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Confronting An Unfaithful Spouse
Upon discovering that one's most cherished lover and confidante has been disloyal, it can be quite frustrating. However, problems like these do not go away by ignoring them. They must be dealt with first-hand.
Here are the steps one must take in order to properly confront a cheating spouse.
1. Put Pen To Paper
Document any evidence you have of spousal infidelity, and write down your thoughts and feelings, as well. Some of the things you might want to say or present to your partner may be difficult to express so having them written will help.
2. Confront Them Calmly
Take a deep breath, and relax. While you may feel angry, no good can result from hitting or yelling. Present any and all evidence you may have regarding your partner's infidelity to them with a calm demeanour. Remember to listen to everything they have to say. Calmly and rationally express your viewpoint when you can.
3. Don't Place Blame
At this point, you will likely feel wronged, and wish to place blame on someone. DON'T!
Don't waste your energy. Don't blame them, yourself. or a third party. This won't change anything, and can only cause a breakdown in communications.