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Dealing With A Guy Who is Ashamed of You

Updated on November 23, 2015

Have you ever dated a guy who seemed to really like you but yet at the same time he was ashamed of you? He would give you signals that he likes you and want to see you for Valentine's Day and maybe even his co-workers told you that he was into you. Then when someone else asked if you were dating he said no or when you take a selfie with him he untags himself so it's not on his Facebook profile.

If a guy feels then need to hide you then you do not want to be with that guy. A guy should be proud that he knows you. He should feel lucky to be with you and show the world that you are his. There is no need to hide you. If he feels that he has to hide you than that is not the kind of guy who you want to be with.

There are a million guys in the world. Of course this guy may mean a lot to you but if he is making you stressed is it really worth it? Why would you want to be with someone who keeps you some sort of secret? If you have enough confidence you will know that you deserve better. It may be tough to walk away if you really love him and the feelings may still be there after you do but there will be a guy who will be proud of you so go looking for him instead of being with a guy who feels the need to hide you.

You do not deserve to be with someone who makes you feel as if they have to hide you. You deserve to be with someone who will brag about you. You deserve to be with someone who introduces you to everyone he knows.

It may hurt now but you will be better off in the long run. You deserve to be someone's one and only unless all you are looking for is fun. You deserve for someone to worship the ground you walk on and treat you like a princess.

Love yourself and know your worth. Know that you are worthy of being treated right. Do not allow yourself to be a booty call and be kept in secret. You deserve better. Do not let a guy sweet talking you until you agree into doing that. If you want a relationship than do not settle for anything less. If he will not commit then move on to a guy who will commit to you.

Good guys are out there. You do not have to settle. You do not have to keep on dealing with heart ache and crying every single day. If you are not meeting new guys then maybe it is your environment. Maybe you should try going to new places. When you go to local places it is a lot of the same people. Online it is hard to find a good guy especially the free dating sites. Dating sites like OkCupid and Tinder are mainly just hookup sites. So if you are looking for a real relationship you might want to look elsewhere.

Do not change who you are. One day the right guy will come along and respect you. Why keep wasting all your energy on a guy who is only going to bring you down? Yes you might love him and you might have had good times in the past. You might even miss the way he looked at you and want to rekindle something. All of that is not worth the pain. If you want happiness then try looking for happiness with someone new. Someone who could give you the world and is proud of you.

When you deal with a guy like that the best thing to do is walk away no matter how hard it is. Dust yourself off and put yourself out there. Sooner or later you will meet someone new. There is a right person for everyone. Unfortunately before finding Mr. Right you have to go through a lot of bad boyfriends. Do not give up because things happen when you least expect them. Always keep a positive attitude and never settle to get disrespected or be someone's secret.


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      Good advice!

      "If a guy feels then need to hide you then you do not want to be with that guy." - This very true! (He's not into you). Ultimately it's not about him.

      Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself.

      People with high self-esteem have their own boundaries and "deal breakers".

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      If someone acts "ashamed of you" they don't see you as being "special".

    • livingelysian profile image

      Elysia Valdivia 

      3 years ago from Loveland, Colorado

      I love this. It is so painfully true. I have experienced this unfortunately, yet fortunately. These are the lessons we get to learn from, and when we do learn from them, we teach others how to treat us. Thank you.


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