- Gender and Relationships
Cheating in a relationship, and how hard it is to forgive a partner you truly love
Its a rough game being played the role of a cheater
Getting cheated on in a relationship is pretty tough to handle, mainly because there's a great deal of love involved in the mix. Those couples that are married tend to suffer the most when it comes to this sort of occurrence, and intolerable behavior that is exhibited by either partner or even sometimes by both people.
Depending on how the person has cheated, and how the severity of such an action that's been taken, will make forgiving folks for cheating extremely easy to do for folks, or extraordinarily difficult for others.
It's definitely much more severe than getting cheated by your friend in video games, relationships for the most part however, are a serious condition of the body, heart, mind, & soul, and its surely not a game to be played with at all.
There's many things that people do that leads up to being cheated on today, and they may not be sex related at first, or love life related either.
So, the severity of what can happen, will happen, and has happened all begins somewhere in a persons dark secretive past for the most part, which needs to be addressed ahead of time for sure when you first meet one another, and shortly after especially if any warning signs are noticed.
Such things like random flirting, staring at body parts, touching playfully, becoming close friends with co-workers with intentions to eventually make a move on them, and any forms of attraction are all examples as well of precursors, to the start of an affair and eventual cheating.
As for me I use to hate when people cheated on me in anything for that matter, let alone in a relationship, but I generally let the anger go after some time passed, and eventually I forgave them, but for some folks I guess its impossible for them to forgive someone.
Having an affair truly hurts
Now if the stakes are much higher then it is, in any type of game play, well I may not forgive them, and especially without giving them proper warning as to the consequences, of repeating such a behavior again towards me, or anyone for that matter because cheating is wrong.
I think simply forgiving people without addressing what was wrong in what they've done is actually cheating them out of learning to fess up, and to stop doing such things. This is so for people who cheat on differing terms other then the relationship games, especially when it comes to the level of physical harm, violence, and abusive behaviors which all stem from habitual cheating, lying and eventual stealing of your personal private stuff too.
In the bible though for both the Catholic and Christian faiths, according to God's words, we should forgive those who've trespassed against us. Also when a person gets married at the altar, they do take wedding vows that generally state, "For better or for worse, till death do us apart." One things for certain when it comes to cheating, and having affairs, people certainly find a way to break these heart felt spoken vows of undying love.
Committed by the law
As for the law is concerned whether it be federal, state or local laws, we all know the answer to this, if a person is found guilty, they will have to face severe penalties depending on what the specific circumstances are when it comes to cheating in anything. If the crime fits the criminals profile, then there's a great chance that he or she shall be committed for causing such havoc, and by their many differing forms of cheating tactics used, some may face prosecution for such a crime.
So I must say in terms of man made laws, no way is it as forgiving as a individual person can be, and in harsher cases an entire jury plays the effective role in the outcome, and final judgement of the case. This isn't to much of a difference a case between two consenting adults in a relationship, whether they're married or unmarried. In some cases though, a tough decision have to be made just as severely as a judges heavy handed hammer slams down, when court is our of order. So if your boy friend or girlfriend has charged you with cheating, you better watch out for some crushing penalties to follow, and don't be a married person and get caught, because its lights out in most marital relationships.
Relationships that involve family however, and marriage generally end in divorce over cheating, and is grounds of heavier penalties mandated by laws, for the party found guilty. A heavy sentence of being jailed to a life without consistent payroll, a very harsh penalty for most men who decide to cheat suffering alimony fee's and even child support charges, by their once overly admired wives who are now considered ex-wives.
This sort of relationship issue is also one that's is generally taken up with all of society and humanity as a whole, because when a single tightly knit family screws things up like this, well statistically speaking there's a whole lot of hell to pay.
These people whom are now labeled by everyone as cheaters of societal laws, tend to end up in no mans land, potters field, or even worse, thus adding to the stereotypical low life living pattern of a worthless individual, who failed to simply commit to a real love life. Some even end up in "Lonelyville", also known as the worst places on earth, due to such an unforgiving system that's been set in place for all matters of control, over those who've failed countless times to fall in line with the role and true purpose of a modern day family.