ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

How to get over your ex or lover:

Updated on October 2, 2013

Can't stop thinking about her? Maybe she is an ex-girlfriend... a crush that has turned into an obession, she has become the very existing of your being, you are 100% positive that there is no other girl like her. She is more beautiful than the rest, you constantly overthink the little things she says and spend hours trying to figure out what it means. You would do ANYTHING for her and you hope that one day she will realise it and fall for you. Believe me I have been there, and it is no fun at all, I assume you are reading this because you will want to get over her. I'm not saying it is going to be easy but hopefully with a few little tips I can help you out.

Firstly, what if I told you this... that it wasnt her that you actually love, but it was the idea of her? Ask yourself this, do you ever do the things with her that you imagine you do? Such as grabbing icecream together, watching a movie you know stuff like that. It is more the dream of succeeding in goal, the goal of getting her. I'm not going to tell you how to win her over because 99% of the time us blokes just cant do it and we sit here constantly wondering about her when she is busy with her own life most likely not thinking about you at all and getting with other blokes. Most likely not the thing you want to hear but you need to hear it.

Don't fret this happens to all of us, the obession of dreaming about something then hopefully succeeding in it. I myself am quite guilty of it, just recently here in Australia McDonalds where having these surprises you could win when you buy McDonalds. I found myself buying McDonalds everyday trying to win these surprises thinking to myself that if I kept trying that I would succeed. This is exactly what happens to one when we think about that "one special girl". I also once again have been quite guilty of it, I went for this same girl for around 2 years, convinced once again that once if I kept working at her that she would see what an amazing guy I am and that she would also fall in love with me. She even liked me at one stage, chased me... but then she lost interest and it was never to be returned again but I still tried in the hope that one day I would get her. Don't do what I did, wrest back control of your heart and your mind! Now how do we do that?

You need to realise that there other girls out there that are so so much better than her! You see in the movies how this bloke is chasing after this girl and his mate tells him to let her go but he ignores his mates advice and lands the girl of his dreams. Don't we wish that real life was like that? Well we shouldn't because the real world is so much better! In the real world you get over that fake girl who has been destroying your life and you find real girls! Girls who appreciate you for you and show you the attention and love that you deserve!

You need to get out and meet more girls! It isn't exactly to get them because learning to get girls is a skill which must be developed, but the more girls you talk to the better you will get right? This will help you in so many ways, you will realise that there are much better girls out there than the one you have been trying to get for so long, you feel happier knowing that there are girls out there that want to talk to you and spend time with you, this may also make that "special girl" jealous that you are no longer wanting her but that your happier without her (don't get sucked back in though) you will be back to square one. Ask these girls out, take them on dates, take them home.

Don't be the subject of that "special girls" jokes between her and her friends, don't be the needy guy who can't seem to be happy without that "special girl" that girl had one chance with you when you liked her before, and if she was to stupid to realise it she will die before she gets another shot at you, you are not a 7/11 that is open 24 hours a day 7 days a week and you are not a bus that comes every 10 minutes, you are a once in a lifetime opportunity. If she has said no it's her loss not yours!

And you never know... one day you may come across her facebook and realise that she is not as beautiful as you once thought, you may see her in the supermarket have a chat to her and realise her personality is not like an angel like what you thought. Wrest control back of your heart and your mind and start living my friends!


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • profile image


      5 years ago



    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)