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How to Make Dating Fun
Dating is a skill
Have you tried, failed, almost at the point of giving up after convincing yourself that dating is a complete disaster? Have you found the man of your dreams but let him slip away way too early in the game? Or you may be active in the dating scene but haven't had much success lately or felt that dating has become a chore that you do not have much luck.
Dating is a skill and like any other skill it can be learned. Being an important get-to-know phase that may may lead to a long term relationship, there are a few basic rules you need to make a mental note of to wing it successfully. However the rules on dating have changed, it is equally important to enjoy it and not take it too seriously. Note that these rules apply to any woman of every age.
1. Don't take dating seriously and just have fun
Yes, it's normal to expect that your date will turn out great. However, since this is the first date don't put too much stress on it, and simply enjoy the moment, hang out, have fun, and let yourself enjoy without thinkin much about what ifs and what nots. This way, if the date doesn't turn out well or the guy is a total opposite of what you thought, there is always the option of not seeing him again, ever.
2. Sex should be the farthest from your mind
Sometimes, prolonging that part of being intimate with someone will turn out to be for the better rather than going at it on your first date. It is good to have something to look forward to in your future dates in case it moves to that direction.
Moreover, not having to think much about it gives you freedom to concentrate more on the person and learning more about his personality, if he is worth the time. If he turns out to be the frog prince or otherwise, you have nothing to lose since nothing intimate happened between you.
3. Never get drunk on your first date
Many women are into alcoholic drinks but avoiding such on your first date will do you much better. Intoxication will only make you do things that you will likely regret later on. Do not put yourself in a situation where you forgot what happened due to intoxication. It is much better to keep control of a situation when you are alcohol-free.
A couple of glass may loosen up your date jitters and this can be had if you are a habitual drinker. Otherwise, it is best to steer clear of any alcoholic drink during your first date.
4. Think that this person is just one of the million date possibilities you are going to have
There are guys you will come to date that may seem to be out of your league or near-perfect that it is not hard to fall fast. Remember that first dates are just your initial venture and it could turn out to be good or not. Never make a mistake and hold your heart in its reins. This is not yet the time to even remotely talk about that thing called 'love', not yet.
Remind yourself that this is just a date. Heartbreaks are easy when you fall too soon. These few first dates must be enjoyed for their sake, the thrills, the excitement of going out and learning about someone new. Leave the 'contemplating about the future' stuff when you've been going out for more than a month or so. Don't think of anything long terms at this point.
5. Think that it is just a date
Yes it is! It can turn out a disaster at the end of the night, so what? And even if it did turn out ugly, then find another one. When a date turns out bad, some will either keep on analyzing and then blame themselves or the other for the outcome. This should not be so. When dating, do not expect too much. That way, you reserved room for error and simply enjoy the time spend whoever that person is.
6. Let him do the work after
No matter how gorgeous your date was, and no matter how much you like him, you do not have to do anything after your first meeting. Let him do the work. Guys love to flex their muscles and hunt so let him enjoy that aspect. It is good to not initiate communication after not for any crazy reason. Obviously, if the guy is really interested in you, he will make ways to spend time with you again, so why waste the effort. Isn't that one of the things why you love being a woman?
Now, if your date hasn't given you a call after, that simply means he is not interested. Forget about him and move on. Do not dwell too much if you have had unsuccessful dates because practice actually makes it perfect.
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7. Have fun and just be your slightly guarded self
It is natural to always want to make the best impression to our dates, right? Of course it is alright to wear your best dress, wear perfect makeup and make sure you don't do anything silly to turn him off. However, fussing too much about putting your best foot forward will take out the fun of getting to know each other.
The best way to do it is to stay guarded and yet let your natural self shine. Do not be afraid to laugh out loud if his jokes are funny, act spontaneous, and simply have fun. Dating should be a fun activity meant to be enjoyed and not to be taken too seriously. It could turn out to be a really interesting and exciting activity if women learn these simple tips.
8. Offer to pay the bill
Whoa, some might say. Yes, offering to pay the bill should not be a shock, it is perfectly alright to do it out of courtesy especially if you enjoy the company. If he has been totally horrible date, you can skip this number.
You do not have to fret though, because 100% of the time, your date will not allow you to pick the tab or even offer to split it in half.
9. Be creative
It often happens that it is the guy who takes the lead in planning where or how your date will proceed. However, there are no rules that say that women should not take part in the planning stage. You do not have to be confined to doing the usual dinner, dancing or movie route because there are a million ways to have fun and at the same time get to know the other person.
Learn to be creative and check out the events page of your area and try out other activities as long as it is safe and would not put you in a compromising situation. You can even try to put in as many activity in one date and only your time and open mind is the limit. Checking out museums, taking a walk in public park, having a picnic, skating, fishing, taking an unusual short class together and all sorts of activities offer fun ways to spend time in getting to know someone, and yes, even in your first date!
10. Always ensure safety while dating
Dating as a single woman requires one to take precaution. It is best to meet in a more or less public place that you are more familiar with as to route and getting out. In this age it is easier to take precautions. Most often, people meet in the evening so this is all the more important that a woman had already a plan in place as to how to go home either alone or consider if your date will take you home.
Always have a plan and make sure to tell someone such as a friend or someone at home who can come to the rescue just in case your date turns out to be a psycho. You must leave details as to place and time to someone you trust. It is better to be safe than sorry.
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