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Cursing: Not Welcome Here

Updated on April 27, 2017
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Kenneth has been a member of HubPages for five years. He is retired from a 23-year career in the weekly newspaper business.

This is not a Complex

issue. In fact, millions of normal, hard-working folks curse. Bus drivers, cops, short order cooks and even the pretty waitress curses when her tip is not given. Think about it in an honest fashion. When was the last time you really cursed? Can't remember? That's cool. No one really thinks to take an accurate count of times we have cursed.

But now we face a definition of junctures: common cursing (or "cussin'" to some folks) is a way for people who dabble in the Art of Black Magic and then say a phrase or two if the dabbler has been offended and look out! Terrible things are about to happen to this person who caused the dabbler to be offended. Have you ever read about this stuff?

This man is in the process of cursing someone or something due to his excessive temper.
This man is in the process of cursing someone or something due to his excessive temper. | Source

(In Above Photo) is the

perfect example of someone who is, or has lost their temper and when this happens, (many times) this man's mouth moves and out comes many vulgar, degradable, and harsh words and phrases aimed at the source or person who has made this man say such anti-social things.

I am not going to make one of my famous lists of vulgar words and phrases, because I value my sweet followers and I also give them all a lot of credit for their high I.Q.'s in not having to have a list such as mine. Note: any reasonable person knows the difference between vulgar and nice words and phrases.

Just stop a moment if you ever see such an individual such as the man in the photo above and you really don't have to understand every vulgar word he is spewing out, just know by the faces in the huge crowd now gathering that this guy is cursing and cursing to "beat the band."

Would you say that this girl is hacked off and cursing or just hacked off?
Would you say that this girl is hacked off and cursing or just hacked off? | Source

Time to ask you the Special Question:

"Is there ever really an acceptable time for anyone to curse?"

I used this bold type to emphasize how serious that I am about people cursing in places that are not welcome. In yesteryear many people cursed as if they were drinking a glass of water. Even some priests cursed "if" the words used were not causing others to be condemned or sent to eternal damnation by Almighty God, but since we are all born with a free will and can make rational chances, why would anyone of us have such a burning need to curse someone or some thing?

Know what I am driving at? I hope so. I would hate to know that I wrote this much about cursing and not make a legitimate point and if you know me well, and some of you do know me well, you know that I do love making legitimate points as much as I do love eating bacon and eggs for breakfast.

So I guess it's "that" time. Not the best of times, I will give you that. But "the" time to ask, Is There Really any Place That is Acceptable for Cursing?

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This pretty model is neither angry or cursing. She is just kicking back and being pretty.
This pretty model is neither angry or cursing. She is just kicking back and being pretty. | Source

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to All of the HubPages software engineers, editors and whomever took the time and energies to fix the glitch on our photos where the "source" slot was not working.

To: Christy, Camille, Matt and Others . . .

"Thank You All,"

Sincerely, Kenneth and all of My Sweet Followers.

Ready to Make Notes?

  • Restaurants: never an acceptable place to let your temper get the best of you--no matter if the waitress intentionally spilled your coffee on your freshly-pressed suit because you made a clean, but yet a snide remark toward how she talked.
  • Gyms: where places play sports such as basketball and volleyball. But when these athletes or maybe people who love to work out at various times seem to curse when a team loses or a barbell accidentally falls. These are moments when people are not to go into a fiery tirade and fill the air with profanities.
  • Medical clinics: are no place to curse for any reason. I can understand if a person has had a terrible accident and the driver curses because he is in shock, but if a person is going with a person for an emergency check-up and the E.R. nurse is a bit slow, this is definitely no place for cursing.
  • Schools: especially where the office of principals are located. I can now understand why parents are not getting anywhere from the principal who banned their son for yelling profanities for laughs and the principal did not give in to allow your son to go back to school, sure the parents are angry and now humiliated. But cursing will only get this pair of parents told to leave and if they do not comply, the police will arrest them and probably sue them.
  • Bus stops: are not ideal places for you to curse at the people who are waiting to catch a bus to go across town. Hey, even if you go board the bus and get upset for someone throwing a rotten pineapple at you and curse, the bus driver has the authority to stop the bus and tell you to get off. This is a fact.
  • Police stations: are like the "Mother of Non-Cursing Locations." Even if you are trying to file a complaint against your nosy neighbor and catches them taking his photo in the nude, you are not allowed to use profane language. These guys and gals in blue do not handle cursing well. They have enough stress without you having to throw on extra cursing when there is no reason.
  • Churches: now really. I am not going to dignify this non-cursing location. I mean it. Okay. if the parishioner or child is afflicted with a mental issue where they burst out at anytime for saying ugly words, I would suggest that the priest have a more private location inside the church building just so his members will not be offended out of not understanding the mental issue.
  • Grocery stores: oh yeah. Please try to abstain from cursing while shopping for groceries. I will bring this point home by telling you by this example: a weary single parent, a woman who is working two jobs to support herself and a teenage son and she has to shop for food, but uh, oh! A forward-talking guy stalks her and talks in suggestive terms about how good she looks. Then out of anger, this woman curses him out and for good. The man ogling her leaves. But the store manager tells her to pay for her groceries, but do not frequent his store again.
  • Airlines: I should not have to explain why a flyer is not condoned for cursing a flight attendant, pilot, co-pilot or any airline employee or passenger. I think that you have seen enough reports on television about flights landing en route and the offending passenger being put off of the plane.
  • Offices of the Salvation Army: should never use ugly words from people who are asking for help or just wanting to file a complaint about this all-charity organization. We are supposed to be civil-minded people. Why not act like it?

I hope that you have enjoyed this non-profanity-using hub. I am serious.

Good night to all in Wichita, Kansas.

© 2017 Kenneth Avery


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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Jaye,

      I sincerely appreciate You first, and your Precious Friendship. You have to be one of the warmest, most-caring, giving, hubbers that I have been blessed to know. This is the bottom line.

      Like an old newspaper friend of mine said once, "I would go to war with you any day, Jaye." Just remember that.

      Love you, Kenneth

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      Jaye Denman 8 months ago from Deep South, USA

      Thanks, Ken, for your understanding and your philosophical view. You are, fortunately, able to see the many sides to a situation and respect them. Not everyone can do that, so it is a wonderful trait to possess.

      Bless you - Jaye

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, BBYCNG,

      I totally understand. Cudo's for you from me.

      Write soon.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Galaxy Rat,

      Fantastic comment. I really have to applaud you for your stance against people using profanities--sure, those can do whatever they want, but they may not want whatever they get.

      FYI: Love your pen name. And if you are in the area, you are invited to join me and that would mean a lot to me.

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      GalaxyRat 8 months ago from The Crazy Rat Lady's House

      I think cursing is just wrong to begin with. It is a sin. Sure, when I tell people no cursing, they say, "I can do whatever the heck I want". Heck is sometimes replaced with the h-word or something much worse. I never swear in my writing and comments, and surely not swear in real life... the times when I do, it's inside my head and I try not to do it again.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      You are NOT old fashioned. I am three times your senior and I still flinch when I hear ("cussin'" we say in the south) cursing as people up north say.

      Both places or any place is no place to exert profanities to prove how big or powerful one is or just how uncaring they may be.

      Thanks for all of your comments and more importantly, your friendship.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hey, John,

      I admire and respect your views of profanity and how not to use them and how to not be condemned if we do.

      I am reminded by this one hubber who was very wise in the ways of the unseen world, and he told of this hard-working guy who was sitting in his backyard watching the grill get hot enough to cook steak and other goodies while the wife and kids were inside the house preparing the food.

      Well, this hard-worker just innocently glanced at a lovely young woman in the next yard and she was reading a book and why she had to wear a two-piece, red striped bikini and sunglasses is beyond me and this hard-working guy.

      If you ever see tell of "that" hubber, tell him that I said hello and that I, like him, admire your wisdom and writing talent.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dearest Sakina :)

      I also applaud you for your self-control. You, without a doubt, are one strong young woman--just stay that way and the more you control the human vices, the stronger you will grow.


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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hey, sallybea,

      Nicely-said. Point made. Loved your comment. Write anytime.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Amen, dear friend. Amen.

      I could not agree with you more.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      I found your "occasions" to let fly profanities that you listed and who among us have not encountered a stubbed toe or maybe a hidden hang nail that always finds means to bring us pain in the wrong time and place?

      We are all human and with human failings. So why not just relax and let the current take us down the current of life.

      Now was that not philosophical or what?

      Thanks, dear Jaye, for your your wisdom and humor.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Jaye,

      I have just arrived at this hub and I did not see anything that make me look at you but the sincere, dedicated, and warm human being that you have always been.

      And as far as those comment "Pre-Comment Fixers," I have not had to deal with those. Yet.

      Thanks for your friendship and following.

      And thank you also for your second comment. I found your ideas and thoughts very interesting.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hey, moonlake,

      Good for you! I repeat. Good for you!

      Write soon.

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      moonlake 9 months ago from America

      I was in the grocery store one day when two boys were running around using the f word. They were about 11-12. I finally told them to stop. They did and looked embarrassed and shocked that anyone would dare say anything to them. I'm sure they had a few curse words for me once they got outside.

      I'm not perfect and have used curse words but never the word the kids love to use now days. Enjoyed your hub.

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      Jaye Denman 9 months ago from Deep South, USA

      Kenneth - Please remove my comment, which was merely an attempt to be humorous, one I thought might make you chuckle since you have a sense of humor yourself. Apparently, HubPages has been taken over by some perfect people. I would like for them to know (before you delete this) that I am neither "obnoxious and uneducated," "undignified," nor did I mean to purposely offend anyone who has extremely heightened sensibilities. I myself take offense at the suggestion that I had a "negative upbringing," since yesterday was Mother's Day and I still miss my wonderful mother. So please do me a favor, Ken, and delete both of my comments as I can't do so. I won't try to be funny in one of your hub comments sections again. I promise. Thanks....Jaye

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      Tamara Moore 9 months ago

      I get very offended by cursing, and I think it shows a lack of self-respect, and dignity. I am sometimes surprised at how easily some do cuss. I believe it also shows a negative upbringing. It seems very shallow to me.



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      Sakina Nasir 9 months ago from Kuwait

      Great hub Kenneth and wonderful advice you've given here, dear friend. :)

      To be honest, I've not ever cursed at anyone or at anything in my entire lifetime. I'm serious, I just hate profanities with a passion, I can't bear anyone who curses or even writes curses.

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      John Ward 9 months ago

      I would guess that all of us have been guilty, at one time or another, of using inappropriate language (Cursing). That does include myself. But having said that I agree wholeheartedly that there is no proper time or place that excuses the use of Language that is offensive. We should always do our level best to practice the art of "Self Control". But we should also be prepared, when this is too difficult and our "COOL" becomes "HOT" to ask and BEG to be Forgiven. We were given two ears and two eyes. This is to let us listen twice as long and as hard as we talk. Our two eyes are set to make us look and discern a lot more to incorporate caution and patience, that we may be proactive and not reactive.

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      Jaye Denman 10 months ago from Deep South, USA

      Hi, Ken - I could not help but smile as I read your hub on places/times in which it is unacceptable to use profanity. When I was very young (a l-o-n-g time ago), I picked up the habit of cursing from an early boyfriend, and yes--it was simply a habit. However, when I listen to some young people talk today, I realize my own experience with swearing was relatively minor.

      After I married and started a family, I purposely cleansed my speech from four-letter words in order to provide a good example for my young children. That is when I learned that anything worth saying (or writing) can be communicated adequately if one has a decent vocabulary and without using profanity that makes many people uncomfortable.

      That said, there are still some occasions when I find it acceptable--almost a necessity--to let fly with some zingers. Remember the term "expletives deleted" that we learned before Nixon resigned from office? Well, these words are normally deleted (or withheld) from my usual conversations and writing, but there are a few times when nothing else will do as well as one of the few (relatively mild) "cuss" words I still maintain in my repertoire.

      1. When, walking barefoot through the house at night to get a glass of water, I fiercely stub my little toe on the sharp edge of a chair leg and break the skin, something must emerge from my mouth. In lieu of screaming, I blurt out the first Anglo Saxon swear word I ever learned. There's no one around to hear me these days but the dog; however, she's at the other end of the house still snoring.

      2. I try not to give in to road rage, especially since I don't drive much since retirement and then, rarely in rush-hour traffic. Still, when I'm in a block-long turning lane and, just before my car gets to the left-turn light/arrow, the car in front of me unaccountably stops and waits, only to hurry on through the light during the final two seconds before green is overtaken by yellow. In other words, just enough to thwart my effort to turn. I have to wait for what seems twice as long as it really is while the through-street traffic passes by in front of me. I'm in the car alone, so yes! I use an appropriate swear word, but, mindful to a certain extent of other drivers' sensibilities, I do not accompany this word with obscene hand gestures at the idiot who halted my progress (though not his own).

      3. The other main occasion that rips profanity from my lips (or my fingers, if online) has to do with politics, and the less I say about that, the better. I say enough about it in everyday personal encounters and on social media. The political landscape in the U.S. probably causes more profanity (even among people who normally avoid its use) than any other topic or situation these days. Who can blame me?

      Otherwise, I still rely on the beautiful and mundane words of the English language (sans the "bad ones") to communicate. I love words and enjoy finding the best ones to express the nuances of my thoughts and feelings.

      That is, unless I stub a toe, get behind a selfish driver, or become enmeshed in highly incensing political discussions.

      Enjoyed your hub, Kenneth! It's good to see your sense of humor and sense of propriety overlap.


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      Skarlet 10 months ago from California

      I am so tired of hearing people cuss

      It sounds so obnoxious and uneducated

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 10 months ago from Norfolk

      I agree with you Kenneth, it does not take time just to be polite. Profanity is really unacceptable more especially when it is adults using it in front of children but then of course adults reap what they sow when the children start giving it back to those that taught them. Call me old fashioned but I still manage to flinch when I hear it.