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Breaking Up Is So Hard To Do
“Relationships are like glass.Sometimes it is better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting them back together.”
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Many of us are so afraid to be alone....that we tend to put up with misery.Others rather be alone than beaten down by grief.
Sure some days are going to be harder than the first; but trust, had you stayed the shit would have ended up worst.
Some are meant to love one another forever...others will search until the end.Don't waste your energy on what could have been.
You lived, you loved and you laughed.
Move on....your time together has past.
Salutations my friend.
All things must come to an end.
The ending of a relationship can be traumatic especially if you are not the one ending it. Now, this is not to say the one ending the relationship is not effected because they are. Outside factors such as friends, family and other influences creep in and before you know it....the relationship you both built begins to crumble around you. My grandfather once said that a relationship is like a house built of glass with outsiders looking in and throwing rocks and if you are not careful to look past the rock throwers....the boulder will surely run you over . Therefore, with this being said....regardless, of how your relationship is ending the fact at hand is.... IT'S OVER.
Whether it was a mutual decision or not.... it's time to move on. Move on gracefully and wish the other person well. It sickens me when some of us feel as if we must bring drama and cause the other person harm because they no longer wish to live miserably. As hard as it may seem....we must let go and regain our happiness. I found peace by reading my Bible and gaining inspiration from verses such as these:
As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love. John 15:9
Wouldn't this be a beautiful way to send your ex off into the world? With your love and your blessings. When I was new to relationships...this was the last thing I wanted to do....I wanted to tear their world apart and anything that I could do to make their lives miserable...I did it. Now when I look back, I cringe. In my effort to make them miserable...I made myself look like a fool...How embarrassing. It's much wiser to let go and let God. This is no way for anyone to remember you. Just be a lady or gentlemen and walk away. It just may be in your favor that this relationship is ending.
For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38, 39
What persuaded me to not fight nor feel so horribly when a relationship ends is because of one particular Easter I was sitting in Church listening to the sermon about the death of Jesus and how he died to save our sins. I have heard this sermon and read it for myself in the Bible over and over again since I was about 5 years old and it was nothing new; but that particular Easter, it hit hard. Since, I had begun dating all I ever wanted was someone to truly love me and love me enough that if need be they would put their life on the line. I expected this...because this is how I loved. As the preacher spoke this strong sensation just ripped through my body and I began to cry; because just to believe someone loved me so....that he went through unspeakable torture...just to save me. How blessed can anyone be....to have someone love you with such passion that he died for you. It's beyond words to me!
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
Wow....how definite can that be! We live in a world where everyday we are being told to believe this and trust that. I have been around a long time and have been told many things therefore; I am going to trust what is real to me. Trust in only what will bring me solace and it is this when you no longer love me....God does. When you have depleted my strength....all that is required of me is to simply wait for the renewal of my strength and once that strength is restored I will mount up with wings as eagles and rise above the hurt and pain.
So for whom may be reading this....take your rest and not stress because someone you loved walked away. Love on this earth is only for a moment. Enjoy it during the times God blesses you with it; but when it ends..let it go and smile. Whether you realize it or not....there is a greater love than this and I know him for myself....his beautiful name is....Jesus Christ.
God Bless and I love you.
The following playlist helped me nurse a broken heart and gave me strength...I pray it does the same for you.