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I Too Am Angry
Keep on Fighting
"Late yesterday, the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals announced an indefinite stay of Judge Walker's ruling striking down Proposition 8. No matter the legal justification for the stay, this news is deeply painful for millions of Americans."
This hub isn't about writing.
It's about my anger. Call it a rant, if you will, but whatever it is, it's about something that ought to be simple.
Proposition 8 (the part of California legislation that decrees, "only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California"), was recently declared unconstitutional by Judge Walker. It has been supported by the following statements:
- Exclusively heterosexual marriage is "an essential institution of society".
- That leaving the constitution unchanged would "result in public schools teaching our kids that gay marriage is okay".
- that "gays ... do not have the right to redefine marriage for everyone else."
I'll begin with combatting the statement that engrages me the most; the third.
I am not an alien. I am a human being. I am the same as the heterosexual woman. I am well-educated. I am a law-abiding citizen. I have done nothing to deny me my rights, except be in love. If you tell me that I have fewer rights than you because I have been fortunate enough to love, then in my mind, you are saying something ridiculous.
I am not hurting you. I do my damnedest not to hurt the woman I love. I do everything in my power to make her, and the people around me, happy. I do not spread filth or pornography or hate. And most of all, I do not dictate to others what they can and cannot do with their lives. How much commitment they can give to their lover. What the limits are on their love.
I don't even know if I do want to get married. But what I do want, is to see this ridiculous notion that any form of love is wrong torn down. I want to know why hate is advocated as long as you're in bed with the right gender. I want to know why the Bible is quoted at me in reply, when as I recall, we were told to love our neighbour. We were told that God is love. We were told that we were made in His image.
I want to see that those of us who have the blessing of love have every last right that the majority do. I want to see that schools will teach that gay marriage is okay; because it is, and it is categorically wrong to teach children any form of hate. You can say that heterosexual marriage in society is vitally important; we are not asking to take anything away from you. We are not asking that you watch us. We are not asking that you meddle in our lives. We do not meddle in yours.
We are people. We have hearts and we use them to love. We are not second class citizens and we will not sit and be silent because it doesn't suit you. We should not need to ask for permission from people to love someone. It isn't us who are doing wrong. We are not hating. We are not attacking people because of their sexuality. We are not screaming offensive words in the street or making jokes about your differences.
This is not a choice. It has never been a choice. And I will object to being persecuted for being true to who I am; because who I am is not a bad person.
I am angry. The decision on Proposition 8 is not 'on hold'. It's a way of saying 'no' without ever actually having to put some backbone behind it.
The reality is this; we are not going to die out, because this is not a disease. We are going to be here with rainbow flags and Pride marches and being in our disgusting and unnatural relationships as long as humanity is alive.
You may as well get used to it, because I don't think we're going to stop fighting for our rights any time soon.