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Bridesmaids: How many is too many?
Choosing the Bridemaids
The number of bridal attendants is a matter entirely for the bride to decide. Her unmarried sister is usually the Maid of Honour (Chief Bridesmaid)), but if her married sister acts in the capacity of Chief Bridesmaid she becomes the Matron of Honour".
If the Bridegroom has an unmarried sister, she may be included among the Bridesmaids.
On the other hand, the Bride may decide upon her closest friends as Bridesmaids.
The flowergirls and the trainbearers are usually chosen from the nieces and nephews on either side, or both sides.
All the bridal attendants should be asked simultaneously to be members of the bridal paty. Unless they have good reasons for refusing, they should accept.
A day or so before the wedding the Bride gives each a personal gift (such as a pin, a brooch, or a bracelet) as a memento of the occasion.
A widow about to be married should be attended by a friend as a Maid or Matron of Honour in place of a Bridesmaid.
Choosing the Best Man and the Groomsmen
The Best Man may either be a brother, a cousin, or an long time friend of the Bridegroom, and the choice is a matter for decision by the Groom.
While it is usual for a bachelor to be chosen, there is no reason why a married man should not be the Best Man.
The Groomsmen should include the Bride's brother (if she has one), and may also include her male friends, if those of the Bridesgroom can not serve.
If the Groom has several friends and can't be fit into the the bridal party, they can be made Ushers.
The Ushers are responsible for the proper seating of the guests in the church and also at the reception. They should be able to recognise the relations and the friends of the Bride and the Bridegroom.