"Caged Like A Prisoner In Your Own Home"

This was me forty years ago. Even though I wasn't physically chained or imprisoned in an individual cell. Living at my home with my husband at the time, was like being a prisoner in a cell. A cage doesn't have to be made of wood or steel. It can be a mental attitude that allow you to be imprisoned mentally. Being influenced mentally by another person, is like being in an invisible cage. The way you handle your imprisonment can hamper your mental growth as a free person. When you're young and foolish, you allow things into your life, which isn't necessarily in your best interest. That's because you don't know any better. It's important that you don't allow yourself to be manipulated into a relationship, where you will be held hostage in your own home.

When we allow ourselves to be involve in a controlling relationship, we give others control over us and our lives. When we allow someone to tell us how to live our lives, or tell us who we should or should not see. To tell us when to come and go. Then we're in a prison with our own warden, that dictates to us all our actions in our life. I remember when I lived like a prisoner. I had to punch a time clock. When ever I went anywhere and if I was late, I had to worry about fussing and fighting when ever I got home. I couldn't go anywhere and visit anyone because I had an invisible timer ticking away on my visiting time. I was a nervous wreck every time I went anywhere, because I was always worrying about being late. I was also leery about people visiting because they might would see and feel the tension and frustration I felt. No one is suppose to be afraid in a loving relationship, where your mate loves and trust you. If you aren't allowed to be yourself and be able to go anywhere and feel comfortable and safe doing so.

We all should be able to be happy and content in our homes, if not, where else can we go to find total peace of mind and harmony. Don't give anyone total control over your life, unless it's God almighty, because he want misuse o abuse you. if we give up control over our lives to someone else, I promise you will regret it. Become resentful of the person with the control over you. Simply, because you want to be able to be the person God made you to be. Don't let your life become a prison of your own making. You should always keep the keys, of your freedom in your own hands.

Benny Faye Douglass