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Come Out Stronger

Updated on April 24, 2018

I'm sure a lot of us have been through ups and downs in relationships, feeling like we give and give and men just take and take. It's like they want us to be their mother or something. We have to start fighting back and giving these no good bums the boot. Kick his lazy butt out and find yourself a good man. I'm not talking about a prince that owns an whole island (but if you find one kudos to you) I'm talking about someone who brings as much to the table as you do, that special someone that gives you goose bumps when he smiles. Someone that loves you for you and who you feel safe with.

Now ladies, we have a tendency to get picky and whiny when it comes to picking out potential mates. It's okay to have options, and I hope you find the man of your dreams but also look at the bigger picture. If you have a qualities list, burn it. Why do we even make the list in the first place. Men are there own species and we can try to draw up the perfect guy but let me tell you its not going to be the same guy that you listed. He may at least have half of the qualities that you look for. Don't let that fancy car and big house fool you, for all you know he could be a womanizer and total pig. There are plenty of good men out there it just takes time to find that one.

If you have been hurt before don't jump right into a relationship. That is one of our fatal mistakes when we break up with a guy we feel we need to have that special someone but in reality we really need to be with ourselves for awhile.

Let everything in life take it's course. Now I'm not a relationship expert but I can say that as women we rush into a lot of relationships out of neediness,loneliness, and desperation to have kids.Just take your time! Enjoy life! Stop stressing about how you are running out of time to have kids, or when he's going to put a ring on your finger. Put a ring on your own finger!

Stop whining and running men away with all your desperation. You might have had that special someone by your side but you scared him away with all your nagging. Play it cool. I guarantee you will have plenty of time to get married, have kids, buy the house, and retire in sunny Florida.

Be strong ladies.


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      8 years ago

      I agree with Christine. It's like we are brainwashed or something.

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      Christine P Ann 

      8 years ago from Australia

      I agree, why is it that it seems to be instilled in us to find the right boy/man get married have kids get the house all targets to be hit and while we are focusing our attention on someone elses plan for us we miss living, just living and being spontaneous. Great hub, write some more and add to this one :)


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