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Cheating Partners

Updated on October 20, 2016
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Acts of Cheating

She is talking on her cell phone while he is sleeping.
She is talking on her cell phone while he is sleeping. | Source
He kisses her while the other looks on.
He kisses her while the other looks on. | Source
A problem with him and her she found out about the affair.
A problem with him and her she found out about the affair. | Source
Holding hands secretly.
Holding hands secretly. | Source
The  third person  looks away.
The third person looks away. | Source
She  does not like  what is going on with the couple next to her.
She does not like what is going on with the couple next to her. | Source
She is cheating on her partner.
She is cheating on her partner. | Source
A happy moment.
A happy moment. | Source
A couple happy together after marriage.
A couple happy together after marriage. | Source
He  proposed to her  and she looks surprised.
He proposed to her and she looks surprised. | Source

Cheating Partners don't think of the feelings of their loved ones

  • Would you forgive your cheating partner?

If you are a couple and living estranged lives then forgiving is easy.

The affair is the reason for leaving and the situation becomes that excuse.

Partners who cheat need to be sure about their commitments.

You must be alert about the act repeating itself.

The repeat offender can cheat again.

It would be hard for me to forgive my partner for cheating and the other way around; you trust your partner and don't think cheating will happen to you.

If your partner repeats infidelity that means they won't stop it and sitting down to discuss it is a waste of time and energy.

Everybody wants to heal from that horrible experience. Forgiving someone who cheated on you is with time and may not work out for every couple.

When you marry you have chosen a sacred vow, and the act of cheating does not have to break up that marriage.

Partners who know it was wrong and unfaithful but could not handle their emotions can try to fix the problem right away.

The best choice would be to leave that person and focus on their current lives and partners.

  • For example:

A man cried in front of his wife and was sad but also angry with himself for cheating on his wife. He does not deserve a woman who stays faithful to him. She wanted to leave and could not stay with a cheater.

After rethinking her decision she decided to stay but not for him for their child's sake.

She stayed for their child and will continue taking care of the child until he reaches eighteen.

Forgiving her husband was difficult she could not forgive him for behaving in such a manner.

A married man and he was dating three different woman and he told all three women he married his wife because of her pregnancy.

It was devastating to know her husband could speak of her like that though faced with her husband's acts she chose to stay only for her child.

  • The following situation as follows:

A newlywed for only three months and she found out her husband was cheating. Lying and infidelity so soon in a marriage can scare you.

You think the first year is tough but cheating in a three month marriage is really too much.

Trust shatters when you cheat or lie, it takes a while for you to build the trust between you and your partner and it takes a few minutes to be broken.

She loved him more than he loved her.

This woman still loves him, and hurt and destroyed by his actions of his awful behavior, that has caused her tremendous pain and disappointment.

Some couples don't forgive each other and stay in a marriage for different reasons.Trust regained is not as simple as you think.

It takes time and in many cases trust is not regained.

Cheating men don't care of the feelings of their loved one and the saddest is they don't see their marriages as women do the mistakes they make affects loved ones and destroys innocent lives.

The pain they cause allows for unhappiness and lots of sadness.

Facebook is another way to cheat on your partner and has caused many marriages to break up.

  • Do you think men cheat more than women?

A woman had an affair for two years and another encounter with another guy whom she has been dating for a few times a week.

It was temporary situation but when her husband found out he was not sure if he should stay or leave his wife, and the problem again is trust and trusting her again, was the main hold on their relationship.

He had to leave her.

  • Look at this way if he or she cheated on each other where is the love?

  • Do you have to love the cheating partner or just get what you want from them?

If your partner loves you they have to be honest with you.

  • Women who cheat don't think much of themselves.

They have a low self-esteem and think they are not worthy enough cheating makes them feel most satisfied the new person treats them different to their permanent partners.

Cheating for women is seen from a different perspective.

To women cheating is harmful but she would still go ahead and act on her emotions.

Another problem with women when cheating they want to get back at their partners.

It is called revenge and when seeking revenge it is hard not cheat back at your partner the feeling just feels right at that time.

Women feel lonely and neglected more than men do cheating improves their characters.

Some women feel their dating experiences have been cut short and miss the fun times.

  • The bond with someone new makes it all good again.

The lack of normal attention from their husbands put them in such positions. Intimately women feel most neglected and lonely, they want more from their husbands sadly this often happens and men don't see the problem right away.

Most woman feel their husbands should read their minds of their actual needs. When you actually think about it, in the beginning everything is fulfilled in a relationship.

As time goes by couples look away from each other.

He won’t look at his wife like he did twenty years ago or she eventually loses interest in the man she once loved so dearly.

Women who faced abuse from men looked up toward those men and they tend to want the attention of men even more.

To get out of a relationship with cheating is easy it avoids you working on the relationship and it is used as an escape to another relationship.

Accepting a cheater is another problem with partners.

  • Who would accept a cheater back in their lives?

Men who cheat are liars; they feel insecure and choose to seek other relationships.

When he feels his body is not sexy enough cheating is a way to feel better. The new woman in his eyes will show greater interest than his current partner.

Sometimes men cheat with their immature thinking if their partners don't find out then there is no reason not to cheat.

Traumatic experiences from childhood leads to bad adulthood for men and women.

The need to fill their painful moments with cheating is the answer.

Men too want their partners to fulfill all their needs as women need to.

He could also be a sex addict I watched the movie the Diary of a Sex Addict. The guy had to be sexually satisfied by many women.

When couples want out they use cheating as reason to get out of their relationships.

The emotional distance between two people shows the effort made by the partner is a secret The increased distance explains it all.

Secret cheating leads to divorce in marriages or break ups in relationships.

Married life can be challenging but it does not mean cheating will solve your problems and hectic married lives.

Some women even face depression from their husbands cheating behavior.

Most men don't think of how their children or wives lives are truly affected by their in appropriate behavior.

Let's face it cheating is never justifiable but through experiences you can see why the individual would want to cheat.

Men and women cheat for similar reasons, loneliness, neglect, low self esteem and to get away from the problematic marriages or relationships.

The lack of attention and less communication can also make individuals look the other way.

Commitment should be carefully thought of when taking your next step into a relationship.

Cheating happens and partners blame each other for their wrong doing logically they ignore their exact reasons.

People grow and change all the time. Partners who cheat on each other just have not accepted their partners for their real images.

The connection is lost and acceptance becomes the challenge in such relationships.

How to Cope with Cheating Partners

Cheating Partners Look to Improve their Self-esteem

Do you think men cheat more than women?

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Cheaters

Writing allows me to see life from a different perspective.
Writing allows me to see life from a different perspective. | Source

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Interesting hub DDE. I think there are a number of different reasons that men and women cheat. Sometimes the reasons may be understandable, but I don't think either of us could forgive the other if they cheated. Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is the ultimate betrayal and you made some excellent points.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jodah I don't think any reason can be understandable for cheating it is just as billy says ultimate betrayal. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here

      Thank you billybuc for stopping by.

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      DREAM ON 3 years ago

      To see couples fall apart because of a cheating partner breaks my heart.. Trust that takes so long to build is ruined and almost impossible to build. There are many reasons for cheating but many could have been prevented if both partners kept open communication between each other. A very important hub. I think if more people read this hub before they cheated they could see how much they hurt the ones they love.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      DREAM ON you are so right cheating is such a painful experience. Thank you for stopping by

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      Another great hub by you DDE and left much food for thought. Enjoy your day and I vote up for sure.

      Eddy.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      People cheat for a lot of different reasons. There are some things you cannot undo.

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      I could never ever forgive for my partner cheating, he would be out the door quicker than you could say 'cheat'! lol! great hub, nell

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      truthfornow 3 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      I think it is hard to forgive cheating because once you have lost trust it is hard to get it back. Some people say they forgive but they really don't or can't inside their hearts and then the relationship is doomed. Also, some people are only sorry that they got caught.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Cheating destroys so many lives. It is a selfish act that cannot be undone. Fortunately for some, forgiveness helps to heal the pain.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thank you for the vote and I appreciate your time and efforts at my hubs.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you very much.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Nell Rose me too feel the same way thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      truthfornow thank you for sharing your comments I appreciate your time.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      teaches12345 thank you very much for stopping by

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 3 years ago from Lagos

      I love the way you tackled this issue even though you nearly 'poured' all the blame on us (men); the blame is for us all (men and women) for the fact that it affects all and brings about a ruined marriage. Cheating is a sin and must be avoided both for the married and unmarried.

      In this new world order, cheating is like taking a cup of water cos it is so easy for many people to do without thinking how hurt their partners would be. Technology made it so easy that via a phone, internet sites and the likes one can get easily laid. Quite disgusting though, but each individual must make it a point of duty to consider the feeling[s] of those they love (marriage mates, children) before taking this wicked step that steals away trust, love, togetherness, joy peace and happiness while replacing 'em with hopelessness, broken homes and revenge etC. Cheating is not an option for anyone aspiring to live happily in a happy home cos once you start, stopping the act would be like a man dragging a bull up a mountain. IMPOSSIBLE!

      Without much ado, I end this in your words "Married life can be challenging but it does not mean cheating will solve your problems and hectic married lives."

      good job

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ubanichijioke so true about cheating partners and I fully understand your point of view thank you very much for sharing your thoughts so directly.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      We've probably all had some experience of cheating; I think it depends on the relationship as to what happens next but it certainly causes heartbreak. Lots of food for thought here. Ann

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      annart thank you

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