We recall the famous moment in the hit comedy show Seinfeld when George discovers he should try the opposite in his life to be successful. Upon discovering this epiphany he decides to approach a women that seemed interested in him. In doing the opposite instead of ignoring her signal out of insecurity or introducing himself as a successful business man (lie) – he decides to tell her the truth. Mustering up a huge amount of courage he revealed to the woman his vitals: ‘My name is George, I’m unemployed, and I live with my parents.’ Now while that is television, television can mirror true life especially when it comes to dating.
George Does The Opposite
Do you remember what happens when a record get scratched? It often keeps looping and looping –never moving forward. Such is the dating life of people that constantly make the wrong choices in men and women. This is more than a fluke but a series of dating the same person (soul) with a different face. For men maybe you always find a needy woman that believes someone should rescue her from working or having a career and consequently has destroyed everything you attempt to build financially. For men maybe it’s picking the “hottest” girl with the least amount of clothing on that drinks the most shots. For women it might be choosing to date ‘Mr. destined for a parole hearing soon’ or ‘Mr. Scheduled to commit a felony’ any minute now. For women it might be lust at first sight, choosing men according to swag and muscle with nothing else to offer beyond their looks.
So here’s the deal. I’m encouraging you not to wait till 2017 but to decide to experiment for the month of November. Yes, attraction still counts but I’m offering you the idea to clean the lense a little bit so you can see clearly. How about making time for what you might consider your 2nd of 3rd choice which is different than your regular/norm? Beauty and the Beast worked, I’m just saying. Seriously, give some serious thought to learning to entertain and pursue people that display a type of inner beauty. Attraction is important however not everyone has to pursue the 10 maybe you can give time to talk to the 7 and see how that works. Maybe he doesn’t have a 6 pack or look like a model, maybe he has handsome features and seems like a nice guy. Maybe she’s not fashion magazine ready but you observe she is nice to other people, friendly, and that can make her seem down to earth and then you realize she’s kind of cute. Try something different, you just might like your new experience. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are so many people that regret being in certain life situations because they let lust, income, physique, or looks dictate the people they dated ending up with people that made their life a living hell. Try something different by valuing the things that are beyond the surface. Give a second thought to people that volunteer their time, people that are conscious of current events, or perhaps someone you notice outside reading during the day on their lunch break. Relationships do not work when 100% of the relationship is based on sex and physical attraction alone.
BTW- Don’t date differently and treat the person any less than you would your typical person you usually date -no self-sabotage allowed. Blessings