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Dating and Finding Love at Any Age

Updated on January 4, 2017
Date and find love at any age
Date and find love at any age | Source

At age 44, I instantly began to panic. I used to find the whole concept of a person having a mid-life crisis to be somewhat of a cliché but there I was, feeling scared to death that I was getting older with no one to grow old with. My children were becoming the independent and responsible young adults I had intended and soon would be leaving the nest. I felt I needed to find love, and find it fast. But most importantly, I wanted to find love the right way.

As a single parent, I had devoted all of my time to working and raising my family. Bringing a stranger around my children and attempting at establishing a relationship with anyone, I felt, was an unstable situation I didn't dare expose my children to. Overtime, I found myself for many years sitting on the sidelines, meeting and dating no one.

I'm certain that many middle-aged people, both women and men, have found themselves in somewhat of a similar situation. Whether due to a divorce, widowed, or have purposely stayed out of the dating scene for whatever reason, you may now be wondering if romance can ever be a reality for you. Well, it can be. You can date and find love at any age.

If you've found yourself back in the game and you're not quite sure how the game is currently being played, relax. Understand that the best way to place yourself back out into the market is to begin from right where you are. And since experience has pretty much helped you to understand the type of man or woman you'd want in your life - you, my friend, is very much ahead of the game.

Dating can be easy and fun
Dating can be easy and fun | Source

1. Make Dating Care-Free, Stress-Free, and Fun

Unlike it was in your hay-day when you seemed to have that knack for looking for love in all the wrong places, you are much more maturer now. A well-seasoned individual knows what is desired and can exert a lot more patience when it comes to waiting for the right person to come along. You're not into settling for just anyone for the sake of laying claim to a relationship status, but you're also open to an array of wonderful and endless possibilities. Set out to make your dating experience care-free, stress-free, and fun. Make a list, whether it be mental or on paper, of the attributes you'd like your mate to have. Remember! Start from right where you are. It's not about competing against others to get the woman or man you desire. It is simply about accepting who you are, flaws and all, and knowing what you want!

Be yourself when dating
Be yourself when dating | Source

2. Continue Doing the Things You Love to Meet Your Princess or Prince Charming

Finding that special someone does not require you to go out of your way doing the bizarre, or even doing something you loathe. You can meet that special someone by just simply being yourself. If you're a nature-lover and you spend a lot a time in the park because you enjoy the fresh air and beautiful scenery, by all means continue doing the things you love to meet your princess or prince charming. Chances are he or she is enjoying the scenery, too! However, do mix it up and expand your options. Try going to a different park, or a conservatory for a change of pace. The point is you don't want to meet someone at a place you're not accustomed to going, or have absolutely no interest. Meeting someone under false pretenses such as meeting them in a bar when you're not really into the bar scene is a definite recipe for disaster in the long run.

Take a class as a first date
Take a class as a first date | Source

3. Feeling Stuck? Join a Club or Take a Class

Venturing out of your comfort zone can be a healthy way to learning more about who you really are. If you were anything like I was, my days and nights were spent working and caring for others so I didn't have a lot of time to cater to my own wants and needs. I have always loved to read so when I found myself with the extra time to lose myself in the written word, I sought out a book club catered around my literary interests. If you're feeling stuck and you need a change, join a club or take a class that you know will keep you highly interested as well as encourage you to grow. Exposing yourself to different activities is a great way to exposing yourself to different people and experiences.

Know you deserve someone special
Know you deserve someone special | Source

This applies to all you 40+ grown and sexy indivduals, too!

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More Tips on How to Meet People While Starting Right Where You Are

  • Everyone has to eat. The grocery store is always an ideal place to meet new people. If you have a Whole Foods Market in your area, check out their social section for meet and greet times. Often on the weekends they will have wine, beer, food, and people who are ready to mingle.
  • Into Do-it-Yourself projects? Places that specialize in home improvement and gardeningideas are great for meeting men and women who are single.

Coffee shops are awesome places to meet new people, and for first dates.
Coffee shops are awesome places to meet new people, and for first dates. | Source
  • Coffee Shops are excellent places to hang out with friends to just shoot the breeze and to also see who's available.
  • Meetup.com usually lists local events for different age groups and interests.
  • OurTime.com is a dating site for mature 50+ individuals looking to find that special someone.

Let's truly be honest here. Where you are mentally and emotionally determines the type of person you will attract in your life. If you want someone ambitious and successful then you, too, must emulate these same qualities. In order for you to attract the man or woman of your dreams, you must become a vibrational match to what you desire in a mate. To invest in your own personal growth is the first natural step to finding that perfect reflection you want to see. So, have fun creating the best version of who you really are. Who knows, you just may find him or her along the way.

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Thank you, YogaKat. I truly appreciate you reading my article and commenting. :)

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      YogaKat 3 years ago from Oahu Hawaii

      Well written and informative - tip number 2 hits the nail on the head. Meet your soul mate while loving very minute of each day doing what you love!

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Thank you so very much Teasuresofheaven. Your comments here really do mean a lot coming from such a professional as yourself. Very encouraging.

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      Sima Ballinger 3 years ago from Michigan

      You are making a great start and good impression here thus far. I enjoyed this article and your writing. You gave some good information in a non-threatening way. This article can help lots of people. Voted UP and Useful!

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Thank you, I know I was when re-entering

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Well thank you, wilderness. Really means a lot coming ftom a pro such as you.

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      Dan Harmon 3 years ago from Boise, Idaho

      Not a subject I have a use for (happily married for 38 years) but a very well written first hub. Well written, interesting, and valuable information. I suspect you will go far here.

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Thank you very much word55

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      Adrienne Lea Daniels 3 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

      Yes, Katrina Speights. I know I was.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Hey now that's what I be talkin' About. Way to go Adrianne :-)

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      Katrina Simpson 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Great read, you shared several useful tips for jumping back into the dating scene.

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      Katrina 3 years ago from Texas

      Good read, I think many people tend to be overwhelmed when re-entering the dating world.