let the person know, think long and hard before you make your feelings known. Be certain that it is not a crush. Is the person single? You would not want to ruin a relationship now, would you? If the person is available, then be honest and straight-forward. Be brave and ask the person if he or she wants to go out with you on a date, somewhere private. Maybe you could start by telling how much you admire him or her and that you have developed deep feelings. Follow these positive statements with expressing your love in whatever way you feel best. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you." Then ask if the feeling is mutual. Give the person time to respond, and listen to what he or she has to say.
Be prepared mentally and emotionally for a “no”. If you are hoping for an "I love you" in return, what if the feeling is not mutual, can you handle it?
Decide if you are ready to bare your heart and be that vulnerable. If you think that you are, then go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky.
Do you tell, or do you keep it to yourself? The choice is yours.
Once I had a secret love
That lived within the heart of me
All too soon my secret love
Became impatient to be free
So I told a friendly star
The way that dreamers often do
Just how wonderful you are
And why I am so in love with you
Now I shout it from the highest hills
Even told the golden daffodils
At last my heart's an open door
And my secret love's no secret anymore
- Doris Day
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