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Dating and Relationships! Keeping your New Lover Attracted

Updated on May 19, 2012

This Time! Don't get Dumped by Your New Lover!

Are you stuck on how to keep your new date attracted to you?

If so I would like to share with you some dating & relationship tips showing how to keep your new girlfriend or boyfriend, attracted to you, & maybe, for love to develop, that could apply to you, if you have just hooked up, & going out with, & started dating your new love.

Attraction is vital for a successful relationship & it always requires work on YOUR behalf so dating should not become a problem to you!

We would all like the ideal girlfriend or boyfriend to go on a date with & to start a relationship with the idea of eventually, sharing our life together, & this information concerning the longevity & happiness of your new relationship is to bring awareness, to provide you, with some ideas about keeping your new girlfriend or boyfriend attracted to you, that you may be missing out on. So please enjoy & feel free to leave me your comments.

Love is a Game of Give and Take!

On with the show….


OK, you managed to pull that boy or the girl of your dreams & you feel something special in the air & for some reason inside you intend they could possibly be the one! Yes that's right, the one, that is just right for you, & you just know it's deeper than only fancying them so you would love to take this relationship to the next level!

Maybe with the idea of eventually building a possible future together!

Who knows?

But did you know, right now, you may be stepping on tender hooks to keep them, well, attracted to you?

And fancying you for a very long time to come?

And this applies especially IF YOU HAVE JUST STARTED GOING OUT with your new date!

But don't go just yet, there's more......

There are many cases whereas you start a relationship with another only to have them dump you after a short time or maybe just months down the road.

And this is because of a few reasons in which some are obvious & others not much so!

Let us say for instance you do HAVE a good personality & a reasonably good sense of humour & you are almost kind of, well, CONSIDERATE towards your new date too?

But let me suggest something!

Before any relationship can become successful you must find yourself attractive & fun to be around & you must also HIGHLY RESPECT YOURSELF within this position in your life & especially as a person to be reckoned with by your girlfriend or boyfriend.

Because if you don’t instill this persona & believe this about yourself & your own personality of sexuality within such a relationship….

Your partner would more than likely pick up on your insecure vibes….

Especially if you don’t find yourself attractive & valuable, also as a person who has no control within the relationship, your partner will perceive this of you too.

And insecurity is definitely a passion killer in the long run.

Ok, there’s my rant over…..

On we go!

Even though you have your personality sorted out, & you consider your sexuality highly, & you may think to yourself that you’re a good catch, this dumping scenario happens to you quite often!

And the methods shared here could apply to both men & women.

Now obviously if you’re some kind of psycho you are bound to have problems within your relationships.

But if you are not such a person then please read on.

Where was I?

Let’s continue back to this step of keeping your new love attracted to you….

It all boils down to independence you see!

What do I mean by this?

Let me explain…

You’ve met your brand new partner, but when you’re not around each other, your partner seems quite busy being involved with important aspects of running their own life, instead of constantly crowding you.

But when you are actually together, they seem quite the opposite!



Wait for it.....

Slow down.....

When you’re not together again you will want to be around them more! But they just don’t seem to have much time for you, or what your idea of a relationship means, & this could really piss you off in the back of your mind because you don't know what their intentions are.

A bit mysterious wouldn't you say?

But life's a bummer sometimes anyway!


You keep thinking about them don’t you?

Especially if you fancy them a lot!

Especially because you find them attractive!

And sometimes it gives you the feeling that they don’t really……need you as much as you want to be with them.

Do you get what I mean?

For some reason they just don’t seem as excited about their new relationship with you as you are for them?

Not in your mind anyway!

Especially when you’re apart!

And this applies especially if they don’t seem to want to get together with you as much as you would like to get together with them, when you’re not around each other!

They keep on making excuses because their busy!

Don't they!

You’re not really quite sure if they actually do dig you as you do them!

You can't have them because they are involved in what they are doing & are out of your reach, now you want them even more!

Does this make sense to you?

That’s probably only because….

Drum rolls please........

They have a life of their own & a relationship with you, or maybe anyone else for that matter, may be in the back of their mind!

They have to run their life, too.

A relationship is not as prioritized as you would prioritize it!

Or it could also be…

Wait for it, this may be sinister.....

They just might not find you really are not suited for them after all, after just a couple of dates or so?

And they haven’t got the balls to tell you so.


When you are together, in each others company, they prove they HAVE got attraction for you & it seems like they dig you too so you would like to continue your relationship. So we will dismiss the fact that you may not be the one, because there is a possibility that you could be what they desire!

We don’t know until we try. And that’s what relationships revolve around!

Here’s the complete opposite example for you to ponder over to take your mind off your new lover for the time being!

If you seem like you haven’t got your own life to focus onto whilst you are dating your new love, that’s because you may try to revolve your whole life around your partners, even desperately (without realizing it) & this mainly applies especially when you first start dating because of all those fuzzy new feelings you got inside.

But this only makes It seem like you haven’t got a life of your own & you become a bit, well, clingy.

In their eyes anyway!

And attractiveness wise….

Clinginess is not an attractive trait at all.

So if you are just NOT TOO SURE if they are into you as much as you are into them…

Do yourself a favour!

For starters, don’t try & force what is not meant to be.

When you’re not together GIVE THEM SOME SPACE PLEASE!

So that is your first step!

Don’t chase!

Don’t crowd!

Give them some space....


Make it seem that you can quite comfortably live your own life without them!


Become a little independent yourself!

Don’t be too arrogant about this.

Don't get smarmy!

Remember, you are still in a relationship!


Here's the clincher!

Focus on your own life & your own abilities & do your own thing!


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Where was I?


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& I don’t mean you must ignore your new girlfriend or boyfriend? Especially when they contact you, to go out, or if they send you a message, or you have both made arrangements to meet up with each other.

Love is a game of give & take!

You can't keep chasing all the time!

What’s meant to be is meant to be.

What’s not meant to be is not meant to be!

Learn the Power & Attract your ideal Partner

Let your Love Vibe Rip!

Consider you are not crowding them! Just give your partner some space to do their own thing when you are not around each other.

And you will become much more attractive as a person to be in a relationship with!

Why is this you may ask?

I would suggest you keep reading to find out but your going to anyway.....

Give them some space when they are not around you & allow them….


To start thinking ABOUT YOU for a change!

Because before they met you they were probably quite a bit independent anyway.

So now you must play a little hard to get to keep that spark fired.

Instead give them just a little.

From time to time!

But for now let them come to you.

& this applies especially when you are starting out on your new relationship!

& once you do finally meet up with each other for your date in person, you can show them in person how you feel about them & how they make you feel.

You can take away all of their doubts about you by showing them how you feel about them when you are in their company!

Then they will surely know!

So to sum up:

Keep your new lover attracted to you by respecting their space, by not constantly trying to crowd them when you are not around each other. Don’t be clingy as though you need them desperately all the time but do respect yourself & prove to them & yourself, that you could quite comfortably live your own life cos you got stuff going on! And when you do finally meet up for a date or togetherness, then you can show them in person how you are attracted to them.

Let your love vibe rip!

I would love to know your take on this? Dale


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    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      5 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you for your comment.

      Regards Dale

    • rainpurplewine profile image


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Great hub, I'm a firm believer in giving space!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      7 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you jacqui2011 it does all make sense really, you got to know what you want, then become the person yourself by getting rid of past baggage, taking some responsibility of blame yourself, then envisage the type of person that you would like to share your time with. Read this article, it really works once you practice the techniques!

      Thanks for your comment.

      Incidentally, guys are soo good concerning the aspects of the article you just read, but let me just mention, ONE OF THE MOST ATTRACTIVE THINGS A GAL CAN DO TO KEEP HER MAN INTERESTED & ATTRACTED MUCH LONGER IS (& Iv'e had many relationships & this personality trait from the woman has kept me so I should know)..........(Want to know more? Just let me know) Regards Dale

    • jacqui2011 profile image


      7 years ago from Norfolk, UK

      Excellent hub which I enjoyed reading. Good advice given too.

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      Thank you for your comment Bel confidence is the way to go & thank you for verifying it from a live audience, I may, if you wouldn't mind, enquire to you about some interesting questions that your listeners may be able to help with as research for some future articles. Would you please let me know if this will be ok with you.

      Regards Dale

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      Bel Marshall 

      8 years ago from Michigan


      I agree. I host a radio show that is about relationships, etc...

      We did a show awhile back and posed the question to me about what they found sexy. The main answer was CONFIDENCE.

      Excellent hub!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      stricktlydating Thank you for your comment. I'm glad you enjoyed what I have outlined, & there's plenty more like that in the pipeline lol.

      Regards Dale

    • stricktlydating profile image


      8 years ago from Australia

      Wonderful detail and advice in this Hub!

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      LillyGrillzit Thank you very much, your bound to like the one I just published, hope it makes sense to many folk. Regards Dale

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      Lori J Latimer 

      8 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      Thank you for this nice article. Your thinking is always interesting and this is good advice. Great Hub. The best to you.

    • Inspired to write profile imageAUTHOR

      Dale J Ovenstone 

      8 years ago from Wales UK

      Well said dotty1 there are many time wasters that just don't know what they want therefore they mess around with the emotions of the partner.

      Thanks for your comment. Regards Dale

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      8 years ago from In my world

      very interesting ...if only all of these tips did work on each and every man beast out there... unfortuantly tho men a a strange breed and god love us women we try we try sooooo hard...but u know wot ... pardon the expression 'balls to that' if he aint interested in me any more even when i've tried then doooooooooont waste ur time girlies ....surely we shouldn have to think so hard ???


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