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"Caged Like A Prisoner In Your Own Home"

Updated on August 16, 2013

"Caged Like A Prisoner In Your Own Home"

Never become a caged prisoner in your own home.
Never become a caged prisoner in your own home.

''Caged Like A Prisoner In Your Own Home"

This was me forty years ago. Even though I wasn't physically chained or imprisoned in an individual cell. Living at my home with my husband at the time, was like being a prisoner in a cell. A cage doesn't have to be made of wood or steel. It can be a mental attitude that allow you to be imprisoned mentally. Being influenced mentally by another person, is like being in an invisible cage. The way you handle your imprisonment can hamper your mental growth as a free person. When you're young and foolish, you allow things into your life, which isn't necessarily in your best interest. That's because you don't know any better. It's important that you don't allow yourself to be manipulated into a relationship, where you will be held hostage in your own home.

When we allow ourselves to be involve in a controlling relationship, we give others control over us and our lives. When we allow someone to tell us how to live our lives, or tell us who we should or should not see. To tell us when to come and go. Then we're in a prison with our own warden, that dictates to us all our actions in our life. I remember when I lived like a prisoner. I had to punch a time clock. When ever I went anywhere and if I was late, I had to worry about fussing and fighting when ever I got home. I couldn't go anywhere and visit anyone because I had an invisible timer ticking away on my visiting time. I was a nervous wreck every time I went anywhere, because I was always worrying about being late. I was also leery about people visiting because they might would see and feel the tension and frustration I felt. No one is suppose to be afraid in a loving relationship, where your mate loves and trust you. If you aren't allowed to be yourself and be able to go anywhere and feel comfortable and safe doing so.

We all should be able to be happy and content in our homes, if not, where else can we go to find total peace of mind and harmony. Don't give anyone total control over your life, unless it's God almighty, because he want misuse o abuse you. if we give up control over our lives to someone else, I promise you will regret it. Become resentful of the person with the control over you. Simply, because you want to be able to be the person God made you to be. Don't let your life become a prison of your own making. You should always keep the keys, of your freedom in your own hands.

Benny Faye Douglass


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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Hi Annonymous, Thank you for visiting my ub and leaving a comment. I truly feel your pain, because I was once you and I was miserable. I hope that you know God because he will surely help you figure out what to do next. You say he goes everywhere with you, that mean you don't have any alone time for yourself. Tell me have you told him, you're miserable and you want out of the the relation ship and if you did tell him how did he react or are you afraid to tell him because you think he will hurt you or worse.please contact me at my yahoo email account and maybe we can figure out what's your next step in life. I hope to hear from you and I will be praying for you. May God continue to keep you safe and protected. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Anonymous 6 years ago

      My husband won't go anywhere without me and he won't allow me to go anywhere without him I feel like being cage and in prison I want out in the marriage I just don't have the guts to get out...and I have fallen out of love....I feel suffocated in this controlling relationship....and I'm an optimistic joyful person but now I turn out to be depressed I missed the freedom I had when I was single I want out

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      I am proud of you Kwest, for your great acheivement of leaving your problem behind, it took a lot of courage to do what you did. Thank you for your visit and your comment. May God continue to help you on your way. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      kwest 7 years ago

      as i sat and read those haunting words staring up at me,i had tears in my eyes,,,remembering how my life once was.I was a prisoner for 20 years then i walked away and didnt look back,my ex took alll my passion and love away from me,in place he gave me hate and emptiness,after many shed tears i walked away and divorced the man,now i am living a fulfilling life,,,my own life!I pray that anyone who is living in a prisonwalk away before it is too late,yes ther is life out there,just waiting for you to go and grab it;;;please do!thank you for this article it makes me remember who i am and who i was. Peace Out!

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      pmccray 7 years ago from Utah

      I know you speak the truth because I'm also an escapee of the same type of prison. My second husband was the warden, once I escaped his abuse I swore not to let it happen again.

      I am no longer that needy little girl, I'm now a woman who knows what she wants and what I don't. Never again will I let an imbecile keep me in captivity I sooner be alone. Great hub full of much needed information.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      What is a home for if it's not for happiness and contentment. Thank you Audrey, I appreciate you and your comment. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Audrey Kirchner 7 years ago from Washington

      Truer words were never spoken - we should all be happy and content in our homes! Great advice, Faye.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Thank,s for sharing your story.A controlling partner is such an unhappy relationship; my second marriage was like that, i put up with that for five years before getting enough nerve to get out, and it was very difficult because he was a very powerful man who owned the politicans in town I left with my car and clothes with him blocking the driveway. When i finally did get away, i felt like a bird just freed from a cage. I was so happy to get away.That,s why i,m a happy single woman today. Gee i didn,t intend to write an epic. lol

      God Bless You

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you fred,in my growth I learned that God wanted better for me, so I cut my loses and moved on. You are a true gem,I'm honored to have you as a friend. May God continue to bless you and your family. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Hello, this episode have happen to many,especially to those that doesn't know any better and it still happening today those that are unaware. thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed.

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      fred allen 7 years ago from Myrtle Beach SC

      So sad that you endured such sorrow of your own free will. That's the rub. Most endure the same for the same reason, they choose to. While I don't advocate divorce for any reason other than the ones Jesus stated, I do understand how people can subject themselves to a life of torment and unhappiness because they feel a misplaced sense of loyalty. You discovered that our loyalty is to be given to God above all. A life given to Him produces freedom that even prison walls cannot confine. You are a dear sister and I am pleased that your life has taken turns for the better!

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      You written my life story. It amazes me that they do it so suddle that you don't realize it first. Then all over sudden bingo you are in it.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you mal malhi, for your visit to my hubs, I appreciate you and your comment. As I said, I was very young, when I got married. I was eighteen and didn't really know anything about marriage, so I wanted to please my husband and I thought doing what he wanted, was expected of me. That was me then, but I have aged and now, I know better. Life's experiences is our best teacher and we learn from our expereinces and mistakes. God bless you. creativeone59

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      mal malhi 7 years ago

      no one can take control of your life ..unless you let appears to me this was the case in your marriage

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you MarianG,I totally agree with you. Thank you so much ofr your visit, and comment. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you dragonlady, for visiting my hub, I appreciate you and your comment. I got a divorce too, and it felt really good to feel free as a bird. god bless you dear heart. creativeone59

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      MarianG 7 years ago

      This is so true! The mind can be a friend or a foe!

      Great Hub!

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      dragonlady1967 7 years ago

      I agree ....So I got divorced... freedom after 20 years.... I take a deep breathe, smile, and thank God.

      Great Post


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