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“I know the plans I have for you, to prosper you and do you good, to bring you to an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11
My dearest husband, (ex now), Blaine brought joy to my life in ways he will never know. Throughout our marriage, he was always the most caring and loving man. During the time of our marriage he brought a sense of balance to my life that is still evident today. Through knowing Blaine, I learned to be “on time” to various situations. And procrastination became the least spoken word. Blaine taught me the values of love in a well-respected manner. Even though, we ended up in divorce, we never ceased to have a level of respect for one another. Today he is a successful man in fatherhood and professionalism. I am proud to have been the only woman who shared his life as a wife.
Blaine was always the type that loved love. In other words, he was the romantic in the relationship. Through him, I was taught the value of love. Love is patient and love is kind. Blaine was both.
I have no idea why he wanted to marry me. I didn’t even want to get married. Especially, if it meant I had to stay in Cincinnati. So when I met Blaine and he wanted to get married, I thought he was joking. He wasn’t. And, he was persistent.
I love to travel and had done quite a bit of it. I especially liked traveling to the south. I guess my family roots took me that way. So traveling was the thing we shared. Blaine had served eight years in the military, so he knew the value of traveling also. He lived in Japan.
When he made himself known to me through my daughter and my sister-in-law, I noticed his impeccable dress. The shoes were shined to a glossy black. His sweater was beautiful (for lack of a better word) and his pants were creased to the point they could cut a slice of bread. I was impressed. Once I noticed.
I didn’t meet Blaine on the streets. I didn’t meet him in a church setting. I didn’t meet him in school. He was the brother-in-law to my deceased sister-in-law Debbie. Debbie and I lived in the same apartment complex. Debbie and my sister were pregnant the same year. My two nephews, James and Darnell were born the same year. Debbie was married to James; Blaine’s brother.
Blaine’s mother lived in the same area as my older sister. Since Debbie and I were friends, I was often in her mother-in-law’s home with Debbie and the kids. His mother was very easy to talk with so we had many conversations. Blaine at the time was in the military so I had not met him. I had heard of him quite often, though, as his mother was very proud of him.
During the sixth year of his military service, Blaine came home one day. He came to meet his new sister-in-law and nieces and nephews. By this time, Debbie and James had three children. I was there during the time and had the chance to meet him as I was leaving. Later that year, around Labor Day, he came home again. Debbie and her husband hosted a gathering and as always, our family was invited. We went. Blaine attended also. It appeared that he was at their home more often now. And, his military break was longer as well.
The following year, he came home for an extensive military leave. I would later find he was indecisive of whether so sign up for another term. He declined. He wanted to get married.
We met again in 1987 and he asked me for a date. It didn’t take long. By the end of the summer, we were engaged. We married in June 1988. He truly was one of the blessings God gave me in life. I love more today because of what he taught me about love.
Have you been married? Are you married now? Do you want to be married? Let's talk about it. Send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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