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Certain Guys in 2019-- Just Show Up

Updated on February 11, 2019
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Kenneth is a rural citizen of Hamilton, Ala., and has begun to observe life and certain things and people helping him to write about them.

Guys, if all you can do is TALK rather than DO, or make an effort, I am sorry for you.
Guys, if all you can do is TALK rather than DO, or make an effort, I am sorry for you. | Source

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I won't ask for the thoughts that are birthed in your thoughts, for I know that some will grow angry, even take a vigilante stance and crow Unfair, and it's My Rights, and maybe so. But certain groups of young men in this age have got to reclaim their Manhood by simply becoming a man who is not too good to Show up!

By that term, Show up, I do not mean be Mr. Goody, Goody, Two Shoes, or be the Alfalfa in Our Gang reruns. All I mean is for you to Show up--running is going to cost you way too much. And you will end-up tired to the bone. Show up first to yourself, then to your companion and if you have been charged with Marital Abuse, Show up, Own up and take it like a man. You cannot hide forever and the pricetag will be one that you cannot pay. And if there is a part of you who is growing inside your companion, Show up. Be there. Sure it might be sticky for awhile, but a man will be what men of our day done. They Showed up.

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I detest the males who are living behind someone who has given them everything without working for it. Those days are limited. Oh, there are a lot of men who are mere cowards--fearing the sweat of Responsibility of a Day's Work or maybe a job to where they will have to feed three under a roof. It's not a glamorous life, but Show up regardless--throw off those irritable cautions, you have listened to the same old rhetoric over and over until I swear that your ears are beginning to look shaved off to your head.

In my life, I worked. My wife worked. Guess what? We both made the decision to work because life lay before us and with a baby to feed and clothe, but my wife helped me by Showing up. She didn't walk away and leave me in the cold, winter wind. She showed up when I was the weaker of the two and dumb when it came to speaking up as a man way too young to be a husband and dad.

But here we are 43 years later and both of us retired. Our only daughter passed away on this date, Feb. 11, 2016, due to a heart attack stemming from respiration problems in her sleep. Her heart was simply worn out. But she Showed up and gave us Three wonderful grandchildren who a part of her still lives. They are and will always Show up when they reach adulthood and hopefully Show up when they become one half of a Marital Partner and a mother or dad.

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Showing up literally means do not hide from Responsibility, the fabric of life.
Showing up literally means do not hide from Responsibility, the fabric of life. | Source

© 2019 Kenneth Avery

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      Ken Avery 

      2 years ago

      Mr. Happy -- you, my Good and Treasured Ally, I can always count on you to give me a needed-shot of creativity with your points made about me, a subject that I seldom use in serious light.

      I like to put myself in a comedy setting and be the guy who falls face-first into someone's buffet table, preferably a Wedding Reception.

      I would yell at one end of the room to get all of the attention then start off like a first-class sprinter and when I am with 5 feet, I jump onto this steel chair spreading my arms like an eagle and taking the ham, cake, and drinks IN MYFACE or in THEIR face. Get it?

      May God bless you and Thanks, Mr. Happy.

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      Mr. Happy 

      2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      "but Show up regardless" - I don't have to (in terms of family life). I planned my life in such a way that I simply do not have to.

      "We both made the decision to work because life lay before us and with a baby to feed and clothe," - I skipped this part, You see? So, I show-up when and where I deem necessary. I don't "have to" show up anywhere, really. Like, if I leave the house and do not come back tonight, it's perfectly fine. I don't need to hear anything from anyone. There is no shortage of children in this world (as I told a buddy last night) so, I did not engage in the multiplying of children on this planet.

      "She didn't walk away and leave me in the cold, winter wind. She showed up when I was the weaker of the two and dumb when it came to speaking up as a man way too young to be a husband and dad." - Hats off to your relationship with your wife! That's commendable, in my opinion. There's a saying: "If You want to go fast, go alone. If You want to go far, go together." I tend to move fast; I need to be alone.

      Ohh man ... my condolences for the loss of your daughter. I will never know the happiness, or pain from having, or losing children. So, I feel that anything I say here will be inadequate. Sigh ... sorry Amigo.

      All the best to You and the family.

      May Wakan Tanka walk with You.

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