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Change Your Words To Change Your Relational World - 7 Things That Will Help Make Your Relationships Better

Updated on September 25, 2012

Re-create Your World

There is an awesome potential within you which contains inestimable power...for good or for destruction, for positive or negative application...and it is the 'power of your words' that is, what you say.

Words have power to influence, to persuade, to create, to encourage, to release, to lift up, to empower, to inspire - or - to kill, to destroy, to limit, to wound, to cripple, to undermine and to block.

Your words have power to affect the people in your world

Use Your Words Wisely

An ancient Proverb says, 'The power of life and death is in the tongue...'

Ingrid Bengis said, '...Words are a form of action, capable of influencing change. Their articulation represents a complete lived experience'.

With your words, you create and frame your world - the type of environment that you live in. You can either talk yourself full of hope, joy, possibility and excitement...or...fear, anxiety, hopelessness and dread.

7 Things that will help you

Here's 7 things to help focus your 'word power' to create change for the better in your relationships:-

1. Believe in your friends, children and partner. Be generous in your praise. Admire often. Let the people in your world be themselves - that is, don't give in to the urge to 'make them over' by imposing your opinion.

'In a relationship each person should support the other; they should lift each other up'. Taylor Swift

2. Avoid nagging at all cost. Nagging never works. It wears away at any relationship and destroys a healthy happy atmosphere. Rather, encourage the best in others and maybe try to offer suggestions.

3. Show honest appreciation. Make an effort to make the people in your life feel 'special'. Express it with words. Remember most people are not mind-readers. Appreciation needs to be articulated.

4. Never criticize. If you can't say something nice... sometimes it's better to say nothing. Learn to phrase your conversation in the positive. Listen more and affirm what you can.

5. Learn to speak what you hope for and are working towards in your life - talk it up. Try to not talk out all your fears, problems, difficulties and the reasons why something can't happen. What you focus on tends to grow and can become your perception (or reality) of life. Speak the dream, the possibilities.

'Words satisfy the soul as food satisfies the stomach; the right words on a person's lips bring satisfaction'. A Proverb

6. Show courtesy and respect to the special people in your life as you would to 'strangers' or visitors. Rudeness, interrupting, sarcasm, insults, harshness and shouting can destroy relationships. Practice speaking graciously - the way you would appreciate being spoken to.

7. Learn and develop the 'art of conversation'. Try asking questions to draw the other person out and to engage in discussion. Remember to listen before jumping in with your next riveting piece of information. Give generous time to getting to the place where you can talk freely and openly then you will reap the benefits and delight of conversing with a 'friend'.

'Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation'. Oscar Wilde

Hope these suggestions are helpful to your relational world.


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