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Control Your Anger Towards Your Spouse
There isn't a relationship out there that is free of issues, not matter
how much a couple are in love, they are bound to have their areas of
There are going to be times in your relationship where your spouse will do something to upset you, there are going to be times where your partner doesn't live up to certain expectations you had of them which will cause you to be fraustrated. There will be times where it will feel like you are the one doing all the work in the relationship, there will be times when you will feel like your partner isn't contributing as much to the relationship and as a result you are having to carry more of the responsibility and burden.
There will even be times where your spouse or partner might speak to you with a tone of voice that you don't like or speak to you in a rude manner with a bad attitude.
The tendency is to want to react when such things happen in a relationship, afterall who wants to be in a relationship where everything feels one sided, who wants to be in a relationship where they are the one doing all the giving and the other person is contributing very little, who wants to be in a relationship where they are spoken to in a tone of voice they do not like. It is only human to want to react to these things and give your spouse a piece of your mind to let them know how you feel.
While there is nothing wrong with talking about how you feel, there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Fighting fire with fire will only increase the flames. Out of anger many have said and done things to their spouse that they later regret and you must remember that your words are like eggs, once you drop an egg you can never gather it back together and its the same thing with speaking and reacting out of anger, once you've had your outburst even if your spouse later forgives you, they will always remember your hurtful words or actions so be careful how you handle yourself in your moment of anger.
There is a wise saying in the bible that he who has master his tongue has mastered his life and that is extremely true. speaking out of anger to your spouse will cause you to say some things that can greatly damage your relationship. Another thing that you need to remember is that, when you are angry you are only seeing things from your point of view so you feel justified but maybe if you took the time to look at things from your partners perspective you might not feel so justified. So before you react in anger, at least try to find out your spouses perspective first to see whether you really have a case or whether you are just overreacting.
There have been plenty of times when I wanted to react angrily to my wife about certain things I wasn't happy with, but I have taught myself to be slow to speak so that I don't end up saying something I shouldn't have. Even though I know she doesn't like it when I'm angry and quiet because she wants me to talk about the problem, but I find that it's better for her to be upset with me for not talking than for her to hate and resent me for saying something really mean to her in a moment of anger which I would later regret anyway.
I find that many people choose to have angry outburst under the excuse that they can help it, when really the problem is not that they cant help it but they don't want to help it, the ability to keep your tongue in a moment of anger is a sign of maturity. There are plenty of ways to sort out problems in a relationship without fighting, yelling, cursing etc.
Learn to make allowances for your partners weaknesses, they are afterall human, only God is perfect. Another thing I do to control myself when I feel like having an angry outburst with my wife is that I think back to all the good things my wife has done for me, how she has stood by me and supported me, I think about all the things I love about her and then I ask myself if its worth ruinning all that because of a moment of misunderstanding - that usually does the trick (maybe you should try doing this the next time your spouse upsets you and you feel like reacting.
Control your anger towards your spouse, don't let your anger control you.