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Become a More Attractive Man: Lifestyle Changes
How to be more attractive
These are practical tips that you can use to become a more sexually desirable man. They will require changes to your lifestyle and the way you present yourself to the world. But the payoff can be huge. If you're looking for quicker, easier techniques, check 5 quick ways to become more attractive to women.
Just being able to have a normal conversation goes a long way. You can't take a girl out unless you've had a conversation with her. And on the date, what do you do? More conversation.
Practice specific skills like story telling, humor, descriptions, showing emotion, talking on a variety of topics and talking about sexual and romantic topics. Practice with your friends, family, strangers, colleagues, anybody. Conversation is a skill that can be learned and improved. The better you get, the more fascinated women (and people in general) will be with you. And they will love hanging out with you.
Get a life
Do new things, do unusual things, do fun things. Go to places you've never been before. Make yourself busy with hobbies or interests--preferably where there is a social component. As you have more stuff going on in your life, you seem more interesting. You seem more interesting because you are more interesting. Sitting on the couch all day watching TV does not constitute a fun, interesting lifestyle. And you won't meet any new women by staying at home all the time.
Fashion and style
The way you dress says a lot about you, especially to women. For the most part, men are completely clueless as to what their fashion is saying. Fashion is a silent, powerful language that is constantly being spoken everywhere you go. The few men that know how to speak it get lots of attention while other guys are completely oblivious.
Find a style or look that is consistent with your personality. Make it unique. You don't want to fit in with the crowd. It will take time and experimentation to develop a solid wardrobe, but once you do, watch out. Women will really take notice.
Having a good body is not as important to women as it is to men. But it does send a signal about something that women care deeply about: how a man feels about himself. Is he willing to let himself go? Or does he have the discipline and the desire to look and feel his best?
Make an effort to shed a few pounds or bulk up a bit. At the very least, you will carry yourself with more confidence and presence.
Find a passion
Find something you are passionate about. Something you can dedicate your life to. You want a direction in life. It could be your career, sports, education/ scholarship, traveling, revelry, or anything else. Women are drawn to men who have purpose and direction. They don't want drifting deadbeats. When your life revolves around a passion, a woman can feel it. She is drawn to that strong, positive energy. Of course, if it is a true passion, this is something you should be doing for yourself, not for women.
Talk to people
Talk to people everywhere you go. Male or female, young or old. Incorporate talking to people into your lifestyle and daily routine. The more social interaction you get, the easier it will be to strike up a conversation with a hot chick when you see her. You don't want to go through your whole day, speaking to nobody, and then suddenly see the hot chick and freeze up without anything to say.
Improve your home or apartment. Keep it clean, neat and organized. Get some interesting decorations and décor. Lighting, colors, smells and sounds (as in music) all make a big difference because women are more sensitive to sensual experiences than we are.
You've had a great date with the girl, made out with her, and took her home. Last minute resistance to sex often occurs because she is not comfortable, or is slightly turned off by your place. So don't drop the ball! (No pun intended.)
Spend time with women
Spend time with women of all kinds, any chance you get. Attractive women AND unattractive women. Make female friends and hang out with girls at the office. Learn their idiosyncrasies and get to know how they operate. Get used to being around feminine energy (without acting like a female). This will make flirting and sexual interactions with girls much easier and smoother for you.