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Bella Cheated On Edward-- How People Ruin Their Lives With A Fling

Updated on August 30, 2012

What? I still don't know why he fell for HER!

Robert Pattinson looking very desirable.
Robert Pattinson looking very desirable.
During a Comic-Con meeting. No one knew what was going on.
During a Comic-Con meeting. No one knew what was going on. | Source
Comic-Con: no one can see what goes on behind closed doors.
Comic-Con: no one can see what goes on behind closed doors. | Source
Poor Robert.
Poor Robert. | Source

Why Do People Choose To Throw Their Lives Away In The Heat Of The Moment?

This is an open letter to Kristen Stewart, and any other betrayers who have flings outside of relationships in the heat of the moment. Look, I get it. I'm hormonal too. Shoot, I'm 40 and inundated with testosterone. If anyone should be letting go of their inhibitions, it should be me. Even without the wine.

But here's the deal.

I was 22 when I got married and became a mother. I never cheated, or even had salacious thoughts of straying, even in my 15 years of marriage. I believe Kristen Stewart is 22. What is your problem? I saw your BF. He's HOT. My ex was a complete joke next to Robert Pattinson (a.k.a. "Edward"). And you know what? I was Happy! I had no moment of "indiscretion." What is that, anyway? Did you become blind and your cheating partner sounded exactly like Robert?

I'm Not Buying It.

I think I speak for millions of fans (and decent women out there) when I say you messed up a perfectly good thing with a great man. I don't know Robert Pattinson personally (lucky you), but reading that he would "never cheat," I got angry.

You see, I was cheated on. I know how it feels to be sick to your stomach when you realize that the one you love is slapping skin with someone else while you believe he or she is "working late." [or whatever excuse a cheater uses]. I don't wish that ill feeling on anyone.

Meanwhile, I have the utmost respect for your Brit beau. Time and time again I've wished for my life path to cross with a man who could respect me, love me, cherish me, the way Robert did for you. You blew it. Irony. I hope he finds the kind of woman who will appreciate all that he is (as I wish that for myself-- in a man, of course).

You, Kristen, have no idea what emotional footprints you leave in this world. Really? A married man with kids? I'm a single mother raising three of my own.

One day, hopefully (unless you're a narcissist), you will wake up and realize all the hurt you've caused by your choices. It's not just about YOU or HIM, but everyone else related to the triangle of deceit. Way to go for a 22-year-old.

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      Mr Love Doctor 

      5 years ago from Puerto Rico

      I ran into Robert Pattinson one time, and we chatted a bit while he was waiting for someone. He seemed like a very nice, decent, and approachable person. Nothing "star" about him. He actually asked a few questions about me and my life and was kind enough to listen to my review of "Twilight." (I wasn't a fan then.) And he just laughed. When the news of Kristen's infidelity broke, I felt sick to my stomach. Not for the Hollywood star, but for the nice young man who stopped to talk to me when I saw him.

      Oh, and @dashingscorpio, I met my wife at 18, we married when I was 21, and we're still going strong years later. It can happen when you're determined. It's not a matter of age, it's a matter of maturity and common decency.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      5 years ago from Southern California

      You got my back, misterbungle. Thanks, love.

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      misterbungle 

      5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      No punches pulled on this one. That's my girl.... Keep it up.

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      dashingscorpio 

      5 years ago

      Wonderful1, You made some excellent points in your comment. However wouldn't you say (age) does play a factor (in this particular scenario). After all this girl is only 22 and began dating Rob when she was (18). Personally I'm surprised whenever I hear of couples who found "the one" as a teenager and remain with them until death. A part of me still believes had they not been a famous couple who made romantic movies together, the story of a young girl barely out of her teens cheating on her boyfriend would not come as a shock. I saw it happen over and over again while I was away at college. High school lovers cheating while away in college. Whether it's school or working on a movie that keeps people apart for long periods of time there are bound to be some who will give into temptation or loneliness. This is especially true of teens and those in their early 20s.

      As for women cheaters... Apparently you have never watched the TV Shows "Cheaters" or "The Maury Povich Show" AKA "You are NOT the father!" LOL

      Hopefully one day we will not view cheating as (gender difference) but instead look at it on an (individual) basis.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      5 years ago from Southern California

      Dashing: I'm in shock whenever a woman does stupid things in the heat of the moment. I do them too, but I'm SINGLE! Cheating women give the rest of us a bad name. Men are almost expected to stray with the talk about how it's "in their DNA" to procreate as much as possible. Beside that, women should be more in control of their urges-- we normally aren't driven by a need for sex. Women in their 40's are the exception, since we are hormonal like teenage guys.

      And I know that attractive people can be cheated on. I was shocked that my ex left me-- I never "let myself go" in my appearance, and we had a healthy sex life. It was an enigma. But reading up on Narcissists, I realized that they are sex addicts by nature and it's not the frequency, but the thrill of doing something bad-- the adrenaline rush that makes them stray.

      Mhatter99: I wasn't looking to throw stones, more like give the tough love speech to women who make stupid mistakes. That's why I quoted the "Sassy Gay Friend" in the picture. Look it up on youtube. We could all use a friend that slaps us when we need it, so we come to our senses. Kristen Stewart will be lucky if she can ever remove "homewrecker" from her title in her lifetime. God help her.

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      Martin Kloess 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      I read this but I cannot "throw stones"

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      dashingscorpio 

      5 years ago

      I'm actually surprised at how many people are shocked that a 22 year old would cheat on a boyfriend she has been dating since she was a teenager. I suspect many people are projecting their feelings on the situation based upon the movies. Not many 22 year olds are ready to settle to down for life especially in this day and age.

      Maybe it's because it was the girl who cheated this time that makes this big news. By the way cheating rarely has anything to do with one's mate/spouse's looks. Beautiful/attractive people get cheated on all the time (Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, Christie Brinkley...etc) just to name a few recent stories over the years. Lastly it is not uncommon for women to cheat with men they know are married. This is especially true of the rich and famous crowd. Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy were lovers for 26 years even though he was married. Nothing is really new!

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      5 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks for the kind comments. I avoid ranting, but let's just say "I was motivated."

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      Becky Bruce 

      5 years ago from San Diego, CA

      you're a great writer! This is interesting and fun to read :)

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      Mary 

      5 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Great hub I can't believe she would cheat on him in such a humiliating way.Cheating is never alright if the relationship isn't working it is best to just end it.

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      lovedoctor926 

      5 years ago

      I am sorry that you had to go through this. It must have been a very painful experience for you. Your articles are very good. I haven't had the chance to leave comments, but if you would like to read this one hub that I wrote on infidelity, feel free to stop by my page. Let me know what your thoughts are.

      http://lovedoctor926.hubpages.com/hub/Unfaithfully...

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 

      5 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks for your comment, lord (and I'm not scared). Once a person has been cheated on, all of the stories about infidelity become personal. I still remember how crushed and devastated I was, and how utterly unfair the situation was (since I was so faithful). No one deserves to be treated so poorly-- no matter how lousy a relationship is. End it first, then see other people.

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      Joseph De Cross 

      5 years ago from New York

      Yikes! Wonderful1 I mean Sheila. Be careful, she might be in LA one of these days, and is 3 hours drive from you. I understand your point. No wonder young b***tches steal marriages left and right. Maybe is the water or the times? I feel sorry for Robert. Hope he doesn't turn gay..Hope not. Thanks for writing this, 'tell it like it is' letter to Kristen.

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