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My Dad is Dating Someone My Age - What Do I Do?
Is your dad dating someone much younger than he is, perhaps someone near your own age? This is more common than you may think.
If you have a parent who is starting to date again, it can be a little hard, but when you find out that your father is not only dating, but he's dating someone who's around your age, it's a whole new story.
Whether you're mother has passed or your parents' marriage ended in divorce, seeing your parents date is going to be hard. You want to be supportive. You want your father to be happy, and you have to realize that he doesn't need your approval in who he chooses to date.
With that said, it's going to suck when your dad finally tells you that he's dating someone younger than he is, much less close to your age.
You may encounter many different emotions, such as anger, confusion, sadness, and concern, but ultimately, it's not your call. It's not your decision to make. Remember that your father watched your date people who he probably disagreed with, but he let you make those mistakes on your own (not to say that your father dating someone your age is a mistake).
This being said, all I can say is no matter how close or distant you and your father are, be honest and open. Express your feelings, and make sure that you've made your thoughts clear. Then, unfortunately, you have to let it go. Say what you have to say so that it's no longer on your chest, but it's your father's decision as to who he will and will not date.
Keep in mind that it's not uncommon for older men to date younger women. No matter what the situation is, it's going to be weird for you to see your dad with someone other than your mom, much less with someone close to your age.
In some cases, older men are enamored and excited about the younger woman. In many cases, the older man gets bored with the larger age difference, as he is may be in a different point in life than the younger woman. In these cases, you just have to wait it out. But, in some cases, the relationship may stick.
I, for one, work with someone who's father married someone 20-ish years younger than her father. My co-worker is right around the same age as her dad's new wife. My friend has half-brothers who are 5 and 9 years old, when her own children are 17 and 19 years old.
In some cases, you just have to deal with it. You dad only wants to be happy. In some cases, happiness may lie in the hands of a younger woman, and in other cases, the younger woman is only a phase.
It may creep you out that your dad is dating someone your age. It may cause you to become stressed or a little depressed. It may even cause you to become anxious when you have to see your father and his new girlfriend.
There's nothing you can do but to be honest and open with your father.
You will need time to process the new situation, and you'll need to explain that to him. If you need this time, explain to your father that you may not be able to see him and his new, younger girlfriend together in the beginning, but eventually, you may just have to deal with it.
It's hard to say what you're going to feel or how you will act to your dad dating someone your age, but you're going to have to feel out the situation and act accordingly. Be an adult about the situation; the more childish you act, the more it may backfire on you.
Age is relative. It's not your call... Voice your opinion. Be honest. Be open. Let it go until the relationship is played out.
Talk to friends and family, but don't gossip or talk bad about your dad or his new girlfriend; leave it at your side and your feelings.