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Dating Ladies What Does Let A Man Be A Man Mean To You

Updated on May 2, 2015

Battle For Control

The qualities of leaders

Let him lead.

Let a man be a man.

Two phrases that are so interesting to me. Does one need to let a leader lead? While I must say there are some women that need to understand this concept, there are a minority of people baffled with this concept. From my personal experiences the men that lead have always been leaders from their approach and confidence within themselves to their ability to gain my trust in their guidance and feedback regarding business ideas.

***While all things are not absolute, I did notice the following traits about these men that displayed great leadership****

  1. They grew up in a two parent household, married couple, and their fathers were present in their lives.

  2. They had their own career path and were able to achieve success in their respected career fields and achieve goals by their own hands. No motivation or encouragement needed from the outside world to attempt to achieve success.

  3. Most of these men did not have children or had children after being married.

  4. These men listed to motivational speakers and were resourceful to obtain career information, knowledge, and tools.

  5. They grew up with a religious structure in their lives. Not all continued to attend or practice but the foundation was a principle part of their lives as children and teenagers.

  6. They mentored or gave back to their communities in an effort to help others.


With men who have such a foundation I have found they are leaders.

Dates don't begin with …..Where do you want to go? (not leading).

Dates being with, sweetheart do you like seafood? I have this great place I want to take you. This place has excellent seafood. Are you free Saturday around 8pm?


Leaders don't ask to lead, they lead. While thinking back to people I've encountered, those leaders have these traits. Unfortunately I've also encountered men who say women take charge but these same men can't make a decision to save their life. They are not resourceful and are easily intimidated which reveals they are not true leaders. Leaders not only lead but they make the supreme sacrifices as well for the benefit of those they love. The needs of their object of interest is an important part of their decision making and suggested interactions.

Tips on LIfe and Love

Tips on Life And Love article shared one's man's experience about not being made to feel like a man in a relationship:

I used to have a girlfriend that battled me on simple issues like where we parked when we went somewhere. No matter where I wanted to park, she’d argue that we should park somewhere else. To her she had just as much right to pick the parking place as I did. While she was in the right to voice her opinion about the parking decision, battling me over an issue where I needed to feel like a conqueror only served to cause me to try harder to conquer. So we’d argue back and forth and I’d park where I wanted to just to conquer, or I’d reluctantly give in and flee. For a while I pleaded my case to her and tried to get her to understand that little things were important to me as a man. But she decided that it was more important to her that we were equal in all decisions and in the long run, our relationship was lost in her conquest.

LEAD

Letting go of selfish ambition to make the needs of your signifcant other/family paramount.

Ever sacrificing for the needs of those you love

Attentive to the needs of your mate, making the best decisions to benefit others

Determining actions based on making quality decisions guiding the happiness of your unit/family

Fight For Control/Leadership

Women Who Fight To Lead

Yes, we must address the other side of the equation, women that compete to lead. I have known women that are so bent on controlling others, the dating scenario, and all topics of discussion that it is a total turn off to me and I'm not even dating them. Every gender wants some type of ease in interacting with another person. If you are always saying left every time he things right, it is difficult for the two of you to walk in one accord. I'm not advocating being a “yes” girl or determining your needs do not matter because they do. Sometimes I've people watched women in restaurants. I've watched a woman tell the hostess where she and her date were to be seated, she addressed any menu change requests on behalf of her and her date, and dominate all conversation. It's something to witness a man look totally defeated under the subjection of his date/relationship.

Are You Controlling?

Questions

What are your thoughts on let a man be a man or let a man lead?

Do you feel that women have lost the ability to create an atmophere where their partner feel respected?

Do you feel that women act like men in relationships now more than ever?

Do you think most men possess the ability to lead effectively?

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