Being a Good Friend is a Full TIme Job
Be there to wipe the tears
Good Friends Make Life Safe and Happy
I have been going through an introspecitve period lately and writing about ideas that I just get on the spur of the moment. You can have many wonderful friends in life..and I am not talking acquaintances..but real friends. However there are just a few people in your life who you can really be extra close with. Friends require time, energy and work; and if you are not willing to give that energy, the person is not one of your best friends. How many times have you called a friend and asked for help? How many times has a friend called you and asked for help or just a listening ear?
A good friend will need some help
I have a very good friend who is going to have surgery, and it is apparent to me that she will never ask for any help. She is right handed and is having surgery on her right shoulder and she will have little or no mobility for about 8 weeks. It is going to be very difficult for her to do much. No, I am not going over to dress her and put make up on everyday...but I would help with maybe the makeup. Even though her husband can run errands and even clean, she will need some extra help and support. She loves my cooking, so it will be easy to bring food over to her and cook up some meals to put in her freezer. I also want to be available to help in any way that I can. I know she would do this for me. Now that is a good friendship.
Why is a friend a full time job?
Perhaps the word full time is a bit of an exaggeration. I personally believe you can only be a good friend to a few people unless you want to run yourself ragged. I believe in helping my good friends whenever I can. And frankly as we age there are often more causes to create this need. I am like most of you very busy with many things and doing things with my active husband, We both have lots of interests, hobbies and of course there is my writing. Just surviving in today's landscape takes lots of time. Life has become far more coplicated than it was even 10 years ago.
I remember back when I was single and I had about 50 girlfriends ,and it was exhausting keeping up with all of them. And i found out most were just acquaintances who I enjoyed being with. There was a time when I really needed some good friends and that daunting experience separated the acquaintances from the real friends. And sadly we often find out that people we thought were friends really are not.
It is always fun to share secrets with friends.
You may have to help in different ways
What Constitutes a Really Good Friend
- One who you can call anytime day or night with a problem
- one who will be there for you when necessary
- One who you share many of the same values
- One who listens as well as talks
- One who is fun and you look forward to spending time with.
Go to the phone immediately and call your best friend and say thanks for being there.
Hubs on Friends and Family-Carol7777
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