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Broken Heart Syndrome: How to Deal

Updated on June 23, 2012

It's Hard, but the heart's a pretty strong muscle.

So you broke up with your significant other. Damn. That sucks.

If you’re a female, you’re probably laying down the water works as we speak. If you’re a guy, you’re probably off brooding in a corner somewhere or out getting tail.

I’d love to write an extensive article about how you will eventually get over your broken heart but honestly, life is never that simple. It might take you years to even be able to look at that person again or even be in the same room. It’s hard but not impossible. I’ve given out so much advice over the years that is has become annoyingly repetitive. If there is one thing I have learned is that in order to even be in a healthy relationship, you need to be in a healthy relationship with yourself.

Do you know how to get over a broken heart or bad break up? I don’t, but I can give you some advice that might help.

Find new interests. Become bold. Be a better human being. Find what makes you happy.

Some people become so sucked into their relationships that they forget that they should have their own lives separate from their partner. I get why that would happen. You become so happy with this person that you begin to depend on them for that level of happiness. Then you realize, when they aren’t there, that you’re not as happy as you thought you were. You become dependent on that person for your happiness and that’s probably when your relationship started going downhill.

I’m not saying don’t depend on people. It’s nice to have somebody to fall back on when the times are rough but recognize when you’re losing your independence. I don’t mean financially, I mean emotionally. When your happiness depends on somebody else, that’s when you NEED to reevaluate you’re relationship with yourself. Because really, how can you make somebody happy, when you aren’t even happy with yourself?

Focus on you. My mother has a saying “First you, second you, and third you.” Sure that may sound a bit selfish, but I think you have earned the right to be after being heartbroken.

I guarantee you’ll be a happier person because of it.


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    • Derek Ober profile image

      Derek Ober 5 years ago from Florida

      It is a great tool for dealing with heartache. Voted up for useful.

    • zombiedamage profile image

      zombiedamage 5 years ago

      great article. everyone goes through heartache in different ways. i think this is a great blueprint for those who think it's ok t just lay down and wash away. that yes it does hurt but eventually if it does take days or weeks or years it's up to you to make it better. great job