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Becoming A Strong WOMAN
What does it take to be a Strong Woman
Within the context of the Bible there are many women who lived exemplary lives under strenuous conditions. They exude an excellent strength that allowed them to still keep their femininity enact yet be quite forceful. No need to ever be confused about yourself as a woman.They continued to grow spiritually and make their mark in the world. With God you can become a godly woman at any point in your life it is never too late!
For example; Miriam worked faithfully alongside of her brothers Moses and Aaron. Rahab a harlot; gave up her promiscuous life to help the spies of peace and all that was in her household were saved! Esther through driven tenacity her perseverance under insurmountable odds saved her people. Deborah my namesake was an extremely wise insightful judge & seer who a multitude of people came to for spiritual counsel & direction, She led men into battle and helped to victoriously win that battle. Jael, in fact actually defeated Sisera the commander of that army. It was the women who remained at the cross when Jesus was crucified and it was the women who were the first to actually bring the “Good News” that Jesus had risen from the dead and was now alive!
In order to know God personally a woman must have an ongoing relationship with Him! This involves daily commitment to His Word as well as times of stillness and solitude. Occasionally flicking through the pages of the Bible and pulling out a scripture or two will not do. You need to take time to develop your relationship! This will spare you much heartache. Your relationship with the Lord is the most important relationship that you will ever have!
God knows right where you are; and He Loves you! One must commit to developing a quiet time with Him in order to contemplate and digest His Word and apply it to your life. It is at this time, as a woman you are able to develop a keen sense of who you are in Christ and then commit to living by the Truth of His Word. Yes, we live in the world and are to interact, socialize and fellowship with one another. But in order to grow in His wisdom, grace and knowledge you must learn spiritual boundaries!
Being a strong godly woman is inclusive of many things. It takes a strong woman to organize and efficiently run a household and or a business. To create an environment that is inclusive of spiritual development and enrichment, positive healthy safe family dynamics and fun and enjoyable activities for the family, neighbors, friends or workers to engage in and enjoy! Know that there is a significant difference between a strong godly woman and a strong worldly woman. Pray for discernment!
As a woman when the Lord Blesses you with children you learn to wear many hats. It is important that you do whatever is necessary to create a loving, safe, warm consistent environment. Raising children requires sacrifice. This is in addition to all your other responsibilities... You often think about everyone else before yourself. You want them to know that they can depend on you and you are accessible to them at all times. This helps them to feel secure! We are thankful to have many precious memories in raising our children. I can say that I was always there for them... For this we are very thankful. When they were young I taught Piano and did Interior Design. I taught them piano as well. Healthy structure helps children know what to expect! It helps them to learn healthy boundaries. I am forever grateful to the Lord. Our children never had to worry if we would be there for them. They were not raised by a village... (Neither of our mother's allowed us to be raised by a village.) Nor did we vicariously live through our children. We raised five independent thinking, loving, caring strong children who love the Lord. Raising children requires a lot... When we traveled they traveled with us. They have been involved in a lot of Ministry Outreach... We every now and then took an occasional weekend but then they were in the care of my Mother. (It was a breeze since I did not have to pack matching outfits for (7) seven for each day...) WOW!
The Lord let us know early on we would have to live out the very principles in which we spoke and talked about. We never could have done any of it without the Lord. I also realized when you have so many children you don't have time for much foolishness. This is another Blessing in disguise. You have to live out what you talk in front of your children.
It was not until after they became of age and on their own just my husband and I were able to travel and see even more of the world for extended periods of time. We have worked fervently in ministry... We as well have taken many on tour... Sponsored artist, concerts, provided counseling etc... After both of us being part of the Church all of our lives, we thank the Lord for allowing us to take "Ministry Beyond the Walls" as well...
Time has brought about much change in this 21st century. Not everyone respects family values. There are those who want to attach themselves to you to bring division... There are many different family dynamics. Some good and some not so good. Make it a priority to embrace good healthy balanced family dynamics. It is important to share the same family values with your potential spouse. Make it a goal to strive for what works best for your family. As a believer, keeping God's principles should be a priority. I believe we are responsible for the children the Lord entrusts to us. The greatest legacy you can give them is a love for the Lord and His Word.
There is a vast array of pursuits for a woman nowadays. Many careers allow you to flex work from home to the office. Not everyone can discipline themselves to do so. If your patience is short you want to consider other options. Yelling and screaming at your children all the time should not be... Many have too often put aside God, made their spouse & children secondary and conformed to the world’s ways. You can still have a career and raise your children in a healthy home. While they were young I taught Piano and did Interior Design. Then later returned to college to further my education. You can also run your own company. It is important that you keep their well being a priority. If you have not today is a good day to start. This really will help them to become responsible independent nurtured adults. In an every changing world they need a "Solid Rock Foundation."
You cannot change anything that has happened. But you can begin to go forward with the Lord now! No matter how old you are God has a place and a plan for you! Many ask can a woman do it all or have it all? Hmm that all depends. What do you mean by ALL! With God you have everything you will ever need. HE will provide a path for you to do the things He has in His will for you. One must surrender to Him! “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Each of us have been created with varying temperaments, all of us having both strengths and weaknesses. We will forever need the Lord to guide our path. As we grow in His grace we ourselves and any weaknesses abate. We become strong in HIM! Self control rises to the forefront. "The JOY of the LORD is My STRENGTH" becomes or can your theme! Spiritual growth naturally happens as you abide in Him! He has given us an inner Guide, His precious Holy Spirit! His Comforter is absolutely amazing. What is so wonderful about God, He says: “My Grace is sufficient for you, for MY STRENGTH is MADE PERFECT in weakness.”
What really is important in life is when the day is over and the stillness of night is upon you, are you content? Do you feel that you are moving towards fulfilling your life’s destination? Don't allow others ever make you doubt who GOD is in your life once HE has revealed Himself to You... We all are quite different, what works for one may not work for another. We each are unique like pieces of a puzzle no two alike. But God’s principles apply to all of us! That is just how utterly amazing the Lord is! Have you experienced the marvelous JOY that only comes from truly knowing the Lord! It brings much inner contentment...
The Lord teaches us in HIS WORD, that we should be "One" in a godly marriage. Seek the Lord in every area of your life! Yes, you love your spouse, family, friends and… I THANK GOD for and also with my husband. But as a woman of God you must also praise, worship and adore the Lord as well “He gets Center priority in everything!” Everyday; should be a day of Worship, Thanks & Praise!
God has placed a void in all of us only He can fill! You can become “like a tree that is planted by the rivers,” you can stand strong when you are rooted in Him! Bad things do happen to good people! But, you are able to go through with Him and help others to go through as well. You do not have to impose yourself upon others. Some will be receptive to you and some will not. Don't fret! Persecutions, trials, tribulations and misunderstandings are a part of life. They stretch us! Know people will misunderstand you. But, one can still be of good cheer! The Lord always knows and understands where we are coming from... He is always everywhere we are. I can truly say I never feel alone. I Thank the Lord daily for HIS OMNIPRESENCE!
Having the Lord in your life truly brings an indescribable abiding Joyous inner Peace from knowing that Jesus has overcome the world for us! "GREATER IS HE that is within us than he that is in the world..."
Traveling is a wonderful experience that can expose you to different lifestyles and cultures. It will help to broaden your perspective and give you valuable insight. The Lord's creation is astounding and vast. Realizing that everywhere you go God is with you, you become more aware of and appreciate His marvelous handiwork all about you! He releases you from conforming to man. Instead through the unction of His Holy Spirit, He transforms and renews our minds as we embrace the Truth of His WORD! This world is His magnificent creation spoken into existence through Christ Jesus. If you can't travel then take a nice scenic drive and really enjoy what you see! Pray as you go along the highway and as you are amidst people. Take an online virtual tour. You can even take a mall walk and notice the myriad of people and plethora of cultures; just enjoy being alive! Make it a point to be aware & "Pray without ceasing..."
Today, one can travel and communicate all over the world and never leave their home or office. Make it a priority to welcome the presence of the Lord in your home. Our world is going through many transitions. “The grass is not always greener on the other side.” It remains green wherever it is watered and consistently maintained. Being religious and being spiritual are not the same. True security and significance can really only be found in the Lord! Commit to being the same person you are at Church at home, school and at work. Love should abound in your home even more... Begin to be real with God! Everything you will every want or need is possible through Him! You do not have to become dull or uninteresting or give up having healthy wholesome fun. Quite the contrary!
You can age gracefully always striving to be the “BEST YOU,” No one can be a better you than you! So don't worry when you are rejected... God has created each one of us with a plan and purpose in mind. It is a choice to pursue life His way, do your own thing or the world’s way! Study Proverbs 31 and take note of the integrity and character of the "Virtuous Woman." There is much here to embrace and cherish.
At some point you may need to perhaps take time and get away from it all. A vacation or retreat is good. Wherever you go remember you represent the Lord. Always make it a priority to draw close to the Lord. It is important from time to time to take a personal inventory to see just where you are in your walk with the Lord! You should see continual progress of growing in His Grace! There are fewer travelers on the "Straight & Narrow Path!" You should also just set aside some quiet time “To BE STILL and KNOW” and do so as well! You don't want to become stagnate. Ask yourself? Are you growing spiritually? Are you bogged down by the pressures of life? Are you conforming to what everyone else expects of you? Don't go along with the crowd to be accepted. Are you consumed with everyone else's life and don’t have one of your own? Do you seek the approval of others above the approval of God? Have you simply gotten into a ritualistic rut? Are you on a fast track that is taking you to a destination that someone else wants you on or designed for you? Allow the LORD to silence the doubters..
Are you faithfully keeping the embers burning within your marriage? Marriage is sacred in the eyes of God! Singles are you staying close to the Lord until…? Are you at peace or are you constantly stressed? Are you being the “Best You?” I realize that there are many things going on in life. It can be overwhelming with all the “stuff” going on about us in the world! To some degree we all have been impacted. But you have to make a point to not let it get you down. Nor to just roll along and let life happen. Are you depressed? If you are you must change your focus... You must let that inner passive anger or rage; GO! Pull from your memory chest of "GOOD TIMES!" (I am not taking about carnal minded activities) I mean good wholesome healthy fun. This is how you stay consistent and balanced. If you don't have many make some NOW! Shift your Focus to God. Give Him His rightful place in your life; NOW! Don’t let life just pass you by and not find some time to enjoy it. God our Father, Creator and Maker really does have it all under His control!
Spending quality time with God will help point you in the right direction. It will do wonders for your prayer life. Prayer is not always verbal. Praying without ceasing is a cognizant state of mind, of God’s Omnipresence wherever you may be. Prayer is communicating with God, prayer also involves being still and listening! Pray for and also with your spouse! Pray for your children, family, friends and GOD'S CHURCH. Pray for your desired future spouse? Pray for your pastor, ministers/clergy, our government and this world!
As a woman of God eternal life is an absolute certainty. “For It is by grace you have been saved, through FAITH and this is not of yourselves. It is a GIFT from GOD not of works.” Ephesians 2 The Word of God has power to strengthen and renew your mind. Knowing, believing and implementing His Word daily in your life is key. The Lord will teach you how to guard your heart and He will also multiply the Fruit of His Spirit within you. Self control is part of the Fruit of His Spirit Your emotions and actions can & will be transformed by the power of His precious Holy Spirit! Remember, God does have a purpose and plan for you! He Loves you and HIS Love lasts through Eternity. With God at your side you can be a Confident, Loving, Strong woman of God. This is a lifelong process and we are “forever becoming!”
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