- Gender and Relationships
Dating a Friend's Ex
Dating a friend's ex is something of a taboo subject in many circles, and the situation can be unsurprisingly fraught with tension. The subsequent damage to your friendship can be devastating, especially if your friend still has feelings for the ex. If you are currently contemplating the idea of dating a friend's ex, there are a few things that can make the decision a little bit easier.
Weigh up the situation
Firstly, assess how important it is to maintain your friendship. If you are close friends, it would be foolish to push that aside in favour of a relationship that could fizzle out within weeks or months. Secondly, assess how important it is to embark on a relationship with this particular person. If you suspect that it will only be a short-lived fling, think twice before rushing in as the repercussions will probably last a whole lot longer. Thirdly, consider how your friend's relationship came to an end. If he or she was cheated on or treated badly by their ex, it is worth reminding yourself of the fact that you could suffer a similar fate.
Making a move on a friend's ex can potentially ruin a friendship, especially if it is down in secret. Being up-front about your intentions is a more honest way of approaching the situation, although it does not guarantee that your friend will not take offence to the relationship. At the very least though, it ensures that everything is out in the open.
Ultimately, you will need to assess whether it is worth risking your friendship for the sake of a relationship that may not last. This will largely depend on whether your friend still has feelings for their ex partner. Many people will not have any problem with a friend dating their ex, but this will not necessarily be the case. If it turns out that your friend is not totally over their ex, you will have to tread very carefully to avoid alienating others in your circle of friends, as well as the friend in question.