Children First Please
Starting off on a positive note, I know a lot of single mothers who are strong and independent women. They provide for themselves and for their kids without the help of any man. Their bills are paid on time, there's food on the table and there's a roof over their head. They put their kids first before any decision and raise their kids to do better and achieve more in life.
However, there are also some women who put their kids at the back of their mind when it comes to men and other wise choices. They forget who was there first and who requires more TLC. They let any new man they may be seeing, into their home (bed), without first thinking "will he accept my child/children as his own and agree to help raise them?", because if not, why is he there?
They fail to realize the importance of a stable and strong family home. Sure things didn't work out with your baby's farther, but as long as both parents are communicating like responsible adults and not busy trying to secure points, and as long as he is playing his part financially then your household shouldn't be too bad. But when certain single mothers start letting men into their life and child's life who they barley know, huge problems soon occur.
I know women who have dated multiple men and have ended up with multiple fathers (who are no longer with them) for their offspring's, does this make any sense? I'm not trying to ridicule anyone, I've just seen so many problems that have occurred such as misbehavior/getting kicked out of school. Total relationship breakdowns with family, joining gangs to compensate for the family they lack at home. This quickly leads to drugs, violence and much more.
The point I'm trying to make is that a strong family life is indispensable when it comes to raising children in order to give them the best sense of security, love, direction, education and stress free childhood which they deserve.