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Boys & Girls become Men & Women

Updated on October 6, 2009

Let Love Grow Up

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, may I have your attention, please? Just today a truth dawned on me regarding the dating scene and relationships. This is a hub about boys and girls and how they "love" each other, teens and how they "love" each other, young adults transitioning from youth to maturity and how they "love" each other, and finally how mature individuals "love" each other.

Perhaps as a girl you were raised with brothers. Younger or older I can bet competition existed in almost every sense of the word, right? Boys will tease, demean, try to be superior...and sometimes, it goes the other way. Oftentimes, girls raised with boys end up becoming tough skinned and boyish to adapt to such a family environment. What happens when a boy is mean to you at school? Well, that's the oldest scenario in the book; he "likes" you! Right.

Teen-age love is a bit different and yet there is tons of competition. Girls that like the same boy compete. Boys that like the same girl compete. Insecurity runs at a sky-high level causing both parties to seriously control each other. Fighting to keep each other is guaranteed! This is also the stage where boys and girls become young men and women going through puberty and feeling those "puppy love" feelings and yes, sexual desire for each other.

First comes love, then comes.....marriage. Yes, the fantasy of life. Happily ever after. Moms and Dads can't wait for the grandbabies to be born! To see the bride shove cake in the groom's nose is just the start of the playful "competition" that will continue on into the marriage. This young couple will experience both the familiarity (root word "family") of living with a 'brother' or 'sister' as well as the "high school" insecurities and competition in their first years. Sure, marriage may help the insecurity a little, and hopefully the consummation of the marriage satisfies that physical desire both desperately want to enjoy.

"...then comes the baby in the baby carriage!" Ah, responsibility arrives. It never becomes more critical for a couple to nurture their love and remember that as their children begin to show their "pulling hair" kind of love to each other that they also witness grown-up love by the parents. It's so easy to act childish or child-like as young adults.

Men, it's important to remember that a woman is not another guy. She's not your little sister. The woman you love should feel so special as you massage her feet when she gets home. She'll sympathetically take care of your sprained wrist, not laugh like your little sister would. You'll gaze into each other's eyes seeing your future; you'll share the total intimacy of never having to sleep alone; you'll enjoy romantic sunsets together. This is what mature love is.

So many divorces and troubled dating relationships are caused by immature "love". Childish competition, insecurity, and forgetting you're not able to treat each other like a brother or sister to that degree. The couples that make it to old age with a love that's eternal are those that remember and practice all that mature love holds. 

How brother shows his love
How brother shows his love
Puppy love
Puppy love
High School love
High School love
It starts at the wedding?
It starts at the wedding?
This feels familiar...
This feels familiar...
You wouldn't do this for your sister, would you?
You wouldn't do this for your sister, would you?
She genuinely cares
She genuinely cares
This is grown-up love
This is grown-up love
The special love men and women in love share
The special love men and women in love share
The rewards of mature love
The rewards of mature love


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    • Shepherd's Lamb profile image

      Shepherd's Lamb 8 years ago from Roseville, CA

      Baaaa aaaaaa :-)

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      Vladimir Uhri 8 years ago from HubPages, FB

      Very special thoughts. Thanks, little Lamb.

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      Shepherd's Lamb 8 years ago from Roseville, CA

      Awe, I'm glad. You guys mean the world to me! Love you back!

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      Robert E Smith 8 years ago from Rochester, New York

      So many deep insights in this simple hub. I hope people are listening because I am. I'm going to rub Mrs. No body's feet right now. Bye sis. Love you. Oh yeah, My sister Belinda from Montana says to say Hi and that she loves you too.


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