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Communication : Its Importance In A Relationship

Updated on May 5, 2015

Communication And Relationship

Communication is a complex process. It is an art of transferring ideas,thoughts ,and information from the mind of one individual to another. During communication 10% - 20% is made up of speaking while 80% - 90% is made of body languages, facial expression, and the tone of the voice. Effective communication is always two sided, it is said to be a two side process.

Communication Skills

Communication skill is very vital in building a very healthy relationship. Communication as a critical part of our lives ( Relationship) involves interacting between ourselves and our spouses.

One of the most common causes of relationship breakup is lack of communication. Communication as a crucial part of a relationship is known to be the most important part of a relationship because the more we communicates with a person the more closer we become.

The Importance Of Communication In A Relationship


Communication brings about trust . When trust exists in a relationship, it becomes very possible to talk about virtually everything including sharing our secrets, feelings, and even sexual preferences. When we communicate with our partner we build trust in our relationship. This factor helps strengthens our relationship.


Communication in a relationship brings about understanding. This factor contributes to the growth of our relationship. It helps us understand our partners by knowing what their wants and needs are. With understanding in a relationship their will be minimal disagreement in virtually everything including sex, birth control, friends and even money.

Knowing Our Boundaries

Communication in a relationship helps us to identify our boundaries when it comes to our relationship. This gives us an opportunity to let our spouse know what grounds you or they cannot cross, for example words that could break your heart or your partners heart when used. What act you or your partner could commit that both of you won't forgive. And more importantly our sexual boundaries; which includes what your partner loves doing in the bedroom and the adventures they are not willing to get involved in financially wise. The list goes on and on.

Safe Havens

When there is communication in a relationship both spouse let's down their guard and become their true selves. They become not just lovers but friends and confident. They can easily share theirs desires, secrets, fears, concerns and their deepest dreams and aspirations. This allows us to talk to our partner about virtually everything even outside our relationship; from their weaknesses to their strength. It creates a safe haven where we can always run to for comfort and safety.

Love Joy And Laughter

When spouse do not communicate they lose love and affections for one another. The joy and laughter in the relationship goes away and the relationship becomes empty and void. But when we communicate in a relationship it brings about laughter which is very essential in life and is a gateway to a healthy long life full of joy and love.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      Communication is all about establishing an understanding.

      Essentially it's one person expressing an idea or thought and another person acknowledging they heard and understood what was said.

      Too often however people confuse the word communication with action. Generally speaking if someone isn't getting what they want from their mate they'll often state they're having "communication problems".

      Just because one's mate does not give them what they want does not mean their mate did not hear them or understand them. Communication is not an "ask and it shall be given" proposition.

      There are two basic reasons why your mate would not give you what you've asked for after you've expressed it's importance.

      1. They don't have it to give. (In other words it's not who they are.)

      2. They don't feel you are worth the effort to give it to.

      Depending on how important it is to you may cause you to evaluate if you've chosen the "right mate" for yourself.

      One strange irony is oftentimes when one's mate does give them what they "asked for" there remains a bitter taste of resentment. Essentially some people feel like they should never have had to "ask" in the first place!

      What they really wanted was for the idea to come from their mate!

      Communication is the GPS for relationships. It lets you know whether or not you're "growing together" or "growing apart".

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as is or move on. The choice is up to us!

      One man's opinion!:)

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      Chinwe Jane 2 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks Sharan, I do agree with you. With communication in your marriage it definitely will be a beautiful one.

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      Chinwe Jane 2 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks Billy...actually I call it the marriage therapy.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Interesting and nice hub!

      I agree with you that communication is vital in a relationship of any kind. But it is all the more important as regards married partners. And my husband and myself do follow this in our married life.

      Thanks for sharing this important topic. Well done and voted up!

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      Dr Billy Kidd 2 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      You nailed it! If you communicate well with you partner, you can relax--and act like friends. Kick back and laugh, etc. Don't hold grudges.