Days You're Most Likely to Have a Break Up
If you've ever broken up, what time of year did it happen?
Introduction: Goodbye to Sweet Romance
For those of you wandering if you and your honey are headed toward impending doom (or if you're the type that's stalking someone and trying to predict when they're about to break) then you're at the right place. I've got some pointers for you, and first we'll go into which days and times of the year are the most sourpuss for you.
The First 3 Months of Your New Adventure
The first three months of a relationship are the most likely time when you'll break up.
If you make it past this, you have accomplished some sort of milestone. Over half of the relationships in this period break up.
First 6 Months -- We Survived!
And if you're lucky to make it pass 3 months, the next goal is 6 months. A lot of relationships do not pan out this long. If you make it this long -- you'll probably be dating for a couple of years, and if you're not engaged by a certain point... then expect the battle axe. If these first few months have not been shiny and happy and adorable, your odds are against you. Put in as much shoe polish as you can -- and try to live up to that mark for the remainder of your relationship. People are getting smart about people creating illusions at the beginning of relationships, so if you're not going to keep up the momentum, a smart person is likely to cut you from their life. Apathetic, not-going-anywhere relationships are unnecessary for many.
January -- The Tax Collector
After all the warmth of spending the holidays together, sometimes the break up ax is ready to split your relationship. Starting around Halloween and progressively more so around Thanksgiving and Christmas, people put off relationships so as not to be the bad guy breaking up around the holidays. Lots of people don't want to be alone during the holiday party season. Sometimes people would rather cherish the happy memories of the season, and let January take its natural course to let reality tell the truth. If you break up in January, it is likely that your partner was thinking about it months prior. January is the official month for having the most break ups of the year. When the new year's resolutions start, sometimes what people really desire is a clean break from a relationship that is not working.
Right before spring break and into April, one of the most prominent times that couples break up is during the early parts of spring. It may be a taste of spring cleaning getting into your relationship, or it may just be that with the seasonal change, you guys are going on separate paths. Unlike fall, which is the most steady time of the year for a relationship, with spring comes the changing of classes, maybe graduating, vacations, the start of the wedding season, and looking for perhaps a new lease on where to live. Spring by its nature is a cause for change. Sometimes in that change it becomes easy to also cut your losses with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If things have been kind of bland in the winter and you've only been dating for a short, sweet adorable time, don't be surprised by the distancing of your boo -- and then them jumping into a wild spring break plan whether New Orleans, Panama City, or the Bahamas.
It's easier to break in spring when people are more in the swing of their goals like toning up their body or doing yard work. If you've honestly had a boring relationship -- this is probably a good time to say your goodbyes.
Yes, Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day is really the grim reaper's holiday for love. Those who pass the test may find their relationship growing with new found intimacy. Those who didn't do so hot in Valentine's Day... well you may be on a roller coaster ride that ends in spring -- with spring cleaning, of course. A lot of people don't care for the holiday, but sometimes it gives awareness to one's relationship -- the lack of commitment, how boring it's gotten, the lack of romance, the lack of affection, the lack of time spent, the lack of money... Valentine's Day can be hectic on top of all that. Getting the right events in order is somewhat like winning the lottery. In most cases, it probably doesn't matter if you're Valentine's Day was sucky and uneventful -- but in some cases -- it's the cherry on top and enough of a disaster to give a resignation notice.
Another Reason to Hate Mondays
It was a great weekend, and now let's be honest, let's not spend another weekend together. Mondays are often loathed in the workforce because getting back into the swing of it when you found yourself over the weekend truly sucks. It's also on record the most likely day of the week that your relationship buddy is going to drop the bomb, use the work week to distract themselves into a lala land of business. The key here? Make your weekends work in your favor. You need to spend time in your off time with your significant other. If you're not including them enough in your fun diet, then they'll probably cut their loses. Usually people don't break up on the fly -- that's usually under circumstances that are dramatic, like cheating. People build up to breaking up, usually like building up to being in a relationship. When someone is ready to take an axe to the relationship, they'll think ahead about when is the appropriate time. If their nice, they'll think about when would be appropriate for you -- but most likely, they'll be concentrating on their schedule. Monday is smart. Monday won't ruin your weekend. Monday gives you enough time to come up with a fresh coming weekend.
Sometimes... people take it a little too far. The thing about April Fool's is that sometimes people use a sarcastic joke to tell the truth. A little fun at someone's own expense could unravel the mysteries of a relationship. Also, April's Fool's is in spring and that diverging of paths effect, and this holiday can help shake some leaves off the tree. If you're cruel -- plan in advance how you want to come up with a creative break up. If you're really just wanting to have fun and see if your love is game for your sense of humor -- try now while you can. Don't go too far with April Fool's, like telling people someone is dead or in a horrific car accident.
Now that you've cleaned out the idiot from spring, you may be living summer single -- tanning in the sun and going on a real solid vacation. Summer is the strangest part of the year. It's about 3 months off from the rest of the regular cycle. Usually jobs are not as intensive, school is out, and the weather conditions are not as big of a hassle. This makes for a strange time to date someone. If you want to buckle down with someone seriously -- wait till September. The June and July months usually signal a summer fling that won't hold water when fall comes, especially if you're going back to school, in a temporary vacation plan, etc. Summer flings can, and often do, turn into serious relationships. But be warned, lots of them are more about the fleeting season. Summer is great for weddings and anniversaries -- it's terrible to start relationships then.
Only the most cruel people break up on Christmas day. People are more likely to break up at the start of a winter holiday, but the actual day itself -- it's just too mean. It's actually the least likely day of the entire calendar year to break up with someone. Now, anytime there's a change in the year where people have vacations and can break away, that does signal a good time to break up. The middle of December is more likely for change than the end of it. People want to celebrate holidays with someone. If they don't want to spend money on you for a gift -- then they'll break up sooner.
Graduation is an amazing time of fulfilling something academic. Unfortunately, it can also mean that someone is moving to another part of the world, and is moving on from you. Graduation is a definite clear indicator that the seasons are about to change. Someone may have to move to get a job or get more schooling. This may mean that if your relationship isn't so sparkly, that it'll be time to say goodbye. A lot of people don't like to move into a long distance relationship. Sure, many will do it -- especially if they're happy and love their partner.
7 Year Itch
Marriage relationships have all other cycles. From the empty nest stage, honeymooning, blah, blah, blah. Somewhere between 5 to 10 years in a marriage is when things get rocky. A lot of crap will start to happen from financial issues, having kids, your parents dying. There will be thin times in a marriage, and those who are strong will survive and likely continue to survive. Gray marriages (one's that break up after 20+ years) are unusual, even though they happen. Don't put off your relationship if it's going bad at the 7 year itch mark. Seek therapy, seek fun time, and maybe cut out some extracurricular things you do, like spin class and working on your car.