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Cheating in Relationships–Having a Faithful Partner

Updated on October 23, 2012

It is possible to have a faithful relationship with your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Why do some partners cheat in a relationship? Is it that relationships and cheating go hand in hand? The good news is that not everyone cheats. As a matter of fact, there are lots of people who will stay faithful to their partners for their whole life. The important thing to remember is that cheating is a choice.

Our society tends to have a double standard between men and women when it comes to sexuality, even in this modern day and age it is still there. The society tends to turn a blind eye to men who are unfaithful and in some cases it condones that type of behavior. However, women are still made to feel as though they are a slut if they have multiple partners compared to men.

Usually men are referred to as studs. You see, double standard does exist. So if a man or a woman tries to say they cheated because they could not help it, you should know that this is not true and there is just something wrong with that particular person. In relationships, why do women cheat? Is it men who cheat more or is it women?

In many cases the warning signs of a partner being unfaithful will be there very early in the relationship. The only problem is that there is no full proof that your partner is cheating on you therefore it becomes very challenging to face him or her to discuss it. Once you spot your partner cheating on you it is better to talk it over so that you save yourself from the pain and agony.

For example, if you are dating someone who you know cheated in their last relationship, what makes you think he/she will not cheat on you? Once you realize that, you can end the relationship and move on find someone who is faithful. Of course, there are people who are faithful and they are looking for someone who is faithful to start a long term relationship with.

Some people will convince themselves that their lover cheated in their past relationship because something was wrong and that they will not cheat on them. Such thoughts could be wrong. There is actually quite a bit of evidence to suggest that men are actually more prone to cheating on caring, wonderful and loving women. Why? Simple, because on some level he thinks that she is so in love with him that he can do whatever he wants to and she will put up with it.

People also tend to cheat because they are not getting the feeling of love that they need. One of the best ways to greatly diminish the possibility that your lover will ever cheat on you is to pick someone who has a lot of self confidence, understanding and rational. Avoid someone who is a jerk, insecure, or who is seeking attention always.


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      Debbie Pinkston 5 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Meeting your partners needs, which requires very open communication and staying connected, is one of the best protections against infidelity. Of course even then there is no guarantee!

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      Joshua Nyamache 5 years ago from Kenya

      I agree with you debbiepinkston. Thanks for appreciating this hub by adding a point.

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      Debbie Pinkston 5 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Nyamache, you have provided some great insight into infidelity in relationships. The reasons for cheating are varied as you stated. In some countries it is quite "normal" for men to have multiple affairs and is regarded as a sign of manhood. Some of it may go back to our basic biology and instincts...but in the end we all have a choice and some make very poor choices that result in a lot of heartache and pain for the others involved: wife, children, family, and ultimately, self.