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Be Careful When You Tell The Truth

Updated on November 24, 2008

Is Telling The truth Nesscesary?

Have you ever noticed that many people do not want to here the truth about themselves? Certainly many men that have spouses or girlfriends can relate to this situation. Your girlfriend comes out with a new outfit on and she thinks it looks great on her. When actually it makes her look like the great pumpkin. Ok you have several options here as far as I can see. You can tell her the truth about how she looks? If she is a mature individual and you have a good relationship with her you might be able to tell her. That the dress makes her look fat. But in my years of experience you will have to sugar coat it.

Maybe something like this. I really like the blue outfit much better. Certainly most of the women I have known, including my six sisters that were constantly modeling new outfits for me to see will not want to her the truth. Even if they hear it they may not accept it or reconize it as the truth. They only want to hear the answer that they want to hear. Sadly enough many people not just women have been conditioned this way. They may not know the truth if they here it at all. Sometimes they do not know the truth even when they see it. I believe that this is why most people go around telling lies and living a lie their whole life. They just will not be honest with themselves nor do they have the courage to be honest to their spouses, parents or friends for that matter. So this is why you have to be careful when you tell the truth.

Try to do it diplomatically. You do not have to sugar coat it but consider the other peoples feelings and how you would feel if someone told you a similar thing. Its not always easy to tell someone the way you feel. Especially if they will not accept the way you feel. If you can not be empathic towards the person I suggest you do not say anything at all. While this is not the magic cure, I believe it could save many relationships. Just allow the person to grow and be themselves. Yes I know it can be a challenge, especially if you see people being a detriment to themselves.

But to me that is what life is all about growing up and taking responsibility for your actions. When you can tell the truth to your self and you are able to take responsibility for your actions, I believe that you have grown up.

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  • hot dorkage profile image

    hot dorkage 

    9 years ago from Oregon, USA

    Spelt is an acceptable alternative. and yes I like it too. This phenomenon you are talking about is the "SELF ESTEEM" chickens coming home to roost. People allow people to grow up never hearing anything but "good good good" so when constructive criticism comes in they can't take it.Having said that, I think "That outfit makes you look like the great pumpkin" may be trueit's mean to say that. it's always best to say it dipolmatically, "I really like the blue one a lot better, it brings out the blue in your eyes" After all, they aren't blind.

  • hot dorkage profile image

    hot dorkage 

    9 years ago from Oregon, USA

    Spelt is an acceptable alternative. and yes I like it too. This phenomenon you are talking about is the "SELF ESTEEM" chickens coming home to roost. People allow people to grow up never hearing anything but "good good good" so when constructive criticism comes in they can't take it.Having said that, I think "That outfit makes you look like the great pumpkin" may be trueit's mean to say that. it's always best to say it dipolmatically, "I really like the blue one a lot better, it brings out the blue in your eyes" After all, they aren't blind.

  • kpfingaz profile image

    kpfingaz 

    9 years ago from ~~~

    lol...good response, man. just testing ya. Good article (truth).

  • coolbreeze profile imageAUTHOR

    Rik Rodriguez 

    9 years ago from Hawaii

    Hey Thank you kpfingaz,

    Certainly you probably ment spelled hear incorrectly, because Spelt (Triticum spelta) is a hexaploid species of wheat. I would say no I cannot spell and Yes I like spelt bread

    Truth

  • kpfingaz profile image

    kpfingaz 

    9 years ago from ~~~

    You spelt "hear" wrong...3 times. Cant you spell?

    (truth)

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