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Dating Indian Men
Interracial dating has its own advantages and disadvantages. Understanding each other's cultures and background can help a great deal to make this kind of relationship work. Indian males have been in many countries so it is not unusual for them to take on women other than from their own country.
To fully appreciate and make the most out of the relationship, knowing a few things about them will be beneficial to avoid your relationship moving from sizzle to fizzle.
Generalizations are very limiting. India is a huge subcontinent which is an amalgam of different beliefs and religions. Hindu is just one of the major religions in the country. Take note that within these two, there may still be different subgroups so if you are keen on dating a man from India, make inquiries first as to his religious orientation.
Arranged marriages still persist
Indian families still conduct arrange marriages until this day. Some sectors may have already approve of love marriages but this is only among a smaller portion of society. According to a survey by an Indian private television, NDTV, 74% of Indians prefer arranged marriages over love marriages. Love marriages refers to a union where the couple freely chose a partner with little or no intervention from each family. Even families who have gone on to live abroad still practice arranged marriages. Indian parents want their sons to marry someone from the same background and culture. Love marriages are more of an exception than the rule.
It helps to ask but...
To be on the safe side, ask your Indian boyfriend how his family perceives marriage and relationships. Expect that he may or may not provide you a straight answer as it may not please you. Indian men are still traditional when it comes to family and marriage life, except for a few. If you have been with the guy for a longer time and has had the opportunity to be introduced to his family which is very rare by the way for a foreign woman, it might be a good sign but not an assurance of wedding bells in the near future. Until you are wedded, it is best to not count on it so much or you could end up with a heart break. Acquaintance with his family should never be taken as a guarantee that you end up together. An Indian man's parents still has a big say in marriage matters. Finally, his family will say and their opinion about your will be considered by your boyfriend.
Many Indian guys are known to easily win a woman's heart due to some exceptional traits that are peculiar to them. While most men from the west value being a man and not showing one's emotions, many Indian men know how to handle the emotions of women. In the Indian culture, the mother plays an imposing role in bringing up the children. these males are sensitive to female emotions and often know how to deal with them. Some of them may not be afraid to show their sensitive side which is admittedly found by women to be quiet endearing.
Indians value knowledge and success so much that you cannot blame Indian men as they are prone to be very competitive. Indian families send out their sons to get higher education as these are considered as a ticket to success. More than competition, a lot have excelled in their fields as doctors, engineers and even educators.
Indian males put a high value on family and reputation. It would be unusual for him to go against his family's wishes. It is unthinkable to even expect him to beg off from an arranged marriage. Find out his plans for both of you, if he has none, consider it a sign that he might not be interested to see you in the long run.
Dating Indian men gives another glimpse of a different culture. It may work for some but not for others. Information and good judgement will help you understand the eccentricities of any relationship with a person coming from another culture.