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Before You Marry Her Read This!

Updated on November 6, 2016

Why Do You Want to Get Married?

Choosing a life partner as a bachelor is not as difficult as many believe, but then, it requires paying attention to details in order to avoid future regrets.

In this short article, I will be revealing some vital qualities to consider before taking her to the altar to say 'I do', so sit back and enjoy the read.

Going forward, let me ask this question: why do you want to get married as a man? In order to have a blissful marriage, you must define your marital goals and expectations. Remember, a life without a goal is like a car without petrol. Only when you define your marital goals and expectations that you will be able to find the right partner.

One of the reasons marriages crash today is because both the man and the woman have things they expect from each other but often times, they focus more on character traits that might not even matter in the long run.


Vital Things to Consider Before Marrying Her

Contrary to the popular belief that women need to be careful with who they agree to marry, men even need to be more careful when it comes to choosing a wife. You should look beyond some superficial expectations and instead, focus on these key things that could make or ruin your union:

1. How Does She Treat Her Family & Friends?

Remember, as time flies, that steaming romance and fire in a relationship dies down and partners become more of companions than hot-lovers. At this time, the way a woman (by extension, a man) treats her father, brothers, male cousins and others would come into play.

If she disrespects her father, yells at her brothers, looks down on her cousins, and argues irritatingly with he‎r friends always, then it is a red flag for you as her would be spouse, please consider this seriously before you make your final decision of taking her to the altar.

2. How‎ Does She Handle Money?

Statistics show that money is the major cause of disagreement and fight in most marriages, so you must pay attention to her money management skill before you wife her.

Remember, if she is a bad money manager, then it means that she can put you into tight financial situation that will cause rift between you guys.

So take time and monitor how she spends her money, and whether she has a savings attitude or not. A woman that loves spending lavishly and going on shopping spree even when it's not necessary is dangerous to marry.

Remember, it doesn't matter if she earns her own money and can afford her lavish lifestyle, so don't be carried away by the statement: I earn my money, I worked for it, that's a flimsy excuse, wise people save more than they spend and they spend prudently.

3. What is Her Love Language?

Many marriages are in a mess today not because the parties involved are bad or immature as some people may think, but because they speak different love languages.

First, what is love language? It is a way or ways we all give and receive love. Some of us show our love via buying of gifts, while some show theirs through word of mouth.

Generally, we have five major ways of giving and receiving love; gift buying, physical touching, time spending, reassuring words, and ‎art of service.

Now, assuming your love language is time spending; as in the way you show your love to the woman you love is by spending quality time with her, and you choose a woman that her own love language is receiving of gifts, then there is problem.

The problem is that while you feel that spending quality time with her would prove to her that you truly love her, she will be reluctant to believe you love her since she expects more of gifts than time spending from you. So before you wife any woman, please find out her love language.

4. What Are Her Expectations?

Like I said earlier, we all have our individual expectations from the person we want to spend our life with, and knowing your partner's expectation(s) from the onset will go a long way in curbing future marital rift.

So before you take her to the altar, discuss your expectations and her expectations; how many kids she intends to have, the future of her career, what she expects from you, etc. Don't be scared to discuss these things because if you fail to iron them out before the wedding, they will resurface after wedding to haunt your marriage.

5. What's Her Stand On Divorce?

Lastly, discuss divorce ahead. Yes, contrary to popular opinion, it is safer to discuss divorce before you marry her.

Find out her stand on divorce. If she is the type that feels divorce is the best way to settle marital disagreement, then it is a red flag signal.

Don't marry any woman that believes divorce is the easiest way to solve marriage issues.
Thanks for taking your time to read through, you can check other of my interesting articles on relationship and marriage.

If you are a foreign woman dating or married to a Nigerian man, then you definitely need to read my book titled: "Before You Marry‎ Your Nigerian Man". You can click on the link to get one or find it on Amazon Kindle store, iBook store, Barnes, lulu, kobo and smashwords. Just search for it using the title, and you will come back to say THANK YOU.

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    • accofranco profile imageAUTHOR


      2 years ago from L Island

      Thanks so much for adding icing to the cake...your words are in par with the points raised in the article. I felt like putting them down for the benefit of single men out there finding it difficult in making the right choice. I really hope this helps as many readers that would read this as possible.

      Once again, thanks for stopping by Oscar.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      2 years ago

      Good advice!

      The goal is to choose someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      Compatibility trumps compromise!

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does NOT want what you want.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      "Don't marry any woman that believes divorce is the (easiest way) to solve marriage issues."

      FYI- Anyone who believes this has never gone through a divorce!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde


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