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Cheating in a relationship, and how hard it is to forgive a partner you truly love

Updated on November 5, 2014

Its a rough game being played the role of a cheater

Getting cheated on in a relationship is pretty tough to handle, mainly because there's a great deal of love involved in the mix. Those couples that are married tend to suffer the most when it comes to this sort of occurrence, and intolerable behavior that is exhibited by either partner or even sometimes by both people.

Depending on how the person has cheated, and how the severity of such an action that's been taken, will make forgiving folks for cheating extremely easy to do for folks, or extraordinarily difficult for others.

It's definitely much more severe than getting cheated by your friend in video games, relationships for the most part however, are a serious condition of the body, heart, mind, & soul, and its surely not a game to be played with at all.

There's many things that people do that leads up to being cheated on today, and they may not be sex related at first, or love life related either.

So, the severity of what can happen, will happen, and has happened all begins somewhere in a persons dark secretive past for the most part, which needs to be addressed ahead of time for sure when you first meet one another, and shortly after especially if any warning signs are noticed.

Such things like random flirting, staring at body parts, touching playfully, becoming close friends with co-workers with intentions to eventually make a move on them, and any forms of attraction are all examples as well of precursors, to the start of an affair and eventual cheating.

As for me I use to hate when people cheated on me in anything for that matter, let alone in a relationship, but I generally let the anger go after some time passed, and eventually I forgave them, but for some folks I guess its impossible for them to forgive someone.


Having an affair truly hurts

Now if the stakes are much higher then it is, in any type of game play, well I may not forgive them, and especially without giving them proper warning as to the consequences, of repeating such a behavior again towards me, or anyone for that matter because cheating is wrong.

I think simply forgiving people without addressing what was wrong in what they've done is actually cheating them out of learning to fess up, and to stop doing such things. This is so for people who cheat on differing terms other then the relationship games, especially when it comes to the level of physical harm, violence, and abusive behaviors which all stem from habitual cheating, lying and eventual stealing of your personal private stuff too.

In the bible though for both the Catholic and Christian faiths, according to God's words, we should forgive those who've trespassed against us. Also when a person gets married at the altar, they do take wedding vows that generally state, "For better or for worse, till death do us apart." One things for certain when it comes to cheating, and having affairs, people certainly find a way to break these heart felt spoken vows of undying love.


Committed by the law

As for the law is concerned whether it be federal, state or local laws, we all know the answer to this, if a person is found guilty, they will have to face severe penalties depending on what the specific circumstances are when it comes to cheating in anything. If the crime fits the criminals profile, then there's a great chance that he or she shall be committed for causing such havoc, and by their many differing forms of cheating tactics used, some may face prosecution for such a crime.

So I must say in terms of man made laws, no way is it as forgiving as a individual person can be, and in harsher cases an entire jury plays the effective role in the outcome, and final judgement of the case. This isn't to much of a difference a case between two consenting adults in a relationship, whether they're married or unmarried. In some cases though, a tough decision have to be made just as severely as a judges heavy handed hammer slams down, when court is our of order. So if your boy friend or girlfriend has charged you with cheating, you better watch out for some crushing penalties to follow, and don't be a married person and get caught, because its lights out in most marital relationships.

Relationships that involve family however, and marriage generally end in divorce over cheating, and is grounds of heavier penalties mandated by laws, for the party found guilty. A heavy sentence of being jailed to a life without consistent payroll, a very harsh penalty for most men who decide to cheat suffering alimony fee's and even child support charges, by their once overly admired wives who are now considered ex-wives.

This sort of relationship issue is also one that's is generally taken up with all of society and humanity as a whole, because when a single tightly knit family screws things up like this, well statistically speaking there's a whole lot of hell to pay.

These people whom are now labeled by everyone as cheaters of societal laws, tend to end up in no mans land, potters field, or even worse, thus adding to the stereotypical low life living pattern of a worthless individual, who failed to simply commit to a real love life. Some even end up in "Lonelyville", also known as the worst places on earth, due to such an unforgiving system that's been set in place for all matters of control, over those who've failed countless times to fall in line with the role and true purpose of a modern day family.

Can't you feel the love emanating from off of their lips, so why is it that it seems to fade away some how, "Darn Cheaters"
Can't you feel the love emanating from off of their lips, so why is it that it seems to fade away some how, "Darn Cheaters"


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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Lostgirl85, you are right, my father is suffering today because of his cheating long, long ago on my mother, and she has passed to the other world, so I seen his pain at her funeral as well.

      What a heavy burden to carry indeed, I just hope those who don't have a heart, can change because they too will live with such regrets as well someday, even if all the sex their having may feel good or what have you.

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      5 years ago

      Some people cheat and don't care who they hurt. Their not sorry. And they also blame the other person. Its so hard known people do this without remorse. And vary painful when it happened to you. I know sadly.

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      @Shining Irish, oh yes indeed cheating is a bad deal and something that not everyone can handle that well. I myself have learned to never get angry at it.

      I simply have learned to move on to a better person, if my current partner seems too have the need to be with someone else besides me, and it worked wonders for me in the past for sure.

      Thanks for the cool comment and in depth insight here, as well as for sharing with me as always.

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      @lilmama4273 , thanks for the very kind comment,for sharing with me here and it was a tough question to answer for sure, but I did my best with it all.

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      @Mhatter99, cool comment bro thanks, yeah cheaters suck for real, who knows bro, I just like writing about everything and anything when questions about real things like cheating comes up.

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      Thank you @Made, for the cool comment here, oh yes indeed thinking prior to taking action is paramount you got that right, and cheating definitely isn't the way.

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      Your welcome Josh, I do my best to put out what ever I can, for humanity's sake, and mostly because I get tired of things going so wrongly for many people worldwide, and so this is my part, and all I can do with what I have, you know.

      Thank you for the visit and for the cool comment.

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      6 years ago

      Trust is like glass, once it is broken, it can not be repaired. We already know that men and women cheat for different reasons; however, I notice a pattern in men. Many men cheat and think they can get away with it. After they cheat, they come back all sorry and apologetic professing their undying love to their wives. As long as women allow this, it will continue. Be strong, recognize your worth and tell the cheater to take a hike!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 

      6 years ago from Upstate, New York

      We have all probably experienced a form of cheating at some point. I choose to forgive and forget. "I forgive you and now I want to forget you". I don't like holding on to anger and frustration and I have always been a forgiving individual. I don't hold grudges. However, once you lose my trust I have a very diffidult time giving it back. Usually I don't.

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      6 years ago

      This is a very hard subject to address. I just can't imagine how people can cheat and not think about all the people they hurt.

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      Martin Kloess 

      6 years ago from San Francisco

      I love this person. This person is a cheater. Hence, I love this cheater. Does this make it right? rather than change that person, make it hard for others to compete.

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      Madeleine Salin 

      6 years ago from Finland

      You should think before you act - always. It's very egoistic to cheat and it will affect many people around you. Good hub!

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      Joshua Zerbini 

      6 years ago from Pennsylvania


      Very informative hub on a serious topic! So very relevant, this happens all the time unfortunately. Thanks for all of you insight here, much appreciated! Great job Mike!


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