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Can you have friendship without trust

Updated on October 11, 2010

My Dog and Cat were great friends- the old and the young

No one really knows how another person feels about someone. Therefore we have to learn to accept a person as they are until you find out different. Never judge a person on first sight. It takes time to really know someone. Although a true friend will trust you no matter what.

I believe that trust and friendship go hand in hand. Although In saying that, there are exceptions to the rule, nothing is ever quite black and white. Therefore, to be a true friend there are times when friends should respect his or her friend's need for privacy.

What should you do if you know, that your friend's partner is cheating on her? This is a very difficult decision to make. You may not want to hurt either of them, but if you don't tell her then you are hiding the truth from this friend. She may not believe you and hate or accuse you of trying to come between them. Therefore, you will be left in the middle, doomed if you do, and dammed if you do

Would you want to know the truth? I think the only way around this is to let her see the situation for herself, with a little help from you. Then be there to support her through the difficulties of this trying time. That is true friendship.

  • Friendhip and trust is something most animals have no trouble with.
  • The complete oposites, often more compatible than those of the same family.
  • If animals can share there trust in each other why can't we?



True friendship

Everyone needs a friend to share their doubts and fears with, at sometstage in our lives. The ideal friend needs to be patient and listen to their friend's problems. Offer support, understanding, and camaraderie when needed. Do not expect to hear all the gory details of everything that your friend is going through.

Privacy or own space

For a variety of reasons, everyone needs his or her own personal space and privacy, in which to think and sort out our problems. There may be times when your friend needs this privacy under certain circumstances, and you, as a true friend should respect their wishes in this regard. Understand their needs and do not push, for more information if your friend is unwilling or unable to give it freely. It is their choice, so be patient.

They may have a valid reason to keep this information private. It could affect the welfare of their children, their marriage, or it may involve other innocent parties. Never turn against your friend because they have not confided all the details to you. Be considerate and understanding.

Issues of trust

Never doubt your friends' decisions without confirming the facts first. Trust them, as there may be times when you think your friend has let you down and you react without giving them the benefit of the doubt. It may be that, they actually protecting you by not giving you all the details. Remember that trust is very important within any friendship

Make sure that you listen to everything your friend has to say, or may not have said, then offer help or advice where you can. Be there and support your friend if they need a sounding board to share his or her grievances or ideas with, then listen to them, and help if you can.

Trust your instincts, because in most cases, instincts are not wrong. It is far better to trust your friend, in most circumstances, than deny yourself true friendship by mistrusting that person. Once you have made an accusation, there will always be that little niggling doubt in your friends mind, that you did not care enough to trust your friend.

Without this kind of trust, there is no true friendship.




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      Eileen Hughes 5 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Way back around 2007-8. Long time ago

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      nate 5 years ago

      When did you right this? I wrote an essay about some of the thing in your journal and I need to citate it?

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      Eileen Hughes 5 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      I agree, they are more faithful than a lot of humans today

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      bob 5 years ago

      i love dogs :)

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      krishna chaitanya 6 years ago

      excellent really inspired me

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      Finn mac Faelan 6 years ago from United States

      Possibly, but it would be on very shaky ground and probably wouldn't last too long. Perceptive and nicely written Hub.

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      Bhawana Salaria 6 years ago from Australia

      Dear Nice and great writing.

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      Eileen Hughes 6 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Kelley, I can not answer that question. Only you know the answer to that. Friendship is a two way thing if you look after them then they will look after you.

      If she had lied to you how would you have felt about her

      Try to answer this honestly and then you will have your answer. Hope that helps.

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      Kelley 6 years ago

      I had this best friend for a few years and she has always been a great friend to me. I been a great friend to her aceept I lied to more than I should have. She quit being my friend because she can't trust me anymore and I lied to her more than I should have. So does that mean she had every right to leave me?

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      globalserenity, glad we both agree with this it is important

      to have trust.

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      globalserenity 7 years ago from Austin, Tx

      I agree with you Eileen, I am known for pushing friends out of my life that proven to me time and time again they can't be trusted. Some people will simply keep a friend like that in their lives but I can't see that being healthy. Absolutely trust is of the utmost importance in terms of friendship. Thanks for the post =)

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Dreamer, thanks for commenting yes friendship works both ways from a couple.

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      dreamer32 7 years ago from Mississippi

      Very true on what you have said because trust is the foundation of developiing a true friendship. We realize that people are not perfect, but trust and honesty, repesect, caring,and love is what builds a true and lasting frinedship. Awesome article and thanks for sharing.

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      Angela Harris 9 years ago from Around the USA

      Excellent advice, Eileen. In answer to the question, no. The photos were a treat.

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      Eileen Hughes 9 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      spot on there. It is so true. If you have just one true friend then you are in front.

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      cgull8m 9 years ago from North Carolina

      It is very difficult, but sometimes we have to let go of minor offenses or mistakes, because we also do the same. Friends are hard to get and easy to lose.

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      Eileen Hughes 9 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Oh well we all have our own little problems Mr marmalade. thanks for stopping by.

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      MrMarmalade 9 years ago from Sydney

      The Damned if you do and also if you don't.

      Never been in that situation and do not know what I would do if it happens