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Dating Someone From a Different World
You have heard the phrases in many Nicolas Sparks movies "We're from different worlds." It is usually a rich good girl falls in love with the guy from the wrong side of the track or vice versa. What happens when that happens in real life? What do you do when you meet someone who is different than you and you know that you should not be with but you really love?
You cannot control who you fall in love with and some people hide behind the saying "We are from different worlds." They are scared that the other person is not going to like the real them. They are scared that the relationship will not work out so they end it before it even starts or they start it but feel it is not working so they end it. It does not mean that there is not an attraction or feelings there but sometimes the differences become too much and it can be hard to make a relationship work.
"We are from different worlds" is not always an excuse just to not be in a relationship. If a girl is good and follows the rule she should be with a guy who is good also. She should not be with a guy who will ruin the rest of her life. The guy knows this and deep down in her heart she knows this but she loves them anyway. It is very painful to hear the words but deep down in her heart she knows that it is the truth. After all you cannot control who you fall in love with.
It is not always like the movies where the good girl dates the bad boy and the bad boy suddenly turns good. The bad boy can change but he has to be the one who wants to change. Being in a relationship with a good girl will not change him even though most girl think that way. What will most likely happen will be that he will continue his bad boy ways and he will drag her down with him ruining her future.
The bad boy is not going to want to go to fancy events or do things that the good girl wants to do. They have different likes and dislikes. After all they come from different worlds and even though they could really love each other the worlds that they live in could clash.
So what do you do? Do you give it a chance? If you give it a chance you have no idea where your life will lead. Yes you will be with the person you love but you will not be happy in other ways. If you give him up because he is wrong for you and you know he is wrong for you, you will not be happy either but you are better off in the longrun because this guy will cause you nothing but drama and you do not need that.
There are a lot of guys out there and there are good guys also. You could meet guys anywhere you go. Everyday you go out into the world you interact with millions of people you never know who you meet.
You will hurt inside for awhile but is it worth ruining your life over one guy? A guy from the wrong side of the tracks cannot give you the life that you deserve. The only way he can is if he turns his life around and he has to be the one who wants to do it. If he just wants to stay in and drink with no job than he cannot possibly give you a good life.
So set him free and go find the guy who will treat you right. If it is meant to be you will be with this guy when the time is right. When two people are meant to be together they will be together, it is all about timing. Just make sure that when you and him get together that he changed because people can change. Do not settle for less than you deserve. Love is out there and you deserve nothing but the best.