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Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow: Inspired Then, Inspiring Now
The Unconsciously Uncoupled Pair Starts to Consciously Couple
In a world where true love is hard to find, Chris Martin, the British singer, songwriter, producer and co-founder of the rock band Coldplay, and Gwyneth Paltrow, the Iron Man and The Avengers actress, have given us a perfect example of a beautiful relationship.
The couple, who got married in 2003 and parted ways in 2014, continue to give relationship goals to people across the world through their evolved form of marriage dissolution. The world was in awe of Martin when he released a song called “I am Your Baby's Daddy” in 2004, after the couple gave birth to their daughter, Apple Blythe Alison Martin.
When a judge finalized their divorce in 2015, fans were left with brokenhearted. However, the couple have remained good friends and, according to an article in Vanity Fair, were seen having a good time with their kids at the Hamptons just two days before finalizing their divorce.
Many couples remain to stay on good terms in order to co-parent their kids but posting selfies at Disneyland or hitting the stage together for a Coldplay performance is something that the world is witnessing for the first time. The duo is certainly giving some relationship goals for other couples.
I am Your Baby's Daddy - Coldplay
Setting an Example for Others
“Like Moses had power over sea, so you've got power me.” These words from the song “Moses”, written by Martin for Paltrow, sums up their relationship beautifully. In fact, the couple even named their son Moses Bruce Anthony Martin.
The singer remained a vegetarian during his relationship and was even named World's Sexiest Vegetarian by PETA in 2005. In a country like the United States, where 50% of the marriages are reported to fall apart, the couple is setting an example of how you can maintain a healthy relationship despite having differences.
According to an article by Provda Law Firm, nearly 41% of first marriages in the country end in divorce. This number increases to 60% for second time marriages and 73% for third time marriages. Even major cities like New York and New Jersey have divorce rates of 8.4% and 8.2%, respectively.
Children from broken homes are more likely to drop out from high school and about 25% adolescence who have seen their parents split up become disengaged from their families. They also have lower academic achievement, along with behavioral and psychological problems.
This is why is becomes so important for parents to learn from Martin and Paltrow that your personal problems should not affect the development and future of your children.
Moses - Coldplay
How Can Couples Therapy Help?
Couples therapy or marriage counseling doesn’t mean that you can only work on getting back together, it can also help you part ways in an amicable, or at least less messy, way, according to New York based psychotherapist, Linda Charnes. Here is when you should consider counseling:
- Communication Issues: While in a relationship, your conversations are often likely to end up in arguments, leaving you angry, depressed or feeling disregarded. This also includes nonverbal forms of communication, like body language and facial expressions.
- Suspicions: If you have any doubts about infidelity or have caught your partner cheating on you, consider seeking help. It can really difficult to forgive and move on in such situations, often spoiling healthy relationships.
- Sexual Life: If you have reached to a point where there is no physical relationship between the two of you and you merely co-exist in the same place, you should seek counseling. It might not be the end of the relationship and you could work through things.
- Trust Issues: When you or your partner have started to keep secrets from each other due to lack of trust, an intervention is needed.
Just remember that it was your decision to get married and that decision deserves a second chance. And if things don’t go the way you planned, Martin and Paltrow's relationship is still setting standards for couples to follow.