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Dating 101 for Women
Author: W. K. Hayes
Dating 101 for Women
The advice given for the men, as you may have read, is for a man to make you feel comfortable and respected. With that said, now it is your turn to learn some truths about men and a completely new way to look at them.
Men are solar opposites of woman and although I am a man, there is no shame in admitting that this is very true. Men are intellectual by nature while woman have very remarkable intuition. Therefore, so that no one is offended, I will elaborate on that statement. Men serve the purpose of what they can see, hear, touch, taste and smell while woman go beyond that with an eerily ESP type, ability. Still, this unique gift to women does not serve you very well when it comes to men in some cases. Especially, when you are trying to get a man to notice you and you are not sure how to go about it.
Granted, many of you think that the best way to have him notice you are to be either, provocative, flirtatious or even, blunt. However, all three may prove effective…virtually; they are useless and send the wrong signals. Being provocative can make a man think you are too easy and then he will only see you as a one-night stand. Being flirtatious is often over-looked by a man since most men do not realize they are even being, flirted with. Being blunt can cause a man to feel threatened; especially if he has been in a bad relationship with a bossy woman and would like to spend the rest of his life avoiding that type of woman.
Instead, approach a man with a general conversation and, do not ask him where he works. Those are the first words that indicate a woman is after money in a man’s mind. Instead, ask him to help you with something like reaching a can from a top shelf. Granted, you probably think that will make you seem vulnerable but men do not see it that way. All men want to be helpful, feel useful and wanted, just as much as any woman. Truthfully, this is all you have to do. If the man likes you, he will take it from there and ask for your number. If he does not ask you but you think he is interested, offer your number to him so you will get a clear answer on whether or not he likes you.
Never be afraid to reach out and make a connection, first. Men do not mind a woman that is willing to show some forwardness. Fact is, most men prefer a woman that had the ability to say what she wants, without sounding selfish. Be yourself and be brave. Just remember, there is a difference between speaking your mind and pushing you opinion on others. Find a balance between the two and never be afraid to ask a man for his number.