Behavior Reveals Personality!
My best friend, Saby, wanted us to head to the park in the blazing afternoon sun, while I wanted us to stay in and watch a movie. After arguing a while, we decided to watch the movie in the air conditioned room, then wonder to the park when the sun sets. Compromising fulfilled both our wants, creating the bond of our friendship mightier.
Relationships with others define who we are by our behavior towards that person, and the choice of words we associate with them. This is evident in “What, of this goldfish, would you wish?”, “The wife’s story?”, and the “My so-called enemy.”
In “What, of this goldfish, would you wish?” by Etgar Kerret, the author wrote, “That first wish, Sergei used up when they discovered a cancer in his sister. A lung cancer, the kind you don’t get better from.” Sergei used his very first wish to cure his sister’s cancer. This delineates his generosity and big hearted personality, plus his unconditional love for his sister.
In “The wife’s story,” by Ursula K. Le Guin, the author wrote, “That’s one of the things I first loved about him. He didn’t take things hard, he didn’t grouch and whine when things didn’t go his way.” The wife is very appreciative and loving of her husband’s calm nature, in addition to his many other traits.
On the other hand, relationships with others are defined by the prior knowledge about that person that one possesses. This perspective falls into place on account of Hanin saying to Gal, “There’s other empty places in the world where you can live.” Hanin is frustrated with Gal and suggests that she reside elsewhere in the world by giving back Hanin her country without taking into consideration Gal’s living condition. Hanin is taking out her hatred on Gal solely on the knowledge she was given about Jewish people. However, prior knowledge about someone is most likely to not apply to all the people of that religion or culture. Instead, behavior and actions play a major role in understanding a person on a deep level. This is displayed in Rawan’s statement in the film, “So, don’t concentrate on the first impression. If you think you don’t like the person, approach them to know who they really are.” Therefore, our actions towards others are key to defining ourselves, rather than our earlier knowledge about that person’s background.
We behave contradictorily with different people, such as one way with our parents as opposed to with our friends, which signifies us to who we are as a person. If one’s attitude is negative and use of language is foul, that person is seen as a deplorable substandard human being. This is simply one of the many ways relationships with others indicate our personality.
© 2018 Megh