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Dating in Indian Culture - The Truth

Updated on August 18, 2013

Does dating exist in India? The answer would be Yes. However, does dating exist in India as it does in other Western Countries? Well, the answer would be a clear “No.” In Western countries, dating is encouraged from the teenage years itself so that one can find the best possible match. Spending some time with each other, traveling together, visiting each other’s homes, and living in with each other for years and even having kids before they take the important decision of marrying each other – all these form a part of the dating routine there. If this is dating, then it is evident that India has a long way to streamline this into its culture

In fact, it can be said that the concept of dating in Indian culture takes an altogether different meaning. Contrary to the Western world, parents form an integral part of the “Indian dating” process. Here, culture, caste, religion and the level of education are some of the important deciding factors in a relationship that should end in marriage.

Parents are important!

Earlier, parents were given the responsibility to find the best match for their children. They consider the financial status, education and most importantly the religion and caste of the prospective brides and grooms before “rounding off” the right one. Many a time, the marriage is fixed (say, engaged) even when the bride or groom are kids so that they grow up and then enter into the relationship of marriage. This is a very contrasting practice to what happens in Western countries.

Even though there have been significant advances in the living style, most of the youngsters would still want their parents’ blessings before they enter marital life. However, there have been an increasing number of cases wherein there are couples who decide to tie the knot without bothering about the caste, religion or the expectations of their parents– many a time, the parents never accept them back into their lives and it is considered as a crime or as an act of embarrassment.

Nowadays, there have been considerable changes at the Indian dating front. Parents are liberal regarding permitting youngsters to date whom they like. But still a large number of youngsters seek their parent’s opinion before they date someone or would want to marry someone

Notably, in metropolitan cities, where the life is too busy, marriages between individuals from different castes a religions does not create as much news or furore as that in villages. This is a sign that Indians ready to accept and are welcoming changes in their lives. Whatever is the end result, the acceptance and permission of parents is still an unavoidable aspect in dating and marriages.

Arranged Marriage/Indian Dating

Does caste matter?

Even though many of us would like to say that caste does not matter, a relation that ends in marriage also involves two families on the way. Many a time, when the bride and
groom are from two different religions, their compatibility may be affected to some extent, but not every time. For instant, if the woman is from a very ritualistic Hindu family, then she might not be prepared to face the surprises in a Christian family if she is planning to date a Christian.

However, this does not mean that there are no inter-caste or inter-religion marriages at all in India. Many times, especially in rural areas, it is sad that people look down upon such relationships and this very factor programs their minds to the concept that dating “out of the box” is risky. In such cases, one prefers to stick by traditions by choosing the match from within their group.

Is this Dating?

Before even the girl and boy see each other, the elders decide. Engagement is a function like marriage. Many people tend to get the marriage function conducted within a short period of time from the engagement. Most of the couples fall in love with each other after this arranged marriage. Strangely, there are marriages wherein the girl and boy see each other only on the day of marriage. Apparently, this is how dating supposed to work in India traditionally.

Nowadays, parents give the freedom to youngsters to date and find their match. However, this does not mean that they can date as many as they want before they enter marriage. The increase in the number of matrimonial websites and Indian dating sites proves the fact that dating is slowly becoming a part of the Indian culture. Metropolitan cities have started to whole heartedly welcome couples who want to date and live in. All these show that dating do exist in India; however, it is yet to be accepted completely into the society as that in Western countries.


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      6 years ago

      met me

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      6 years ago

      I think that parent should just let there teens find that right guy/girl and not just pick the guy/girl for them

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      7 years ago

      ONE THING I would like TO bring all of your ATTENTION is that:

      Indian arranged marriages are based of family oriented(permanent basis) not temporary basis so being said that If anything happens wrong Females are stills afe because Boys doesn't loose anything but girl first looses virginity which is a pure thing to keep or save it for her husband. If you sleep around everywhere and finally marry what did u save it .

      I like western culture with one back step is do not have sex until u r clear with a guy or girl whether they r jerk or real actor or she is bad or behind u r money. Because if a girls sleeps for sex any dog will act like he is good bcos that is the way this world is.

      One more thing Indian marriages are based of off how the previous generation of the same family both from Boy and girl are whether they are cheap or whether they very traditional with strings attached like today we see most of the time that is the reason divorce rate is so high.

      But consider world's second pouplated country India has less divorce rate than anybody in the world.

      Arranged marriages are not forcebly or parents are not forcing you to marry only that girl or boy but it is just an openion they will ask the Boy and girl before they get into legal marriages whether they both aggree and like each other if either of them won't then the marriage proposal will stop at that point and go to next oppurtunity.

      It is just like a dating except the Girls are sacred and precious to their real long time better half that is the reason they will have good bonding this way First time they r having sex in their life and whole anbody is uniting first time.

      Think about a Girl/Boy sleeping with everybody they like then if you marry what kind relation is that when compared to HOOKERs/Escorts/Dating service.

      Thanks please do not misunderstand think deeply you will see the truth and find the precious things As per survey held in 2012 (USA) 90% of the Girls in the age between(18-29) who look beautyfull will involve in escort/some other sexual buisiness so they don't wanna marry at this time unless they really find a nice sugar daddy that is not really western culture it was different but it changed.

      So I support whole entire universe should follow Indian concept of arranged marriage with both girl n boy aggree to marry each other.

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      suzanne sharma 

      7 years ago

      I am married to a india and hate the fact that it cant be know in India where he lives as his family would not approve of me. So he is moving to South Africa to live with me, we Love each other and met each other on Face Book, he came to S-A and we got married, we have our differences but are happy,as we love each other.

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      7 years ago

      indians are prejuduce aka racist people u cant get an indian girl if your not indian its their religion i got chased out of a house once by a girl i was seeing that was indian descent by her father never to see her again straight up trash people and racist of the world. tell me wrong

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      masala tea 

      7 years ago

      I think this is a bit dated really. Indian cities are sometimes similar with dating than any western city. I have friends who have travelled to India and come back to tell me that Indians are sometimes more promiscuous and open than their western counterparts-

      though these survive exclusively as tiny impenetrable pockets. I lived in with a guy in Mumbai and it was totally cool with my conservative Muslim landlady, though we had to tweak a few facts back in 2006. Coming up with the story was soo much fun :)

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      8 years ago

      I'm a little bummed about the fact that this has less to do with dating and more with dating being a precursor to marriage :/ What the hell, man? (*And yeah, I'm Indian. A very confused 19-year old Indian who doesn't understand why dating a guy ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY MUST entail being friends with his entire friend circle. I know how nice it is, but come on!)

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      8 years ago

      grt reading it helps deciding our personal wives

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      9 years ago

      Facinating comparison, although i see the cultural blend increasing in the years to come

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      9 years ago

      really nice hub, and your opinion is very correct.

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      9 years ago

      The video in this article is really funny!

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      harun fypsl 

      9 years ago from mymensingh,bangladesh

      its nice, thanks....

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      9 years ago

      I agree with the last comment that our happiness is our responsibility weather other people like our decisions or not. Willing to "settle" is not always the right answer.

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      Guillermo Ramon 

      9 years ago from Miami

      I am originally from Spain. I know how dateless marriages work through stories from the older members in my family. Their stories precede the Ford T and are similar to what you would expect now in India or other countries in the east and middle east.

      My Grand parents only saw each other once before their wedding day. However, the moment my grandfather saw my grandmother, he fell in love (or lust) with her. My grand mother never answered when I asked her about the moment in which she fell in love with my grand father. But she did tell me that she was very happy to get married because she was already over 20 when she got married.

      When I was a teenager, my grand parents were already in their 50s. They were already old and defeated by life. They hated each other and had no happiness together. But they stayed married into their 80s, when they died.

      Yeah! In that type of society there were no divorces. People married whoever they were told to marry and stayed together till they died. They did have moments of happiness. My grand parents could not wait for the summers, when we would spend two months with them. But their happiness did not come from each other.

      I have lived in the USA for 35 years. I dated a lot and married twice. My first marriage was a mistake. I corrected it. Now, I have been married for 23 years and am happy with my wife. My happiness comes from her, my job, and my life in general. I would not change my life for my grandparents' lives. In our world, our happiness is our responsibility and is a direct consequence of our decisions. I like it that way!

      I am sure many people in India would get divorces if they could. But I am sure divorced people, especially divorced women are ostresized. The truth is that my grand parents claimed that they hated our generation's dating culture. But in their hearts, they wished they had lived like us.

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      10 years ago from Australia

      Hi from Australia, it was great to read about the Dating Culture in India, thanks.

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      10 years ago

      hey i m 25yrs old.. any woman willing to date with me???

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      10 years ago

      Very good. I like it

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      10 years ago

      i dont think caste matter in india any more. in big cities every thing is live in.

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      10 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      Marriage in the US most often ends in divorce - or hardships all through the marriage. I would never tell someone from another culture that the American way is the best way. Nor do I think teenagers should be encouraged to date. If I had listened to my parents I would have had a better life all around - but nooooo! Teenagers truly know nothing! No adult goes to a teenager for advice.

      We've been sold this Hollywood fairytale of love and marriage but we need a far more serious look at the person we are going to live with and have children with and it certainly helps to have the wisdom of the elders looking out for us.

      Thanks for this hub!

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      Cory Zacharia 

      10 years ago from Miami Beach, Florida

      Very interesting, SunSeven. Always marveled at how two young people who hardly knew each other could enter into marriage, but it stands to reason that having the parents' and families' approval definitely contributes to the relationship's success. As an aside, when I married my first husband (in the U.S.) he and my father, may he rest in peace, only met the day before the wedding. As it turned out, they didn't hit it off at all and our family get togethers were quite awkward. Only years later did I realize how disrespectful it was to not have gotten my father's blessing. If we had, I think I would have received a lot more moral support!

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      Julie-Ann Amos 

      10 years ago from Gloucestershire, UK

      Yes, interesting. I do a lot of dating website reviews and some are Indian sites but not many

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      10 years ago

      Very interesting, thank you.

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      Ria Bridges 

      10 years ago from Saint John, New Brunswick, Canada

      Interesting. Cultural comparisons are always fascinating to me, and I enjoy it when they're presented in a way that shows them as being just as valid as other systems.


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