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Cheating Men and Cheating Women

Updated on November 28, 2018
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Most women cheat equally to men

You were shocked and what you felt was most difficult to explain when you found out your partner was cheating on you.

His excuse for the hickey:

He had no idea what had happened because he fell asleep from the alcohol.

After all that you still care for him and don't want your family to break up, and you stay together.

  • Would you regret staying years later?

Sometimes a woman tries everything to keep a marriage together, but there comes a time when they have had just enough.

Betrayal is like a deep cut, it hurts the most, and the pain doesn't go away very easily, especially in the following case:

A woman found out her husband was cheating on her with two women.

This happened to be on the evening of their tenth wedding anniversary.

A wonderful gift indeed!

She noticed her husband sending a message from his mobile phone, and what a sly being during their dinner he was at it.

When she later looked into his phone there were explicit pictures and explicit texts.

The woman remained calm that night, and approached her husband the following day.

He begged for forgiveness, and that he would change and start all over again.

Shamefully, she gave him a second chance but he did cheat again, this time she moved out.

The time she put herself last, and wanted to make everything right, and each time she tried he betrayed her over and over again.

Life for her was different, and she moved on to her way of life in putting herself first, and thinking for herself. Just like she should have right from day one.

A few years ago a woman caught her husband cheating on her.

She knew something was wrong, and when she confronted him the only words he could say, ''Stop thinking like that.''

Without trust you have anything in a relationship.

He went out with some friends and played a bit of snooker, he got home very late that night.

While he was asleep she hunted for his cell phone and saw a message, ''Sorry babe, you can come back again, the police are no longer here.''

After giving him her best years of her life and that is what she got back in return.

He cheated on her and had the courage to explain his affair. They are still together.

  • How would you approach your cheating partner?

A long distance relationship that went on for over three years, and after speaking to her boyfriend she realized his conversations are happier.The problem here you feel threatened by another female that is physically next to him.

He stood his ground and didn't respond to their advances. However, with this one girl, he didn't stand his ground, and she preferred to have him as more than just friends.

Would you be crushed if you saw an email from him to her with the words, '' I love you?''

You gave him three years of your life, and he betrayed your trust. I wouldn't focus on him he is not worth my time. There is absolutely no purpose for the empty promises.

Your partner was cheating on you, and off-course you never thought it would happen to you. An affair which went even further, with another man with whom he has been friends with for a while.

It can be extremely hard to understand when such things happen to you. A friend making your life miserable, and yet you never saw anything strange from the beginning.

With poor communication and understanding things got out of hand. He didn't talk about anything to her, about his doubts, and about his differences. Healing from this is hard, closure is needed but even that is far fetched.

How do you find closure if your husband had an affair with another man?

A woman can feel shocked, or numbed from finding out about her husband having an affair, and sometimes withdrawn from everything else. You find out your husband is having an affair, and after confronting him about it, he becomes very sick and requires heart surgery. During which time you feel bad for what had happened to him.

Would you forgive him while in a hospital bed, very ill after heart surgery?

It is hard to trust someone after an affair, and if they often tell you, ''I love you.''

What does ''I love you'' mean to them and you?

Affairs start online and off line, and in many relationships If you are married for many years or in short relationships, sometimes you can't control how you feel about these situations and fall apart in the process.

One can become lost, and in many cases, the marriage has to be saved for the sake of the child. A problem can't be solved if it is from the same kind of mind which formed it.

A woman cheated on her husband before marriage, and once a cheater always a cheater. She lived in miserable life for a couple of years. He found out after their over twenty years of marriage, that she had an affair before their marriage. He saw the affair as cheating on him even though they were not married at that time.

Do you think there is hope for this couple?

Whenever, there is a subject on cheating, he gives her the cold stare, and would not sleep for days, Eventually he would make up for the awkward experienced moments. Most individuals don't admit their faults, and it takes a great person to admit their faults openly.

Would you trust him or her again if they cheated on you with your good friend?

Is it tougher on a man or woman if they are cheated on?

How can you commit to the other if you have been cheated on?

A man who cheats on his wife doesn't respect himself or a woman.

Most men want respect from another man, but see most women as objects. They would get what they desperately need, their pleasure and what satisfies most men the most. Both husband and wife cheated on each other for many years.

After talking about their cheating behavior he still feels it is right to be in contact and to be friends with those types of women. A couple that found it hard to trust each other again, and the wife doesn't think it is a good idea for her husband to still be friends with those women.

How would you cope with the problem of cheating?

Imagine your husband cheating on you after marriage, with someone from his past, but you forgave him. Later you find out that he wanted her and had decided to leave you. After spending time with that girl, he finally saw that the grass is no longer greener on the other side. Instead, he wanted his marriage back.

Would you take him back, and still love, and trust him again?

Men cheat on their wives when they feel they can get a woman to do anything in the bedroom, they decide to pick up prostitutes.

Would you stay with him and work things out?

Such situations can be difficult as love finds you no matter where, or what kind of person you are. Remember to be the confident person, man or woman, and get out of a cheating relationship or a marriage.

Cheating has increased over the years and more woman are being caught out just as men. Apart from the mentioned stories above, men and women cheat equally.

The longer you stay with a cheating partner in a marriage, or relationship, the cheating will not stop.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thumbi7 thanks for the vote up and for stopping by

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      JR Krishna 

      5 years ago from India

      Excellent hub.

      I hate people who cheat

      Voted up

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great point made here thanks rajan jolly

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Being committed and loyal to the partner is most important for a relationship to survive. Staying in a trustless relation is not worth it.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jabelufiroz thanks!

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      5 years ago from India

      Interesting hub on Cheating Men and Cheating Women.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan thanks for commenting glad you to read your views here.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vickiw yeah l things change all the time and so do people they grow older and have different interests but cheating is not the best thought thanks

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Nell Rose so glad you stopped to participate in commenting on my hub thanks for being here.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks kashmir56 for the votes up and more and for stopping by to share your views take care and have a good day

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      dashingscorpio thanks for the votes up and awesome I often hear and I also know of people who cheat men or women I think it is a lowest point of someone's life to cheat and you as always give me something more to think about in your comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rose-the planner thanks for the votes and I so appreciate you stopping by and sharing your clear thoughts Rose you are one of my great supporters.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Faith Reaper you are so right and so good of you share your opinion here I appreciate all the efforts thanks

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You have made great points about men and women cheating glad to read a comment from you MsDora, thanks for commenting.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Great hub on a very important issue. Sadly this is happening in society these days. How bad for the children, if their parents are not together!

      Very thoughtful of you to discuss this topic---Thanks!

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      5 years ago

      Gosh, I find this so out if the realm I live in that it makes me feel really naïve. I couldn't imagine behaving this way, or any of my close friends. But as I think about it, it seems nowadays that women think so much of the one day in their lives, - their wedding day, as just a huge amount of money to be spent, and when that is finished there really can't be too much to top that! I don't know about the men. I feel very sad for children who have to grow up with this sort of modelling from parents.

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      Nell Rose 

      5 years ago from England

      Hi, I think you hit the nail on the head so to speak when you said that people, or men who cheat do it because they want to show the real person that they are and not the person their partner believes them to be, totally true! fascinating read, nell

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      Thomas Silvia 

      5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Great well written article my friend, more men and woman are cheating today and just jumping from one relationship to another and doing it over and over. No trust or commitment or loyalty within them. Well done !

      Vote up and more !!!

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      5 years ago

      Excellent hub! Voted up and awesome!

      As you stated cheating is the (choice) of the cheater. An unhappy person has the option to end a relationship prior to getting involved with another person. However the reality is cheaters seek to hold onto all that is good in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" whatever they may be "on the side".

      In the U.S. it has been reported that 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings are initiated by (women). This would seem to indicate that an unhappily married man is more likely to cheat than runt to the courthouse to file for a divorce while an unhappily married woman would rather break ties.

      You raise some excellent points for the betrayed party to consider with regard to forgiveness. Too often I believe people jump towards forgiveness without taking the time to see if they (really) can forgive. The shock of being cheating on and the thought of a breakup or divorce is often too much for them to handle all at once. It's not uncommon for the betrayed party to offer forgiveness and later learn they cannot even if their mate is bending over backwards to make amends. Some of the betrayed people end up cheating themselves or decide to end the relationship. This leaves the cheater feeling as though they were betrayed! Now that is a strange irony! :-)

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      rose-the planner 

      5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Fabulous article! I have to agree with lovedoctor926, I also believe that individuals today do not take the seriousness of their marriage vows to heart. Nowadays it is easier for people to walk away from their marriage or betray their spouse rather than working things out. In my opinion, once you have crossed that line, there is no going back. Even if your spouse forgives you, it will forever be etched in their mind. Things can never be the same. Great video by the way. As I was watching it, I found that I wasn't surprised by what they were saying because I personally know of a few women that cheated on their husbands. So, it is not stereotypically, a "guy thing" anymore. Excellent article! Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      I will never understand that when one takes a vow, it is a promise to be true to that one person. Makes one think they are not understanding the meaning of commitment to one at least in marriage, and should have never gotten married to be with, if one is not prepared to be totally loyal to one's spouse! Sad reality, that appears to have run rampant.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Loyalty is the concept that some spouses neglect. Loyalty to themselves, their spouses, the marriage, the children etc. Perhaps there would be less cheating if we focus on what is best, presently and long term, for us and the people in our lives.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc so true and so glad you stopped by thanks

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926 I am so pleased to read your comment and views shared thanks have a good day.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is an epidemic in this country. I have always been amazed that a partner would want to stay with someone who cheated on them....I don't understand it but I have seen it happen often. Good thoughts!

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      5 years ago

      Excellent hub. I think what's happening these days is that people aren't taking their wedding vows all that seriously. Rather than trying to work their problems out, they start looking elsewhere as if changing partners was the solution. There are a lot of temptations these day. Just look at the way some of these women are dressing and shamelessly throwing themselves at men without caring whether they are married or in committed relationships. Sometimes a man is married and won't even tell you. The grass is always greener on the other side. You are right. Women cheat equally but for different reasons. You often hear people saying that if you're not getting it at home then obviously the person is going to find it somewhere else, but in my opinion, sex is not necessarily the only reason why people cheat. Thanks for sharing.


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