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Bridging The Gap of Long Distance Relationships
It's not the distance; it’s the misunderstanding that made the bridge collapsed.
Remember the story "The Tower of Babel"? The people did not finished building the tower because of misunderstanding. They do not understand one another because of different languages. It can also be compared to a relationship. Without proper communication, one can leap into a wrong conclusion! And the love that you have built from the start will be wasted forever.
Long distance relationship is a very delicate situation that two hearts will undergo. Not all successfully survived in this quest. All it takes is courage to trust with all your heart.
Before embarking into a long distance relationship, both must first weigh the consequences it will bring. If it is important that one has to go away, both will have to agree to set a common goal or a plan from very beginning. Set out your priorities and be committed to it.
I know that it is not that easy waking up one morning and finding your partner gone beside you. It'll take a lot of time and effort to overcome our longing for the things you were doing at the start.
But think of the bright side! It will be a day less when the time comes that he’ll be coming home again. And think of the advantages of them being there, maybe he is there to save for your future, to give you the things that will make your life more comfortable or maybe he's there so that you will have your future together.
Who knows, there are a lot more important reasons why someone has to go away, leaving you behind. It's not that they will vanish or would never come back. If they love you, they will.
Before signing the "I do" on this long distance relationship, have a heart-to-heart talk, weighing every possible consequences this relationship will offer to both of you. If it is clear to you that it is important that he’ll be away, be open and tell him of your expectations.
What you expect out of this relationship will help the other consider other plans and other important things that will eventually matter. So he will know that this is what you want and what you don’t want.
For a great start, be open and honest but stay loyal. It is the greatest gift that you can offer your loved one when you are away. Take good care of yourself because they feel twice the pain if you get hurt or sick and they will feel helpless on the other side of the line.
They will feel bad of being away when you are suffering. So it is a very good thing that you are always in good health so the other will have not to worry too much and can avoid depression and sadness.
Don’t whine and don’t blame them for going away. At the onset of the plan, make sure that you really understood why they would go away. Be clear and concise of your plans to avoid hating and blaming each other. When you feel sad and you feel like problems is pulling you down because nobody to lean on, think first before hitting the send button on the email or text message.
It is okay to vent out to him and tell your story but AVOID, really AVOID blaming the other of the misfortunes or the problems that comes to your way. It is not right, believe me, no one survives on this kind of technique.
The very important thing to keep in mind is communication. Keep in touch every time you got a chance. This is the best remedy of keeping your relationship alive no matter how many miles he’s away from you.
It bridge the gap of your hearts to vanquish sadness, pain and emotional crisis. This helps a lot for keeping the love alive as well.
Think positive always. From time to time, send him messages telling him how much you love him and misses him and always be there to lift him up. If he comes to you with problems on hand, some people jump quickly and blame it on the other. Don’t do that. Listen first then focus on the solution, not on the problem.
Don’t let your emotions toil your anger. Be calm and take time to inhale. Thinking negatives things will radiate negative energy that could affect both of you. And if this happens a lot, I’m sure, that “I do” will melt.
You never knew you are pushing him away - pushing the person you cared about away from you. Then one day you’ll wake up, he’s not the person you used to know anymore.
And lastly, help each other... Remember, it always takes two to tango.
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