- Gender and Relationships
Why it's Good to be Single
A few months ago, this is a post I never thought I would be writing. I was in a very serious relationship for a little over three years. To some people, this may not seem like a big deal. But, I'm only 21 years old, so that's a pretty serious relationship for someone my age. I thought he was my soul mate and that we were going to be together forever, as most people do in relationships. Then, the end of June, BOOM, he breaks up with me which left me feeling completely empty and worthless. Now, a couple of months later, I'm the happiest that I've been in such a long time. I almost forgot how it felt to be single, and at first I was pretty scared of it. But, I've come to see that being single isn't such a terrible thing! It actually comes with a lot of benefits and can be better for you, especially while you're young. Don't get me wrong, relationships are also great (if they're healthy). This post is for you broken-hearted souls that think you need a relationship to survive (like I did).
It's so weird, because being in long term relationships really can manipulate you into believe that you need that relationship to survive. Think about it, you were fine by yourself before the relationship, so you'll be fine now by yourself. Be INDEPENDENT. You are in control of everything now. You make all of the decisions, with no one to tell you no. Make decisions that make you happy, and be the cause of your own happiness.
Nothing inspires you to change things more than being taken out of your comfort zone. I hate to keep referring to my relationship, but it will help me to explain what I'm trying to say. My ex and I breaking up encouraged me to move to Atlanta and chase my dreams, and also to start working out and eating healthy. Being single is kind of like a kick in the butt to give you that little bit of spunk and aspiration that most of us lose while being too comfortable in relationships.
As much as you hate to admit it, you lose touch with your friends when you're in a relationship. Reconnect with your friends and start hanging out with them again. Friends are great, and losing touch with them because of a significant other is a lousy feeling. Hang out with them; go to the bar and grab drinks, go see a movie, have a wine night. Being in good company is so healthy for you.
There is so much less to be stressed about when you're single. Especially if you were someone in a relationship that was not healthy or one that had a lot of trust issues. No more worrying about what your partner was doing at 2 am. No more random arguments that make you want to pull your hair out. No more having to explain why your guy friend texted you. Worry about yourself now and things that actually matter.
Without even realizing it, you spend so much money when you're in a relationship. Little things like gifts for Valentine's Day, Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays, even gas to see your partner all add up to quite a bit. And if you're the one in the relationship that always bought the food when you guys ate together, then you'll DEFINITELY benefit from this. It may sound selfish, but all of your money gets to be spend on YOU now. Save up that extra money and go shopping, traveling, or whatever your heart so desires.
You can do what you want!
Want to take a spontaneous trip to Las Vegas with your girlfriends? Do it. Want to go to a bar and dance the night away with a random guy? Do it. Want to lay in bed for three days straight and watch Netflix? Do it. There is no one to stop you from doing anything. You can do everything you want, WHEN you want...unless, of course, it interferes with your job.
You have SO much more time when you're single. To some people, this may be hard at first. It almost seems like you have too much time and you don't really know what to do with yourself. Instead of letting it make you sad, spend this time doing what makes you happy. Better yourself, workout, read, watch movies. Like I said, you can do whatever you want now!
I know a lot of us picture being single with the image of eating a box of chocolates while you cry alone on Valentine's Day. But that's not the case at all. Being single can be so good for you. So embrace it and enjoy it!