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Break Up Sex
Break Up Sex.. why do we do it? Is it an attempt to keep our lover? Do we just need to get the other person out of our system? Do we believe at that moment and time that we will never have sex again? Break up sex is not uncommon and a lot of couples go through it. But why?
The term Break Up Sex has made the urban dictionary. It is defined as when a couple has decided to break up but wants to have one more go at it. It is also defined as having sex with the intention of breaking up afterwards. Couples who have experienced break up sex have stated the the sex more passionate,playful and hot than when they couple was actually dating. Why is this? Experts believe that since there is a break up there no holds barred so to speak. Many believe it can be a better experience when there are no expectations.They have nothing to hide from each other. Why else might the sex be better? Perhaps each person want to leave their ex mate with a little something to remember them by ;)
The dangers of Break Up Sex
Some of the dangers of break up sex are that the sex may not end. The relationship is over but the sex is not. It could become one booty call after another if one is not careful. Of course if tis is what one chooses that is fine, but it will hinder other potential relationships. This lead to the next point. It is difficult for many if not impossible to separate the act of sex from emotions. It makes break up sex very complicated if a person is overly sensitive, emotional or distraught!.
Break up sex can be angry and a little out of control. Enough said about that!
Is it a good idea?
Break up sex has been described as the best sex a person has ever had. But many agree that its not a good idea! Most men polled believe any sex is good! Could you have sex with a person knowing it is the last time you will ever sleep with them?
A lot of people stated that Break up sex was a bad idea simply because it would put you right back in the position you were in before. If the relationship was bad then end it and move on. Others believe it will get more complicated as old feelings will start to resurface again. One lady stated it clouds the mind and shakes the heart! Some women felt bad after their experience with their ex. They felt bad for giving in to him.
On the Flip side some women state its only sex and are fine with the booty call. They even state the break up sex helps releive the tension and helps them be friends with their ex.
I myself have never had break up sex and don't think I could put myself through it. ( I know never say never!) Maybe break up sex is the all the leftover emotions you have for that person. Or as my surprisingly intuitive boyfriend put it.. maybe it is just a way to create a good memory when you say goodbye.