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Attraction Does Not Equal Betrayal

Updated on April 15, 2010

What Is In A Look?

Let it be noted that the material which I am preparing to relate to you has been gathered via first hand knowledge and countless gripe sessions with various friends and coworkers of both sexes.

For a very long time, I have witnessed many a woman getting offended when their guy's head turns to follow an attractive woman. Though less obvious, women are guilty of doing the same. We just tend to know how to be more subtle. During all that time, I have had a nagging feeling of unease about this.

Men, and women, are simply human beings. If members of the opposite sex ceased to be attractive once one enters into a committed relationship, then advertising as we know it would be radically ineffective.  Additionally, we would not feel that tickle of joy at being checked out.  It is one thing to have your partner let you know t hey find you attractive, but if we are honest with ourselves, it feels good to know that others do as well. Upon marriage, we agree to remain faithful to one another for the remainder of our lives. I honor that and expect my husband to do so as well. That does not mean that I get offended if I spot my husband taking a glance at the hot model on page such-and-such of my magazine.

The reason I do not get offended is both simple and complex. The simple truth is that I trust my husband. I know that I am doing everything I can do to show him how much I appreciate him and how much he turns me on. He knows that the only way I would cheat on him is if Antonio Banderas or Chris Cagle were to declare their insatiable lust for me. As that will never happen, he also knows that he can trust me. That is not suggesting that my eyes wander on a regular basis. They don't. I am not immune to a hot man and do not feel guilty for checking him out. That is the end of it. I saw, I looked, I went on with my day.

My husband does a very good job of satisfying me in all ways. He is there for me emotionally and is patient with me when I need him to be. He understands what I have been through and is dedicated to changing the way I see myself by treating me like a princess. It is not something I am accustomed to but I sure am enjoying learning to! I feel very strongly about the sanctity of marriage and would not stray even if he gave me a reason to....but he does not.

It has long been my opinion that those who are jealous of others or easily offended are the same ones who deep down know that they could be doing more to show their partner how they feel. They are often the ones who are nagging, overbearing, disrespectful, or cheating. Note that I said often, not always. There are those who are jealous because they have been cheated on before and are now forever suspicious or are simply insecure in their ability to keep their handsome man or gorgeous girl satisfied. You would be surprised at how often that way of thinking is the one thing that pushes them away.

The bottom line is that your partner is with you for a reason. Clearly they found something attractive in you to begin with. Ask them for reminders. Ask them what about that person made them look. Maybe that girl was wearing a sexy pair of shoes he likes. You could get a pair. Maybe she liked the smell of the cologne he was wearing. You could buy it. Maybe it was just a matter of liking what they saw in the whole package. Whatever the cause, there is a simple way of guaranteeing that your partner stay faithful. Show them how much you find them attractive still. Make a date, set some candles, play some music, treat them to their favorite dessert, and then have some 'more' dessert. A look is a look. Your touch is what matters.


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    • Chaotic Chica profile imageAUTHOR

      Chaotic Chica 

      8 years ago

      Thank you, everyone, for stopping by and commenting! You are all very appreciated! BTW~looks can't kill but spouses coming home early can! :)

    • Diane Morgan profile image

      Diane Morgan 

      8 years ago

      GOod points here!

    • alexandriaruthk profile image


      8 years ago from US

      agree, jealous people are insecure, looks cant kill and cant make love hehe,

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      8 years ago

      Love this!

    • carolina muscle profile image

      carolina muscle 

      8 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Shout it from the rooftops. Right on the money!!

    • sheila b. profile image

      sheila b. 

      8 years ago

      This is such practical advise.

    • thevoice profile image


      8 years ago from carthage ill

      special hub work thanks


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